Skip to comments.Daughter is Expecting Twins, Any Advice (Beeber Stunes Welcome)
Posted on 03/02/2011 8:55:31 PM PST by occamrzr06
My daughter is expecting twins. She has 28 day until she is 37 weeks. 42 weeks is full term. The DR wants her to go at least 37 weeks to allow for maximum development.
My questions is, what can we expect? Obviously, I/we've done the child raising thing, but not twins.
Any insight would be welcome.
“...Daughter is Expecting Twins...what can we expect?...
If she makes it thru the 1st 2-3 years, it gets a little better. You’ll have much joy............ for the rest, you have my condolences.
Any insight would be welcome.
twins means there’s gonna be two of them. Glad I could help.
Thanks. I’m not real bright, but I did figure that one. Thanks for the insight, you never can tell with some folk.
Advice: Buy two of everything
I am a twin, born 1944, Dad didn’t know until it happened when he was in the waiting room!
Be Happy, and pray for healthy children!
(Congrats from the proud gramma of 9 month-old boy-girl twins.)
Identical or fraternal?
Stay calm even when both of them are crying.
Keep in mind,they will grow out of that stage..
I am a twin. Let the twins be as close as they choose to be. My twin and I even had a secret language. Yes we grew out of it...
Don’t make em dress the same after about age 6...LOL
They are not the same personality even if they are identical twins.
Hire a trusted babysitter, and have time for Mom, grandma and all caretakers, separately and together.
Do mark their clothes and toys with their initial, when 2 and older, it will save many, many arguments.
Take time to relish in the awesome wonder of it. And thank God.
Double the work ... double the fun! I had boy and girl twins ... you just do everything twice! Enjoy. Mine are 40 years old now ... I made it!
Buy two of everything
I am sure she will be fine. Enjoy the double fun! Who needs sleep anyway?
Your family has been twice blessed !!!!!
congrats and congrats
Sweet irony, eh what?
Blessings on all!
Congrats! My daughter did not have twins but she found a ton of good/barely used/name brand baby clothes on Craigslist for a fraction of original cost. Same deal with car seats and other baby gear.
Well, since there are one of each, fraternal.
LOL, stay calm, serious? I’ve got a wife, a daughter, a 2 year old grand-daughter, twins on the way and 5 dogs.
The only benefit is I have 2 acres.
Thanks for the insight.
Sorry about your son Douglas-Jim from C-Town (((((Hugs)))))
We already scored a twin stroller, with the car seats that snap in to it on craigslist. I have sold so much stuff on craigslist the last month, damn, I think I sold one of the kids....
You new to buy a new computer so you can post pictures of both babies.
Mark one of their foreheads with a magic marker so you can tell them
apart. Otherwise, she might feed the same one over and over.
My daughter had twins.Line up a lot of help.We had a waiting list to help because we have a large family.Congrats.
That’s one tough baby. The other kids don’t even wait, they just hand him their bottles at daycare.
I am the proud grandmommy of identical twin boys, 6 yo. I don’t know how they did it!
Picture of them is on my homepage.
I need a new keyboard.
You need to buy..
Each will have a distinct personality. Don’t make the mistake of thinking they are a “pair”. Each is an individual.
Expect to have spit up stains on everything you own..
Expect to fall in love...
LOL, ones a boy the other is a girl.
Back yo my other statement about not being to bright. I think we’ll be able to figure them out.
Thanks for the hint if we can’t!
I figured 6 months of no sleep.
I spent 26 years in the Army, and I’ve slept on Howitzers during Fire Missions. I don’t think I’ll loose to much sleep. I may get punched a lot from my wife.
I’ve got 5 dogs (ones a Boxer) and a 2 year old granddaughter, I’ve already got spit up stains on everything I own.
Expect to fall in love? Too late!
Celebrate it with two of everything. They will turn to their own personalities when ready. Take them through adolescence then watch them branch out on their own. God Speed.
I read this exactly the way you meant it, completely missed the typo.
Drollest (amusingly odd or whimsically comical) post of the thread. : - )
Congratulations at this exciting time. My nephew and his young bride had fraternal twin daughters who were born too early. They kept the hospital schedule once everyone was home, and it served them well. Hubby pitched in totally when he was at home. It really helped his wife and he didn’t miss out on those perfect moments with his girls. A good side of sleep loss is that you don’t want to miss a thing!
2 girls, 2 boys or 1 of each.
They both have totally different personalities & if we talk around them & someone says "the twins" they now resent it. They want to be called by name, they want to be seperate individuals.
One of ours is a delicate princess with long blond hair & the other likes her hair short & likes to play baseball & anything with dragons. Agree, line up some help for the first few months, mom will need a rest & there will be double laundry, blankets, sleepers, bottles etc..
1 of each.
She wants to name the boy....thing 1 Samuel Thomas
the girl, thing2 Isabel Linnae.
Both middle names mean twin.
