Just a theory I'm throwing out there.
Posted on 04/26/2017 6:18:53 AM PDT by BJ1
Fast forward to my 38th birthday. I was still single, and the world of dating had changed significantly in the last eight years. Tinder and Bumble, the dominant dating apps, offered countless options for single men and women, but made the experience of dating entirely impersonal.
Dating amounted to small talk with a stranger, who you had briefly interfaced with online because you each thought the other attractive. The small talk was a prelude to hooking up, and there were no expectations even of a text the next day.
It was brutal. And after trying my hand at it, I was no closer to finding the love of my life or starting a family. If I needed statistics to back me up, I had them. In 2014, marriage was on the decline, as was the fertility rate in the United States.
I had one real option left -- and that was to attempt to get pregnant alone.
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Yes. I agree. Marry young.
That way, when the inevitable divorce finalizes, you’ll still have a long life ahead of you and decades to regain your financial footing.
We only know her side of the story. Why was she allegedly rejected by the men she dated? Is she one of these high maintenance females?? Is she one of these nervous high strung g professional career women who are hard to deal with in their personal lives because they behave in their personal lives they way they do in their high powered professional career?
Is she so picky about men that she’s not being g honest with us; that she is the one who rejected them??
How does she really believe so much in traditional family values and all that, and still decide to intentionally have children out of wedlock?? This sounds like a staggering contradiction.
Tell that to guys: they should be married at 22. Most of them would run for the hills. Most men have to be lasso’ed into getting married and then, as an old friend once said, rebuilt and refurbished like a used car.
I have heard stories of Korea in the 40’s and 50’s where the people were forced to pickup dog poop, soak it in water and separate out the undigested bits. Then they would make soup with the undigested bits.
You ask the question...”Do you guys think her choice was okay?”
I would ask you, do you think these Koreans choice was o.k.?
Sometimes the best choice isn’t a good choice.
This woman existed in a time where sex was cheap, relationships were disposable and women gave away their power.
Having been married 18 years and divorced, I see exactly what she is talking about with social media dating, it is brutal, and not the way to meet someone. Church, social activities, and grocery stores. One big problem is few in church, old folks are about it
I will not judge her other than I feel little sad, kids are a wonderful experience and when you have a family it is a good life, lots of problems. It is hard work.
Thinking the same thing. I have a niece that is pregnant. Everyone in the family agrees that the child is basically going to be a hairless puppy. We all are very sad for the baby.
Regarding the woman in the piece, if she sees herself as unlovable by any man, she should be more introspective and figure out why she is unlovable. Perhaps she will realize that her reason for having a child is extremely selfish and narcissistic and she is not really fit to be a mother.
In the case of my niece, her mother is a bipolar psychopath (I mean that clinically) and she is nearly a clone of her mother. The baby is her way (she thinks) of having someone who will have to love her, no matter what. The father, a man she knew about a month before getting pregnant, has put her up in an apartment because he can’t stand to have her around.
A country where over 40% of it’s children are born out of wedlock and where it is not identified as the major problem by the elites and society deserves to fail.
Just a theory I'm throwing out there.
I married late & had a kid late..don’t regret it one bit.
Things happen for a reason and not everyone on the same life path.
This woman literally has dozens of options for seeking her so-called life’s fulfillment with a child.
She could volunteer, mentor, at school, church, Big Sisters, sponsorship, etc.
The opportunities are there to impact a child’s life TODAY instead of going the “dump them in daycare 10 hours a day 5 days a week route”.
The satisfaction of guiding, teaching or helping a child with advice, a skill or just plain companionship is priceless.
She needs to open her eyes and stop feeling sorry for herself.
There are kids out there who are alone, rudderless and in need of guidance and caring.
Given the state of family court, the ease with which a woman can claim you harmed your child, and the expectation of women that they can contribute nothing more than a second paycheck to a marriage, how can this be men’s fault?
US women are the only group in history with the legal right to kill their own children. Men have zero say about their children. Women can be front line infantry troops on one hand, and claim they are somehow at a physical disadvantage in a marriage.
Never before have women had so much power, and if marriage is going to change, women have to cross their legs, decide raising children is more important than advancing their career, and stop looking at men as a business plan.
What I’ve noticed about women is they are very excited about the baby phase, not so much about the part where the babies develop their own personalities.
But hey, absolutely. Never have men had so little power, but suddenly now the idea is we put our foot down, treat women with respect (a tall order given they have zero self-respect), and somehow convince them marriage is a better way to go.
Here’s where robotics is going to be huge. Women can buy robots. You can change the personality and face plate so they can become the guy you want when you want it, are expert at home repair, and excrete hundred dollar bills. Penis size is variable, has fingers on the end, and vibrates. Same is true with their tongues.
Sperm, pick it up on Amazon.
Before long the entire process will go the way of the Matrix, and women might finally be happy.
Oh, wait. Women are never happy, because women never get to the point where they allow themselves to like themselves. Ever.
And that’s sad.
Conservatives need to bring back matchmaking to link up compatible people who are interested in marriage, not “fun” or “relationships” that won’t last.
See my post 30
Do I wish I would’ve had my son earlier, sure but that’s not the way things worked out..had several medical issues that delayed what we thought might never happen & we were ok with that.
He’s our miracle baby.
Well, I definitely believe to each his own. I still believe youthful marriages are the best for children but I got married later as well.
My views on this have changed substantially over the years. I no longer think it best to wait. Traditionally “love” had very little to do with it. Young people (or their parents) decided that a match was “close enough,” vows to each other and to God were made, and then a household was established. BOTH people worked to make a go of it, often in sexually differentiated roles. Kids came. Family grew. 20 years later the two people sometimes found that they were in love with one another.
Did it work all the time for the best? No. Did it work as well or better than what we have in this generation? I have come to believe it did. I am 66 and have been happily with the same woman for 46 years. I advised my kids to not get married early. They did anyway, and are happily married, doing well and have presented my wife and me with the loveliest grandchildren imaginable. I was wrong.
Just an FYI.....I married at 32 and had my only child at 35. He is the HUGE blessing in my and my husband’s life. I wasn’t able to have another child and, even though we are older grandparents (by previous standards), we revel in our role. Women were told we could have children into our 40’s, by the Feminists. It isn’t true. I figure anyone who can get pregnant and carry to term in their later years is lucky. BUT, having a child without a MOM AND DAD in the picture, is NOT FAIR to the child. Yes, my generation is totally selfish and the succceeding generations are worse. The last 8 years in this country have shoved our citizens into a disastrous situation. Our schools are no longer teaching critical thinking OR personal responsibility for actions. Pray for the future of our once great country.....and for Trump, as he tries mightily to right this behemoth ship.
How many times have you been married, lol? Bitter, much?!
Gee why would men not want to have kids with a woman whose entire life story says kids are not a priority for her?
No, I don't think her choice is okay. The most natural and superior family unit has a father and a mother. Deliberately creating "mother only" family units is harmful (at least risky) to the child's emotional development. But she only cares about herself.
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