Posted on 05/02/2013 2:54:15 AM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
The five common mistakes can drive even the greatest of great husbands away.
There is nothing more beautiful than two people journeying through life together! As women, we can place a lot of emphasis on getting married but not enough on staying married. Here are five common mistakes that women make in marriage that you should be sure to avoid:
1. Nagging. Being nagged by their wives has become so common in marriage that it's become almost expected by men! As a wife, I can say that saddens me especially since nagging is so completely unnecessary! Do not allow yourself to become a stereotypical wife by paying attention to the way that you speak to your husband. Your job as his mate is to uplift him, not bring him down with your words. Speaking to your guy in a positive, loving way will go a lot further than nagging in his ear and fussing at him. An important fact to know is that studies have shown that the male brain does not process the female voice the same way it would another man's voice (Source: Discovery). To have effective communication with our husbands, we should not only remember to watch what we say but also how we say it.
2. Forgetting to be his girlfriend. Continue to be his girlfriend (even if you happen to be his wife). Remember how hard you worked to make sure you were flawless whenever you saw him at the start of your relationship? Don't stop once you get a ring. Keep it sexy. I know that age, pregnancy and other health factors can get our bodies all "out of whack", but we still should keep ourselves looking good for our husbands.
Also, throw away those flannel pajamas that you sleep in....
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I did everything I could. I did it right or tried to. And yes marriage is dull by nature. Single life is much better.
So... you’d advise men to deliberately ignore the legal, financial and reputational risks of getting married, and just jump right on in?
Sorry, I have a habit of speaking the truth when I give advice, and the situation as I see it holds no benefits for men, only risks. When a woman can drop a dime on a guy, get him locked up, a RO issued against him, any guns that he owns seized without compensation, etc - ALL WITHOUT ANY TRIAL, there’s no question that the odds are stacked against men to a point where they have to opt out. A woman can get a divorce, take half of the assets a man has labored to earn, take his children etc - all without any ability of the man to put the brakes on the situation.
The only way of fixing the problem is to destroy the feminist grievance movement, and that’s going to take decades, and it will require an attitude of “we had to destroy the village to save it.” It’s going to have to be starved to death, and one of the ways to do this is for men to say “No” when the marriage conversation comes up.
Women did this to themselves. It’s time that women choose what they want: functional relationships, or to let the feminists run amok in the Congress, courts and press.
Exactly what I thought when I ran into this drivel originally.
When will your book be published?
Bingo.
#1 cause of divorce is arrogance.
It isn’t limited to one or the other sex.
It doesn’t require both spouses to be arrogant.
Arrogance in the man might lead to him looking for sex as a counterfeit substitute for the marriage contract, be it with his spouse, with fornication, or in adultery.
Arrogance in the woman might be a desire to have the power of a man’s role in life, getting high of her ability to control worldly things independent of what the marriage provides.
Nagging is generally consequential to arrogance. A desire to control the behavior of a spouse to live they way they think they should live, instead of respecting the volition of their spouse.
It boils down to basics in God’s Plan.
If the couple remain faithful to God, they also can enjoy the fruits of the family. Adversity is inevitable, but how it is handled is our testing in life.
How does one become “a Certified Master Sex Expert and Sex Coach”? What are the exams like? Who certifies you? And how much beer is allowed during the qualifying exam?
Every article about this assumes the man is dying for sex and the woman isn’t interested. There are a lot of marriages where it’s the opposite and no one ever writes articles about that.
You are right that sometimes the wife is not interested in her particular husband any more. Separation or counseling might be the only choices there if she doesn’t love you as a man any more.
But sexual interest is totally hormonal. Totally. Otherwise a lot more 10 year old boys would be out meeting chicks.
In the infertility world, infertility docs prime the woman with plenty of estrogen and progesterone as she begins to cycle to attempt pregnancy. Nearly every woman notices a HUGE, 100% increase or more, change in her sexual appetite. To the point of wet dreams. They are told to avoid sex after embryo transfer, and often call in worried sick because they had orgasms in their sleep! Every couple where the woman has desire issues definitely needs to get her to a good doctor who prescribes bio-identical hormones that are applied to her skin only, NO ORAL HORMONES. Topical hormones will be perfectly safe, will not cause cancer, and will enhance her life in many other ways too, better skin, less aches and pains, better sleep, etc. And the desire of her life.
Cool advice from a tiny black woman
How old before sex less important
Which sex are you?
My wife shuts me out
Unless she is sick
Then I’m not going to go without female intimacy forever
Discretion if one must
Same goes for gals
Don’t lose you’re job. That richer or poorer stuff doesn’t fly in too many cases.
We're late 50's. We tend to have sex at least 4 to 5 times a week. Sometimes she isn't all that interested for herself, but she obliges me to keep me happy.
She understands that many days, I'm not really all that enthused about getting out of bed and going to work to make money for her to spend. I do it anyway to make her and the kids happy. Meanwhile, she does stuff to make me happy.
As I said earlier in this thread, if she's not making an effort to make you happy, then the real problem is that she doesn't love you. This is something that guys are often reluctant to face.
What I've seen with my friends' marriages, is that the #1 cause of divorce, was the husband went bankrupt, or his career wasn't moving to the satisfaction of the wife. This was especially true when the wife was young enough that she thought she could land somebody better.
One friend, his wife decided to go work at a place where she would meet affluent men, found a prosperous lawyer, started an affair, divorced my friend and married the lawyer. She took the kids, too.
Yep especially if your wife / girlfriend is hot. You come up short financially and their gone in a hot second. I know. They have a limited window to capitalize on their looks and they’ll jump right though it.
There are of course exceptions to every rule. But in general, men know they are loved because their wife has sex with them and women have sex with their husbands because they know they are loved.
And always pay attention the grammer spelling.
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