She didn’t like the names I suggested. I tried to go biblical. I guess I went off the edge when I went ghetto.
I have twin nephews, when they were babies, I babysat them for 1 week. What a week that was, first thing I learned not to do really quickly, was to not try to feed them both at the same time. I got momentarily distracted by my then 3 year old, only to end up with 2 huge messes, courtesy of the twins. My sister initially followed the advice from a book on twins, to stick to a rigid feeding schedule, forget that, if they are crying and it’s almost time for their bottle, by all means, feed them. The boys got into a lot of trouble when they were small, what one didn’t think about, the other did. Why do parents insist on dressing their kids the same way? I hated when my mom did that with my sister and me who are 2 years apart.
I have twin brothers, 7 years older then me, and I am now 66.
It was not always fun being the junior to teen brothers, but we made it. The three of us are still alive and healthy.
They are in California, and I am far offshore from the USSA.
Congratulations and enjoy the ride.
Oh, I forgot to mention, I have a 28 year old daughter back in Memphis, but I am also the proud father of a new 3 week old baby boy :)
If you live in a metro area (I’m in Phoenix) find “multiple groups” to participate in. Great family functions where twins, triplets, etc. participate. They also have great events whereby members sell and buy clothing,toys and furniture. You can’t believe the name brands that go for a small fraction of their retail prices. Most merchandise is sold within the group with little left for public purchase after the presales.
Mark the clothes, treat them as individuals. Let them compete against each other. If one starts falling behind, help them catch up with the other one. Attempt to be fair. Mom used to keep a financial record of all Christmas and birthday presents. Totals expenditures were kept equal.
One other thing. Be ready for all the stupid questions and cute remarks.
One daughter is enough, but Two? You are Doomed!
Heed my word Brother, DOOMED! In just 6-years you'll know...
Good work BTW, /wink
I am the proud father of twin girls. Post 9 was right on. Ditto the ones about no sleep. Ours were 3 months premee so lots of other issues, but healthy.
Did I mention no sleep? Breastfeed and bottle and freeze the leftovers. Use the neighbor’s freezer for more storage. That way dad (me!) can help out with feedings in the middle of the night if mom has here hands full with just one (at first).
Have the older kids help out. My son was 3, and was a HUGE help in giving them a bottle, playing with them, etc.
Tell your daughter (and her husband) to NOT COMMIT suicide. The first TWO years were literaly suicidle for us. No Sleep was probably a lot it to add to the “normal stress”. Plus, had just been laid off and trying to get by with odd jobs. Our girl’s were colickly, so it would be MANY hours a day with mom sitting on the bouncy ball.
But of course it is worth it!
ACCEPT ANY AND ALL HELP!
That was a hard one for us to allow. But if someone says “if there is anything we can do....” you take them up on it. Have them stop by the store and pick up some items for you. Or better yet, have them watch the kids while you go to the store! (Except don’t do what I did - TWICE! After finaly getting all the kids in bed went to the store late at night to buy groceries. TWICE I made it all the way back home and - opps! No groceries. Left the cart full of stuff at the checkout after paying for them!!?? Did I say SLEEP DEPRAVATION!?).
Although I never did forget the kids anywhere. Although a few times I would look in the rearview mirror and not see the girls in their baby seats and go “OH MY G..., oh. That’s right. They are at the neighbor’s house!”
One final thing. Don’t call them “the twins”. (Well - do what you want. We never liked that as they are their own selves. We had a few outfits that were identical (our girl’s are identical in looks. Mirror images really with moles, new teeth, etc.) We would buy the same dresses but in different colors, etc.
AND HAVE LOTS OF FUN!
Thanks for the trip down memory lane. They are 13 now, and life is good.
Yes, stay calm.
You don’t want to be handling crying impatient babies and freaking out at the same time.
Stay calm. It will be o.k....
We have triplets just turned fifteen. We had overnight help til the babies slept the night at six months. We also accepted every bit of help from a lot of very gracious friends. Nursing is a burden and the mom will probably want to try, but she’s already worn out. Our parents were also visiting in shifts and that was a huge help.
All in all, it’s been a wonderful experience and I hope your family does great as well. It’s all good.
Your post reminded my of how my girls would “switch” personalities when they were younger. For a few months one would be a certain way, and then she would be more like the other one, and vice-versa. It was pretty interesting for quite awhile. (3 or 4 years??)
At 13 now, one is “tom boyish” but with really long hair, and the other is the “stylish” one, always listening to her i-pod, short hair with highlites, does her nails, etc. Neither one is boy-crazy like some of their friends. (Except the boys all like the tom-boyish one!!)
As tricky as having twins was (is?) - I always thought of the parents of triplets as my super heros! Congratulations!
Congratulations, your family is twice blessed!
Seems like your daughter will do just fine with a wonderful supportive grandma like you. That is what it takes. Let everyone know when the happy event occurs.
Congrats to you too Jim. Let us know when the babies arrive.
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