KNOW I LOVE YOU - TOO
Posted on 04/21/2012 12:42:50 AM PDT by mamelukesabre
I am a middle aged single guy with no ex wives and no kids. I've never been married and never knocked up no one. For the last 12 years I've been trying hard to find that perfect someone. You may remember me having threads on this very same topic. I recently had a couple of relationships with young asian girls and posted about it...only to have those threads yanked by the FR mods.
The asian girlfriend I broke up with and posted about is still around but we don't get along that well anymore. I found another asian girl younger than her but she is no longer in the picture. She decided I was too old. She probably had a point since she was only 26. Please see my previous threads about my physical fitness. I have been working my ass off to look 15 years younger than my age and I think I have pulled it off except for baldness.
Tonight I met a new girl and I am already in love. There is just one problem. She is a 20 year old law student from Estonia. She is short and chubby and wears very thick glasses. She is very old for her age if you know what I mean. I spent the evening dancing with and drinking with her friends.
We've already made arrangements for the future. I know I am a complete idiot. I can't help it. I will be working out extra hard now and suffering more from tendonitis than I ever have in my life.
I actually wish I really was making this up.
Flame away
So, how far are you from Richmond VA? lol
I am in my 25th year of a fairly happy marriage and I just want to tell you that you are going about this all wrong. There is no "perfect" woman out there (nor is there a "perfect" man). Also, trying to meet women online or from magazine ads, whatever, is like playing the slot machines in Vegas. You might hit a jackpot every once in a while but most times, you go home a loser.
I also highly recommend against dating a woman that is significantly younger than you. It cannot end well. If she's not a gold digger who will deplete your life savings, leaving you high and dry (and once again alone), than she will not be happy seeing you grow old when she is still young enough to go out on the town and do things that younger folks like to do. Eventually she will come to regret her choice and you will get hurt one way or the other.
Not sure exactly how old you are but I'm close to 50 and I see a lot of women at that age who are available and would make good mates. If I were not married myself, I would have little difficulty establishing relationships with them.
So stick with women in your own age group. Start out slow. Keep your expectations in check. Give the relationship a chance to get off on the right foot. Go out to dinner or a movie a couple times a week at first. Stay in the "casual dating" mode for at least six months before any talk of a long-term relationship. That means no shacking up or sleepovers. At the end of the night, you go to your place and have her go back to hers. You definitely want to start out as "friends" first and let things slowly develop.
If you find yourselves getting in arguments, end the relationship then and there. I find that couples that argue and fight with each other in the dating stage are doomed to failed marriages later on. My wife and I dated for two years and never had a major fight. That's when we know the marriage had a good chance of being successful. Make sure your political views are somewhat in line with each other as well. My wife is not as politically active as I am but she is as conservative in her views as I and we raised pretty decent kids as a result.
Also, we are pretty much equals. That is another key to a successful relationship. Neither of us have the "my way or the highway" approach. If we are both not on board together, whatever it is one of us wanted doesn't happen. That means that I have to have less of an ego but on the other hand, my wife has to step up a little and not expect me to take the lead on everything.
Well good luck and I hope things end up well.
There is a 100% correlation coefficient on this
Drop the Subject
Cease to Seek after Happiness
Do what must be Done
In Time, Joy may Find You
I am 35, and my wife is 14 months older then me. I’ve been with her since I was 14, we have 2 kids. I love her, but I can’t stand to be around her anymore, but losing her would be like losing my right arm.
I fantasise about being in your situation, you can keep all your earning, do whatever you want to do, and have as many friends as you like. You don’t have to answer to anyone. Mate, your free as a bird!
If I had it to do all over again, I’d be like you, middle age, no wife, no kids, and no worries.
Refreshing honesty.
KNOW I LOVE YOU - TOO
And yes,if you check current immigration law a foreign woman can do *exactly* what's described in scenario #2.
“Refreshing honesty.”
And a cast iron skillet upside the head if she ever sees that post.
:)
Long may you rock 'n roll together. :)
As my old, dear dad used to say *A man is not old as long as he is learning something new, seeking something.*
Here's a clue....you will NEVER find the "perfect" someone....
A real relationship takes work and compromise to make it work...
My expertise....Married 32 years...same woman...who was never perfect but still the love of my life...because I choose to love her...
How right you are!
Borrowed from Kimo’s Rules
Goals are deceptive - the unaimed arrow never misses
“*A man is not old as long as he is learning something new, seeking something.*”
Do not *ever* say that out loud at a biker party.
;D
WHy are you so locked in to the twenty somethings?
The first clue should be that you think love happens instantaneously. Your lack of maturity has probably driven off women of your own age who would be a far better match. Moreover your effort to look 15 yrs younger says you have some serious personal problems.
Good luck. I doubt you will find what you are looking for since shallowness is unattractive after about 5 mins.
May a Sith Lord administer to you a cosmic enema with a barbed nozzle for posting such images.
LOL!
perfect answer
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