Posted on 11/29/2005 6:01:20 PM PST by Nomorjer Kinov
This is a fact. The people on the rceiving end do one of two things. 1. They feel demeaned and are motivated to get on their own feet as soon as possible. These people are generally grateful to those who helped them during their trials. 2. They go into the "you owe it to me" category where it's never ever enough. Whatever they get, they SHOULD have gotten more. You give them food stamps they want a credit card. You give them a school bus, they want a Greyhound. You give them a home and they trash it. These people are never grateful and often leave blaming those who have tried to help them for the conditions in their life. i.e. The man is keeping me down, they give me enough to survive but not to live etc, etc. The statement this shrink made should be heralded to the rooftops and is the exact reason that government social policies, government welfare does nothing for those who are receiving it. It's never been about actually helping people, it's about Liberal (and in some case white) guilt and rather than liberals lowering themselves to actually helping these people, they would rather have a government program to shuffle them out of the way AND so they can feel good about doing something. The truth is all of these people, those who have been raised on or attached to the welfare state will never live a succssful or even fulfilled life because they haven't done anything for themselves. It's time our country took and stand and said no more. You'd be amazed how many people would make a change in their life if they had to choose betwen food and death.
The Browns should have dealt with their anger another way. Ingrates!
Nagin doesn't seem to know what to do, except kick back in Jamica.
***Does it command you to harvest the grain for them and bake the bread for them? ***
This reminds me of what happened to my wife's neice years ago. She and her father raised a big garden and canned lots of food for themselves. When done, they called their relations giving them free gleanings from the garden. The relations were glad to get it---until they found it wasn't picked or canned. They then turned the offer down.
How can a psychologist who uses such language not be believed?
In such a situation, saying "thank you" is payment enough.
"Suppose that you were living your life," he said, "and all of a sudden God came down and destroyed your house? You'd probably be pissed."
so this is all God's fault?
Actually, pigs are smarter and cleaner than the people in this article are. Even when confined to a small pen, they will try like heck not to poop in their living quarters and they generally don't bite the hand that feeds them. Unlike the Browns.
LQ, who lives across from a farmer who has pigs.
Please don't let some ugly situations get you down Grenada. When you open your heart to help people, sometimes you wind up helping the underserving, the unappreciative and the just plain wrong ones. But it's important to stay vulnerable to the good ones who really do need a little help. Better to help a few jerks who sneak in than to turn away from everyone and harden your heart..
One thing that might help.....store up all the good feelings you get working with the truly helpless and needy people who find themselves in this terrible plight and then when you encounter a stinker, pour out all those feelings onto them....who knows, maybe your good cheer and love will strike a chord they've never felt before!
Anyway, keep your chin up!
grandma
And you got to know the character of those relatives.
I take that back, we have not had a bad time. We have had a difficult time. I am just feeling really down today. We were VERY lucky that we are fine, our pets are fine, and, my husband still has a residency. We had family to stay with for a week or so. We are very fortunate.
Been down this road twice (not from hurricanes.) The house still isn't back to what it was, and the downstairs (where the spare room is) is still half filled with junk that I'm paying to have hauled away.
Between the two families we tried to help, it has cost my family about ten grand (including a destroyed Bronco II) and a whole lotta grief.
Mark Twain was SO right.
Your right. I'm giving animals a bad name.
Same here. One time in a rental duplex, I went ahead and painted the fence. The manager seemed upset and said that was their job and why didn't I ask. Told him I treated the place like it was my own. On an almost yearly basis, they raised the rents of everyone but us - gotta be a connection.
Same with tools. I quit lending mine because they never came back. "Oh, I lent it to Bob, you can get it from him." They got upset when I said, "No, I lent it to YOU. YOU get it from Bob." We never spoke again.
On the few times I borrowed a shovel or hoe, I alsways cleaned and oiled it before handing it back. Sometimes it went back in better shape than it came. Owner never said a word.
I could not believe it when I say that they were charging rent on the tents and campers...those people are here to help us and Nagin is charging them to live in a tent?!?!?! The thing that drives me nuts about the eviction is I told them I would pay the extra rent in the old place, just PLEASE, after all of this, don't make me move! They couldn't do that legally. Can you imagine? We are only hear for 9 more months and we had to move after everything.
*** their response is not unnatural, he said. "Suppose that you were living your life," he said, "and all of a sudden God came down and destroyed your house? You'd probably be pissed."***
No, you wouldn't. You might feel sick for a while but you get over it.
After we were flooded out in Tulsa Ok. way back in 1976 we got 3 month's free rent (no free utilities though). By the end of the three months I had managed to get everything sorted out so we got along alright on our own after that.
Anyone who can't get their lives restarted after 3 months are just leeches looking for a free handout.
There is a reason that some people have nothing. Poverty is less a financial condition than a state of mind.
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