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Families Without Children - Report Reveals Changes in Attitudes Towards Kids
Zenit News Agency ^ | July 22, 2006

Posted on 07/22/2006 6:03:00 PM PDT by NYer

PISCATAWAY, New Jersey, JULY 22, 2006 ( Life without children is a growing social reality for an increasing number of American adults.

This is the conclusion of the 2006 edition of "The State of Our Unions" report on marriage, released last week by the National Marriage Project. The project is based at Rutgers, the State University of New Jersey.

Up until recently, for most people, the greater part of adult life was spent with young children forming part of the household. A combination of marrying later, less children and longer life expectancy means, however, that a significantly greater part of adult life is spent without kids being in the house.

The report, titled "Life Without Children," was authored by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead and David Popenoe. They start by noting how many recent publications complain of the difficulties in raising children. Many surveys also show that parents report lower levels of happiness compared to non-parents. In fact, an increasing number of married couples now see children as an obstacle to their marital happiness.

This isn't to say that children are rejected by the majority of couples. Nevertheless, there is a growing feeling of trepidation about taking on the responsibilities of parenthood. Of course, bringing up kids has never been easy, but there are good reasons why a growing number of parents are feeling increased pressures, the report explains.

A weakening of marriage bonds contributes to the difficulties of having children. Cohabiting women, the report explains, may postpone childbearing until they have a better sense of the long-term future of the relationship. If they wait too long, however, this places them at risk for never having children. Being in an unhappy marriage is another source of uncertainty. Couples who are worried about getting divorced are the most likely to remain childless.

Changing families

Citing Census Bureau reports, Whitehead and Popenoe lay out just how much family structures have changed.

-- In 1970 the median age of first marriage for women was just under 21years-old. The age of first marriage has now risen to just short of 26. Women who have a four-year college degree marry at an even later age.

-- In 1970, 73.6% of women, ages 25-29, had already entered their child-rearing years and were living with at least one minor child of their own. By 2000, this share dropped to 48.7%. For men in the same age bracket in 1970, 57.3% lived with their own children in the household. In 2000 this had plummeted to 28.8%.

-- In 1960, 71% of married women had their first child within the first 3 years of marriage. By 1990, this almost halved, to 37%. So after getting married, couples now experience a greater number of child-free years.

-- In 1970, 27.4% of women and 39.5% of men, ages 50-54, had at least one minor child of their own in the household. By 2000, the shares had fallen to 15.4% and 24.7%, respectively.

-- In addition, a growing number of women are not having any children. In 2004, almost one out of five women in their early forties was childless. In 1976, it was only one out of ten.

-- The proportion of households with children has declined from half of all households in 1960 to less than one-third today -- the lowest in America's history.

In general, then, a few decades ago life before children was brief, with little time between the end of schooling and the beginning of marriage and family life. Life after children was also reduced, with few years left before the end of work and the beginning of old age.

Less fun

Contemporary culture has quickly reflected the changes in family life, the report observes. It is increasingly common to find the years spent raising children portrayed as being less satisfying compared to the years before and after.

Adult life without children is depicted as having positive meaning and purpose, and as being full of fun and freedom. Life with children, by contrast, is seen as full of pressures and responsibilities.

In general, life without children is characterized by a focus on the self. "Indeed, the cultural injunction for the childless young and the child-free old is to 'take care of yourself,'" the report comments.

The years spent bringing up children is just the opposite. Being a parent means focusing on those who are dependent and subordinating adult needs to the requirements of the children.

By way of compensation traditional culture normally celebrated the work and sacrifice of parents, but this has now changed. Increasingly, the popular image of parents is a negative one. The new stereotypes range from the hyper-competitive sports parents who scream at their own kids, to those who ignore the problems their undisciplined children cause for others in public places.

The latest variant are the so-called "helicopter parents," who get their name from the way they supposedly hover over their children and swoop down to rescue them from any negative consequences of their behavior.

Television programs have long made fun of fathers, notes the report. More recently mothers are also being shown as unfit, unable to carry out their responsibilities without the help of a nanny, or as being over-indulgent and negligent.

By contrast a number of the most popular television shows in America in recent years, such as "Friends" and "Sex and the City," celebrated the glamorous life of young urban singles.

Bias against children

What does this portend for the future, the report asks. For a start, less political support for families. In the last presidential election, parents made up slightly less than 40% of the electorate. Less votes translates into less support for funding of schools and youth activities. Already a number of communities across the nation are trying to hold down property taxes by restricting the construction of affordable single family housing.

In cultural terms the bias against children is likely to grow. Entertainment and pastimes for adults -- gambling, pornography and sex -- is one of the fastest growing and most lucrative, and exciting, sectors of the economy.

By contrast, being a devoted parent is increasingly subject to a ruthless debunking, the report notes. In fact, the task of being a mother is now seen by a growing number as being unworthy of an educated women's time and talents. So the more staid values supportive of raising children -- sacrifice, stability, dependability, maturity -- will receive less attention.

"It is hard enough to rear children in a society that is organized to support that essential social task," the report observes. "Consider how much more difficult it becomes when a society is indifferent at best, and hostile, at worst, to those who are caring for the next generation," it concludes.

The family, "founded on indissoluble marriage between a man and a woman," is where men and women "are enabled to be born with dignity, and to grow and develop in an integral manner," explained the Pope in his homily concluding the World Meeting of Families in Valencia, Spain, on July 9.

"The joyful love with which our parents welcomed us and accompanied our first steps in this world is like a sacramental sign and prolongation of the benevolent love of God from which we have come," he noted.

This experience of being welcomed and loved by God and by our parents, explained Benedict XVI, "is always the firm foundation for authentic human growth and authentic development, helping us to mature on the way towards truth and love, and to move beyond ourselves in order to enter into communion with others and with God." A foundation that is increasingly being undermined in today's society.

