Posted on 12/02/2017 4:41:55 AM PST by Kartographer
Holden Bridges’ father flagged down a fire truck to ask if they could come to the party after none of Holden’s classmates came
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“Something in my eyes,
you know it happens every time...”
I hated throwing birthday parties. once my girls turned 10 I stopped all birthday parties. Too much pressure and expense. those parties always brought out the worst in parents and classmates.
“Forcing children to attend a party for someone they don’t like...”
I see your point but using a teaching moment is a great way to show your child what it is to be a Christian. I “forced” my child to attend a party for a new girl that no one knew or liked (to be fair, she was a new kid in school for about 3 days). I asked my little one what would Jesus have done if He had been invited to a party that no one else may show up to? “Okay, Mommy, He would go and be nice because it only lasts 3 hours”. I stayed at the party and the ones who did go... had a fabulous time. I guess my point is that parents have many, many opportunities to teach their kids how to be kind... and many choose not to use the opportunity.
If they won’t come to your party, they were never your friends and never will be.
More times than not, I’ve noticed the exact opposite.
Do you teach your kids to be kind, considerate and respectful of those who struggle with developmental or physical disabilities ???
Walk a mile in our moccassins and then you might think differently.
Our kids have each had one friend birthday party. We originally said it could be on their golden birthday but instead it’s just been a year that they had a great group of friends they wanted over. Our oldest was in lower elementary, the others were a bit older. The youngest kids haven’t had a friend party yet, just a family celebration (not even extended family). They get to pick the meal, I bake a cake and they open their one gift.
It makes it easy for me and is far less pressure on them. Being homeschooled probably makes a difference. You never hear other kids talking about parties, even though there’s about 100 kids in our co-op, so you don’t feel left out. My kids go to parties for their closest friends (no one has a party every year) and it’s always low key.
May God bless them and may the be secure in the knowledge that He will not forget their kindness.
“(the unpopular kids are self centered) brats”
You misspelled `autistics’.
I love this sort of feel good story. The fire department people went out of their way to get presents and be good guys. They should be as proud of themselves as we are of them. That boy is going to have a wonderful memory to take into adulthood thanks to a father who made a split second decision that worked. Thanks for posting.
That’s why strong nuclear families are a must, and need to be encouraged again.
Don’t get me started on “Thank You’s”....even a text THANK YOU would be nice...finally got the message and stopped sending gifts to people who never acknowledged them. I don’t need a gushing written card...but, to at least BE ASSURED they RECEIVED THE gift would be nice.
When my daughter was in high school around 2005, a boy in her class had a birthday party. His mom rented an entire laser tag arena.
One girl showed up. No one else. I didn't know the kid, but to this day that just kills me.
Today's tradition, which I dislike, is to provide bags of goodies for the party attendees as if they should "get" something because being there and getting cake isn't enough.
A hole parents. This is why kids often do BETTER in separate special needs classrooms. My son was in a highly functioning special class at his elementary school and that place was fun. They had one awesome teacher, and three awesome aides, They had a blast in there and everyone had differences so they were great friends. And as they grew older they interacted a lot with the neurotypical kids who were interested in volunteering and even being real friends with our kids. It works out way better than sending your special needs child into a classroom where he is the weird one.
Still, those parentsSUCKED in this story and that family should switch schools, but first write an open letter SHAMING those other parents. I guess, this story about the wonderful firefighters kind of does that.
Thank you for answering that cold post so I don’t have to. Great response.
Customs are customs. Be creative within it. Have an activity at the party that provides its own take home treat. Like have them design a t shirt, bake a treat, make an art project.
He was awkward, and not always the best fit. Some what of a troublemaker because he didn’t know how to get attention, from what a teacher suggested to me confidently when I asked about him, but nothing that would warrant not showing up at his party, and not even calling with regrets. That’s just rude, and hurtful. I didn’t know much about him because he wasn’t a friend of my son’s. They had a large class so he probably got overlooked.
We received an invitation. That was back in the day when kids either brought them to school or mom mailed them. No phone calls or word of mouth. I’m sure she assumed they would show, RSVP usually is “regrets only”. No one called. Things like this make me sad, I always felt sorry for people even when I was very young. As an adult, I always tried to include the sub in our group in the lunchroom whether I was teaching or working as a secretary in a large company I worked for. It’s only common courtesy.
When my daughter, her friend and I pulled up to her house Lisa ran out overcome with joy. Her mom's eyes were filled with tears. She said, "We didn't think no body was coming."
The party was on the front porch. Lisa received identical Barbie dolls from her guests. The girls played with the dolls, chased each other around the yard, and ate homemade birthday cake. Everyone had a fine time.
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