Experts: Preachers' Wives Often Struggle

Associated Press ^ | Apr 1, 2006 | WOODY BAIRD

[lafroste]

the Church of Christ is not really considered evangelical. They are somewhat cult like

My wife and I had a run in with these guys several years ago. "Cult like" is a good description. They attempted to hijack your entire existence. We actually got thrown out because we sought clarification (insistently sought) on a particular church teaching that I was having trouble accepting.

Nothing like a Pastor in your living room screaming that he doesn't want "your kind" in his church.

Sheesh.

[Galveston Grl]

**Maybe I have had the urge once or twice but I never actually DID.**

Now that is self control, LOL! I would guess this case has more to it than the normal stress of being a ministers' wife. She is mentally ill or he was abusing her, is my guess.

[VoiceOfBruck]

Okay, thanks, I know what you're talking about. Happens all too often. In a healthy church community, the pastor has people (sometimes the leaders or elders but not always) he can lean on and confide in, but alas not all churches are healthy.

[Lancey Howard]

[TWohlford]

"...he pastor has people (sometimes the leaders or elders but not always) he can lean on and confide in..."

Trust me... you're lucky if you find 2-3 such people in your entire career.

When laity confide in their best friend, they're risking embarrasment. Clergy risk their job, career... everything.

[Full Court]

Do you use ductile pipe?

[lafroste]

What? You are being too clever for my slow wits. Please explain.

[Grim]

Experts: Preachers' Wives Often Struggle

"This family needed help," said Evans.

Brilliant! What would we do without "experts" to explain this to us?

[lafroste]

Hi. Long time no see. I'm glad to see you are still around.

[trubluolyguy]

My Pastors' wife is extremely busy with church business, two kids and 3 foster kids. I could never imagine her killing her husband or even swatting a fly for that matter.

[trubluolyguy]

And murder?

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One sin is no better or worse than another, both are an afront to God.

[Conservababe]

Years ago, my mother and father in law belonged to a small baptist church. They loved their new pastor and his wife and family. The church voted to build them a new parsonage. And so they built it without even consulting the preacher as to his wants or needs. And after it was built, the good ladies of the church bought the furniture and decorated it to their own wishes and outdated style.

I attended the open house. I asked how the preacher and his family liked it and was told that it was the church's home, after all.

Yes, I learned that a congregation thinks that it owns a preacher, his family and his home....live, stock and barrel.

[Cacique]

Sounds like an argument for priestly celibacy.

[onja]

Can you clarify what you're saying. Are you saying that all sins are equal? If so, then I think that's a pretty wierd interpretation. I'm pretty sure we're to do our best to choose the lesser evil.

(I'm sorry if I misunderstood you)

[jamaly]

They seem to think the minister is at their beck and call. For every little problem that might be solved on their own.

The same goes for the wife. Most congregations expect almost as much from the preacher's wife as from the preacher. She is assumed to be on most, if not all committees, sing in the choir, attend ALL church functions, bring a dish to every wake or to the home of ill parishioners. She must keep her house spotless, her children immaculate and well-behaved at all times while smiling adoringly at her sainted husband.

Hillary may think she was the first one to come up with "two for the price of one". Actually that has been a reality in most Protestant denominations for decades.

[jamaly]

She is disgusting. I think that if he treated her like she should have been then she would not have killed him. Sometimes people are not allowed to do anything in the name of false religions and this is what happens. This does not happen in the Catholic Religion thankfully. It seems this is a Evangelical problem that needs to be fixed.

You are joking, right? If not, what the heck are you smoking?

[trubluolyguy]

It seems this is a Evangelical problem that needs to be fixed.

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This was one couple. One marriage and one murder. How does that become an over all "Evangelical Problem"?

[RatRipper]

From a preacher's kid: I understand and your are correct.

[trubluolyguy]

I would say looking at Full Courts' tagline, his evidence would be that they are not Baptists.

[trubluolyguy]

Can you clarify what you're saying.

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Take the ten commandments for instance. Do you think it matters to God if you only broke the first or second, or the eighth or ninth? Sin is sin. It's our old sin nature; our humanity that conditions them ie: "Sure I committed adultery but it's not like I killed anyone."

Both are sin and left unconfessed and unrepented are punishable accordingly by God. There exists no "lesser hell" for the adulterers and "worse hell" for the murderers.