Posted on 01/09/2020 10:35:21 AM PST by wastedyears
My Dad passed at around 11:45am at the hospital. We were expecting it, but hearing it still hurts a lot.
He got e-coli by eating raw oysters or clams when on vacation in the early 80s, before I was conceived. My parents had been trying to have a kid, but that was preventing it; they eventually found out what it was, but the damage had been done by then.
Some years ago, he found out his kidneys were failing. He found out about the PD dialysis which he could do at home, and was optimistic about the future, how he would get a new kidney and even though retired, relax through his remaining life. Then more things started to go wrong.
Open heart surgery to replace two valves, a pacemaker, and 3 strokes in a year and a half. Winter 2017 he was feeling horrible, and *made a joke* about having walking pneumonia. Turned he out had pneumonia, flu, and an infection of his stomach lining. That stubborn ass conceived me and my sister.
This time, it was just too much. He had pneumonia, for which he waited about 2 months to seek treatment for. During that time, he was eating poorly and sleeping most of the time. Then he had what the medical team guesses were a series of mini strokes due to a clot in his heart, and that pretty much ruined his brain, and that was it. He was intubated Wednesday last week; my sister was his healthcare proxy, and decided on that so me, my Mom and his brother could at least see him while he was alive.
I didn't have a close relationship with him, but he was still my father. Me and my Mom went to bring the original healthcare proxy forms to the hospital this passed Tuesday. His nephrologist and his small team were across the street from the hospital, so we went there first to thank them for everything they tried to do for him in the years my Dad was going to him. Then we went to the hospital to bring the papers, and I turned into a mess after seeing him. He had the breathing tube in and probably wasn't able to say anything even without it, but I'm glad I was able to see him alive one last time. I couldn't really say anything to my Mom or the doctor, as I know it's difficult to understand me when I'm sobbing.
As incredible cold-blooded and rude as it sounds, he did it to himself, because he never sought treatment soon enough for anything, with the strokes being the sole exception.
He did, but it was kind of to the detriment of those around him. He kept that he was doing dialysis at home secret from my grandfather/his father. He unfortunately kept a lot of things in.
Condolences on your loss.
I don't mean to be rude, but you should stop being lazy and go. Here are some complications of myopercarditis if I didn't go to urgent care.
I’m his son; my sister is the younger one.
Definitely a very stubborn personality.
Most of what doctors and the medical establishment do to one is hardly pleasant. Yes in most cases it’s for your benefit but it is easy to see why some avoid it. Same with dentists.
Not a bad thing in my mind............
you can't go home again when your parents are gone.....
God bless you..
...life marches on no matter what, and a lot of it is not easy....
(((wastedyears)))
So sorry, wastedyears. God be with you and give you peace.
Opps sorry. Your screen name wasn’t very telling...LOL.. That makes the dynamics even different.. i AM so sorry for all.. hugs and much love from NE Ohio
Sorry to hear Bud
You will find that you miss him more with each passing year.
Now change the way you and your sister, plus children, spend time together.
Blessings!
Prayers for you and your family.
Prayers.
That section in the circle of life isn’t easy.
Got to be with my dad when he took his last breath. I’m very grateful for that.
Sending my condolences and prayers your way.
Condolences to you and your family.
My condolences on your loss. May your father rest in peace.
RIP. He is in a better place.
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