Skip to comments.Relentless optimism of ugly men makes up for unappealing looks
Posted on 12/16/2011 9:11:09 PM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Despite being at a disadvantage in the looks department, some men are able to snare a partner far more attractive than them through relentless persistence and overblown belief in their own sex appeal.
Now scientists believe this could be down to an evolutionary trait which tricks men into overestimating the value of their looks to prevent them from missing a mating opportunity.
This overconfidence causes them to try their luck with a greater number of women because they are less likely to see them as unattainable.
The study, published in the Psychological Science journal, could help explain the mystery of why so many men think women are interested in them when in fact they are not, researchers said.
Making moves on a greater number of women, some of whom are better-looking than them, raises the men's risk of an embarrassing knock-back but also reduces the chance of missing out on a potential partner.
Only the most attractive men are not inclined to have an inflated view of their desirability most likely because they are so good looking they do not need to, according to an experiment by US-based Williams College psychologists.
Dr Carin Perilloux, who led the study, said: "There are two ways you can make an error as a man.
"Either you think, 'Oh, wow, that woman's really interested in me' and it turns out she's not. There's some cost to that, such as embarrassment or a blow to your reputation.
"The other error: she's interested, and he totally misses out. He misses out on a mating opportunity. That's a huge cost in terms of reproductive success."
(Excerpt) Read more at telegraph.co.uk ...
Researchers making themselves feel better.
Known for years.”If you dont get turned down a hundred times a night, you aint trying hard enough.”
Yeah... Misses out on the moods, arguments, divorce, heartache....
Thanks. I'll just remain a single celibate. I've done my time and learned my lesson.
The primate pair-bonding biological drive makes people stupid. That's for the young.
The only thing more amazing than this bunch of steaming refuse is that someone got paid to write it!
Okay, now how do they explain ugly women with good looking men? It is hard to come up with theories in either case that don’t involve really good sex. Kudos to the researchers for trying.
Thanks Tolerance Sucks Rocks.
Curb Your Enthusiasm had some “research” underway:
On a recent episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm, Larry David decides to invest in an inventors idea because the guy’s wife is unattractive. Later in the episode, he fires his business manager because the man’s wife is too attractive. David’s thinking is that men married to sexy women are superficial and therefore untrustworthy. On the other hand, if a man marries a woman based solely on her personality and not physical appearance, that guy must be genuine. Like in most Curb episodes, David’s half-baked theory proves to hold some truth.
This is treading on seriously timorous, un-P.C. ground, but there is arguably something to take away from David’s belief that ugly wife = honorable husband. Admit it: When you see a well-groomed man with a gorgeous wife, your immediate thought is not, “I bet that guy is cool.” In fact, you think, “Douchebag.” Obviously we’re just as guilty as all men’s websites are of publishing dozens of sexy-women galleries. That said, the following arguments just might convince you to leave the beauty on our webpages and invite a beast into your bedroom. Here are 10 potential benefits of an ugly wife.
I’ve actually come to a similar conclusion to this myself. One thing I have observed over my lifetime as a woman is that most men think they are masculine (or maybe “tough” is a better word). I can not get over how many less-than-masculine men I have heard make fun of other men for being wimps. I think the existence of testosterone in men makes them feel masculine even if they are not. I’m a photographer and I always hear beautiful women talk about how unattractive they are, but guys almost always seem confident about how they look.
That dude should not mate!
This story must be based on research conducted in a lot of bars about 30 minutes before closing.
3 strikes means I'm out. A remaining life of single quiet contemplation sounds good to me.
I'm still on my first. And even when he annoys me I still love him, like him and can't imagine being without him.
Beer is not that expansive.
In fact, I think, "Lucky motherf***er!"
I have often wondered how I come to have that beautiful girl marry me 51 years ago. Sure as Hades wasn’t looks or money, and she is still with me.
Well that explains in great detail how an ugly mug like myself marries the hottie that I indeed married. All this time I thought it was because I was smart and witty...who knew?
You know there is a saying as old as I am: Women will have achieved equality when they can look in the mirror, see a pot belly, stained t-shirt, and thinning hair, but still say, “Damn, I’m sexy.”
This will come as no surprise to the pickup artist/”game” crowd.
It’s not what you are but what think you are...
Indeed. Sometimes it works ...
Given that your name is Callista, has it ever occurred to you that your husband may actually be Zeus, disguised as the Pillsbury Doughboy?
I'll vote for him. He's brilliant and willing to take it to Obama. But, seriously, we need to shed the baggage and keep the smartss. We need a Dark Horse!
And, on the flip side, if you are in a relationship and not looking, they also seem to flock towards you.
This explains why “no” doesn’t seem to be an operative word with some men...
“...is that someone got paid to write it”
Prolly with some of yours and mine or our grandkids taxdollars to boot....
Studies find most men think they are above average in looks, intelligence, driving skills, personality, investing ability, “endowment”, and various other traits.
Testosterone appears to be an across-the-board distorter of personal truths.
There have been more women smile and make eye contact with me in the grocery store when my wife is with me than when I’m alone. ‘Splain that.
Isnt that the truth.
Women can be viciously competitive.
The author appears unaware that present society is almost totally oriented around sterile sex acts or artificial reproduction, not natural procreation. Perhaps she's extrapolating from observations of lemurs, or some other primate with a survival instinct, rather than researching present-day human beings.
Mascot is the purple cow
“The fighting ephs”
Get a graduate degree in art history.
Democrats - they’re dumber than donuts
Unattractive men understand one important thing: a “no” won’t kill you. A hundred “no”s won’t kill you. And you only need one “yes”.
I think their thought is "If he's not in a relationship, then there's something wrong with him. If he IS in a relationship, then there's something right with him".
I experienced this phenomenon when I started going out with the girl I eventually married. I received a LOT more interest. Maybe also the guy who is getting laid on a regular basis seems more confident and less desperate, and that is a turn on for women.
Something like the old saying "A bank won't give you a loan until you can prove you don't need it".
If I took "no" for an answer, I would still be single. Persistence turns "no" into "yes" often enough to keep trying.
[if you are in a relationship and not looking, they also seem to flock towards you. ]
When I was in college there was an extremely good looking guy in one of my classes and all the girls flocked to him. I never showed an interest and one day after class he stopped me to ask for a date. I turned him down because I was going with someone at the time.
It’s the ‘disinterest’ angle I guess.
I would posit it's because you are not perceived to be a threat.
I was referring to sex, not marriage proposals.
Maybe they think your being married indicates you’re a good mating option, so they want to poach you.
So was I.
Any guy who persisted had better wear armor.
It was more of a “No! My roommate is in the next room! She’ll hear us”, than a “Get away from me, you creep!” sort of no.