Posted on 02/18/2005 7:11:48 AM PST by srm913
Why can't my moms marry? His parents have been together for 27 years, yet many still question their right to tie the knot, says Matthew Eaton-Kent
It was the day before Father's Day and my Grade 1 class was just putting the finishing touches on the wooden desk organizers we had made. My class had spent weeks sanding down the blocks of wood, adding magnets for paper clips, holders for pens and a spot for an eraser. Today was the day we were going to engrave the word "Dad" into the top of the organizers.
I had worked really hard on my present but I had a problem. I was not going to give my organizer to my dad because I didn't have one. I was going to give my present to one of my two moms.
I wasn't sure what she would think if I brought it home and it had the word dad on it. So I sat there quietly as all the other children took turns hammering the metal stamps, which read "dad," into the wood. I was getting nervous as my turn with the engraving tool grew closer. Finally, I got up and approached the teacher's desk.
She asked me what was wrong. I reluctantly told her that I didn't have a dad and that I was making this gift for my mother. She told me I had nothing to worry about and handed me the stamps with the "m" and "o" for mom.
That's how it has always been in my family. One of my mother's celebrates Mother's Day while the other celebrates Father's Day. Sure, it was a bit awkward at school but it didn't make my family any less of a family. In fact we kids thought it was a great way to recognize both of our moms.
However, there is something that makes my family different from a lot of families. The difference is that my parents have never been married.
The reason my parents have never been married is not because they don't want to but because, by law, they couldn't.
Their relationship was not recognized because marriage was defined as between a man and a woman. It has been very hurtful to my parents, the gay community and believers in human rights that there has been so much opposition to same-sex marriage. It's been hurtful to my sister and me, too. Very hurtful!
Personally I am perplexed by the extreme opposition to changing the definition of marriage so it can include unions between two people, any two people. As someone born into a generation of political correctness and void of any blatant racism, sexism or xenophobia, it is hard to deal with the hateful nature of the opponents of same-sex marriage.
I am not sure why they don't view the love of my parents as equal to the love between two people of the opposite sex. If they question the commitment, they should note the 27 years my parents have spent together and the way they have cherished my sister and me.
I find a lot of the hate and opposition comes from many of the institutions that promote peace, love and understanding. Some churches have fought the right of same-sex couples to marry.
I wish they would look back in history to a time when religious freedom was jeopardized. People who were historically persecuted are all too willing to be prejudiced, all in the name of God.
I am a teenager growing up in an era of equality, an era where blacks are equal to whites, where a man is equal to a woman. This era should include same-sex marriage and my parents.
All of us are made in the image of God, are we not?
Matthew Eaton-Kent, 17, is a Grade 11 honours student and avid athlete. He lives with his two moms, 14-year-old sister, two dogs and one cat in Halton Hills, just outside Toronto.
Yes, but in my NIV Bible it says that God does not condone homosexuality. Simple as that.
Hey, Matt, they can marry.
Each of them has the legal opportunity to marry the man of their choice.
They can't marry each other because there is no such thing as a "Marriage" being "like to like."
You "marry up" unlike things. That is the definition of the word.
Dear BibChr,
I don't know, I don't really see the problem. Why not let the two ladies marry each other? Consenting adults and all that...
I'm trying to interest my wife in a second wife. The three of us would be very happy together. And very committed.
Mr. and Mrs. and Mrs. Sitetest.
sitetest
"I was not going to give my organizer to my dad because I didn't have one." This requires no explanation other than how stupid can he get.
Pish-tosh. Don't the latest statistics show that a majority of children have never-married or no-longer-married parents? Surely, even 11 years ago (if he's now 17), this boy wasn't the only one in his class who didn't have a father in the home.
I dub this whole story FICTION.
"I've wondered if a man who was once a woman has ever married a woman who was once a man."
Ouch! It hurts trying to imagine that. Would it be a legitimate marriage?
Just another normal, everyday suburban family. Salt of the earth.
Bull, your parents can marry at any time in a church or other type of situation that may allow them.
Legally they can marry as well.. just not each other.
If they truly wished to marry, find someone willing to do it and have at it.. just don't think the rest of the world is obligued to recoginize it.
They've lied to you son, they could marry tommorrow if they truly wished to.
That assumes of course they didn't just jump the fence au naturale to get pregnant for a while.
I have heard that one or the other of a same sex couple takes on the characteristics of the other sex. I only know one such couple, an in-law's sister and her mate. The mate is so masculine looking I think s/he could grow a beard.
And they say it doesn't affect the children. another sissie with two last names.
"I've wondered if a man who was once a woman has ever married a woman who was once a man."
I believe I heard of such a case when I was in an abnormal psychology class 10 years agos (bet they don't call it that anymore, or no longer inclede transgender) Suprisingly a large number transgender people are homosexeual when the get through their surgery.
According to this kid's logic, yes.
Sorry -- cats can't enter into a contract, even though most of them think they should be permitted to.
A kid who claims he has two moms, I guess.
Easy answer: Because at least one is lying to him - a human being can have only one mother.
It would have to be legitimate. If each switches sexes, the state would either recognize them as the other or not. If they recognized them as the other, it would be a man-woman marriage. If they didn't recognize them as the other, it would still be a man-woman marriage. If this hasn't happened, someone will do it for the Guiness Book of Records.
????? Are they homosexually attracted to their new sex or old one?
Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.