Posted on 04/03/2005 8:27:49 AM PDT by nuconvert
Beauty and the Beast
BY DAVE BARRY
(This classic Dave Barry column was originally published on Feb. 1, 1998.)
If you're a man, at some point a woman will ask you how she looks.
''How do I look?'' she'll ask.
You must be careful how you answer this question. The best technique is to form an honest yet sensitive opinion, then collapse on the floor with some kind of fatal seizure. Trust me, this is the easiest way out. Because you will never come up with the right answer.
The problem is that women generally do not think of their looks in the same way that men do. Most men form an opinion of how they look in seventh grade, and they stick to it for the rest of their lives. Some men form the opinion that they are irresistible stud muffins, and they do not change this opinion even when their faces sag and their noses bloat to the size of eggplants and their eyebrows grow together to form what appears to be a giant forehead-dwelling tropical caterpillar.
Most men, I believe, think of themselves as average-looking. Men will think this even if their faces cause heart failure in cattle at a range of 300 yards. Being average does not bother them; average is fine, for men. This is why men never ask anybody how they look. Their primary form of beauty care is to shave themselves, which is essentially the same form of beauty care that they give to their lawns.
If, at the end of his four-minute daily beauty regimen, a man has managed to wipe most of the shaving cream out of his hair and is not bleeding too badly, he feels that he has done all he can, so he stops thinking about his appearance and devotes his mind to more critical issues, such as the Super Bowl.
Women do not look at themselves this way. If I had to express, in three words, what I believe most women think about their appearance, those words would be: ''not good enough.'' No matter how attractive a woman may appear to be to others, when she looks at herself in the mirror, she thinks: woof.
She thinks that at any moment a municipal animal-control officer is going to throw a net over her and haul her off to the shelter.
Why do women have such low self-esteem? There are many complex psychological and societal reasons, by which I mean Barbie. Girls grow up playing with a doll proportioned such that, if it were a human, it would be seven feet tall and weigh 81 pounds, of which 53 pounds would be bosoms.
This is a difficult appearance standard to live up to, especially when you contrast it with the standard set for little boys by their dolls ... excuse me, by their action figures. Most of the action figures that my son played with when he was little were hideous-looking. For example, he was very fond of an action figure (part of the He-Man series) called ''Buzz-Off,'' who was part human, part flying insect. Buzz-Off was not a looker. But he was extremely self-confident. You could not imagine Buzz-Off saying to the other action figures: ``Do you think these wings make my hips look big?''
But women grow up thinking they need to look like Barbie, which for most women is impossible, although there is a multibillion-dollar beauty industry devoted to convincing women that they must try. I once saw an Oprah show wherein supermodel Cindy Crawford dispensed makeup tips to the studio audience. Cindy had all these middle-aged women applying beauty products to their faces; she stressed how important it was to apply them in a certain way, using the tips of their fingers. All the woman dutifully did this, even though it was obvious to any sane observer that, no matter how carefully they applied these products, they would never look remotely like Cindy Crawford, who is some kind of genetic mutation.
I'm not saying that men are superior. I'm just saying that you're not going to get a group of middle-aged men to sit in a room and apply cosmetics to themselves under the instruction of Brad Pitt, in hopes of looking more like him. Men would realize that this task was pointless and demeaning. They would find some way to bolster their self-esteem that did not require looking like Brad Pitt. They would say to Brad: ``Oh YEAH? Well what do you know about LAWN CARE, pretty boy?''
Of course, many women will argue that the reason they become obsessed with trying to look like Cindy Crawford is that men, being as shallow as a drop of spit, WANT women to look that way. To which I have two responses:
1. Hey, just because WE'RE idiots, that doesn't mean YOU have to be; and
2. Men don't even notice 97 percent of the beauty efforts you make anyway. Take fingernails. The average woman spends 5,000 hours per year worrying about her fingernails; I have never once, in more than 40 years of listening to men talk about women, heard a man say, ''She has a nice set of fingernails!'' Many men would not notice if a woman had upward of four hands.
Anyway, to get back to my original point: If you're a man, and a woman asks you how she looks, you're in big trouble. Obviously, you can't say she looks bad. But you also can't say that she looks great, because she'll think you're lying, because she has spent countless hours, with the help of the multibillion-dollar beauty industry, obsessing about the differences between herself and Cindy Crawford. Also, she suspects that you're not qualified to judge anybody's appearance. This is because you have shaving cream in your hair.
Here's your Dave Pong. It's a good one
Refreshingly true, but I can't say anything(my wife will probably read this, and I'm already in enough trouble).
"There are many complex psychological and societal reasons, by which I mean Barbie."
A timeless classic...
She won't believe you because you married her and anyone that married her couldn't have good taste! LOL!
What happened? Did you give the wrong answer to "How do I look?"
LOL!
Many times, I'm a slow learner!
good example, I posted to the wrong person, Duh-oh!
I've been sitting here giggling over this whole piece - MGD (MygirlsDad) asked what I was laughing so hard about, so I told him. As to the Mowhawk, he said, "well, I can't do that one anymore, but it used to be fun." To which I replied - "you still can, only now you'd have to do it on you BACK!"
Lucky for me he has a good sense of humor.
I almost dropped my coffee, I was laughing so hard.
ping for wife to read later
THe only correct reply: "You look fine, hon."
LOL...that was GREAT! I was laughing so hard my five year old asked me what was wrong with me. :)
Thanks for sharing!
Priceless!
That is a good one. Thanks for the giggle! :)
My "Brad Pitt look-alike' (in my MIND, anyway) husband is out in the yard right now doing a controlled burn; his favorite Spring chore. He could seriously give Brad a few Lawn Care tips, LOL!
LOL, I was returning from town yesterday and could see smoke for 30 miles. Coming down the last mile of road, EVERYTHING was fire. It wasn't until I pulled up to my gate that I realized the fire ended at my property line. My next door neighbor was doing his bi-yearly controlled burn on his 5000 acres, unfortunately he didn't tell me. Talk about heart attacks, LOL!
Just tell her, she has a perfect teardrop shape!
WHAP, WHAP.
OW!
I meant perfect hourglass shape.
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