TOPICS: Business/Economy; Culture/Society; Extended News; Government; News/Current Events; Philosophy; Politics/Elections; US: New Jersey
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1 posted on 07/22/2006 6:03:01 PM PDT by NYer
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To: american colleen; Lady In Blue; Salvation; narses; SMEDLEYBUTLER; redhead; Notwithstanding; ...
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2 posted on 07/22/2006 6:04:23 PM PDT by NYer
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To: Coleus; Mr. Silverback; little jeremiah


3 posted on 07/22/2006 6:05:12 PM PDT by NYer
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To: NYer

Between this kind of thinking and abortion, liberals will be eventually become an insignificant minority.

4 posted on 07/22/2006 6:06:09 PM PDT by LA Conservative (Clinton: The worst president we've ever had - The worst man we've ever had as President)
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To: NYer

LOL! I have jokingly, at times of stress with our teenagers, told my husband that it would be easier to raise dogs! At that time, I guess I was half joking.....I'm glad it's almost over now.

5 posted on 07/22/2006 6:09:17 PM PDT by alice_in_bubbaland (NY Slimes the paper of record for OBL!)
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To: 2ndMostConservativeBrdMember; afraidfortherepublic; Alas; al_c; american colleen; annalex; ...

6 posted on 07/22/2006 6:10:46 PM PDT by Coleus (RU-486 Kills babies and their mothers, Bush can stop this as Clinton allowed through executive order)
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To: alice_in_bubbaland

They need to adjust the tax bracket and give parents with teenagers, combat pay:')

7 posted on 07/22/2006 6:11:02 PM PDT by CindyDawg
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To: LA Conservative

If it were only liberals, I'd be inclined to cheer this trend on . . . postponing children, that is, not aborting them. But the Me/Me/Me Now/Now/Now culture is not confined to liberals. A significant number of self-styled conservatives see "personal liberty" as the highest good . . . and they believe they are most liberated when they are free from any and every responsibility toward others.

8 posted on 07/22/2006 6:11:33 PM PDT by madprof98
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9 posted on 07/22/2006 6:11:51 PM PDT by Irish Rose (Will work for chocolate.)
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To: CindyDawg

LOL! You got that right! They will drive you crazy at times! :)

10 posted on 07/22/2006 6:12:11 PM PDT by alice_in_bubbaland (NY Slimes the paper of record for OBL!)
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Based on my informal study, women who towed the Superwoman line, got all the education that they can possibly get, haven't been married yet, and want kids, are extraordinarily desperate now. Almost in sheer panic mode. The men who wanted to marry them when they were in their twenties now still want to marry women in their twenties. They are passing on the older, desperate, ones...

Funny how what goes around comes around.

Of my survey I know a woman doctor and dentist who are almost begging to marry. No luck. They went for the income, passing on guys. Now guys are passing on them.

11 posted on 07/22/2006 6:14:49 PM PDT by 69ConvertibleFirebird (Never argue with an idiot. They drag you down to their level, then beat you with experience.)
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To: NYer

I can't wait to read all the posts about how horrible a person I am. They always make me laugh.

12 posted on 07/22/2006 6:16:51 PM PDT by CzarNicky (In the magical land of unicorns there's no need for clothes.)
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In the magical land of unicorns there's no need for clothes

Or diets. Hand over the Better Batter ice cream.

13 posted on 07/22/2006 6:19:07 PM PDT by pettifogger
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To: NYer

Drop in at any large store, walk around and observe kids in or near the toy department or in the checkout lanes screaming, demanding, whining...

What you see might well cause you to take an oath never to procreate! I think people today are flat SCARED of kids.

14 posted on 07/22/2006 6:25:52 PM PDT by Humidston (Congress is like the Mafia - NO PAY, NO PLAY.)
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To: madprof98

If government would keep their darn fingers out of how parents choose to raise their children I think more people would be inclined to have more children.

Unfortunately with the NEA hovering over the classrooms parents are becoming just the breeders of the pupils. We have no authority over what they are taught anymore.

I think every American child should study American history first then world history. That way the kids would see how much better America is than the other countries. Instead the kids are being taught that they are citizens of the World and must know the distinctions between every other race on earth. They must never look down upon any other country because that isn't PC.

15 posted on 07/22/2006 6:28:06 PM PDT by B4Ranch (Illegal immigration Control and US Border Security - The jobs George W. Bush refuses to do.)
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In cultural terms the bias against children is likely to grow. Entertainment and pastimes for adults -- gambling, pornography and sex -- is one of the fastest growing and most lucrative, and exciting, sectors of the economy.

What a view of adulthood.

17 posted on 07/22/2006 6:33:16 PM PDT by sphinx
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To: CzarNicky

Look for offense, and you're sure to find it.

18 posted on 07/22/2006 6:36:55 PM PDT by LongElegantLegs (You can do that, and be a whack-job pedophile on meth.)
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To: NYer

Interesting and relevant story. I think an important point that they left out was the impact on fertility rates of children whose parents were divorced.

Ultimately, I think it's going to be a lot more difficult for parents and children in the coming years. Our society in general is anti-child, and the infrastructure that would otherwise support young families is not doing so well. The government schools are a scandal, and with smaller families over generations there are fewer resources for young families to rely upon.

(Full disclosure: I'm married and childless.)

19 posted on 07/22/2006 6:38:33 PM PDT by RKBA Democrat (Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner!)
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To: sphinx

Just look at'll see the future....or at least part of it. It's scary.

20 posted on 07/22/2006 6:40:33 PM PDT by goodnesswins ( The Dems are so far to the left they have left America.)
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