Posted on 08/10/2006 4:13:23 PM PDT by Fishtalk
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"I say this because there's always two sides to a story. I believe the poster and her heartfelt story. But that's HER story and everyone's story is different."
But the stories for the babies are always the same.
Do you really think Hildy considers the ones terminated in abortion to be alive children?
Thank you for sharing this with us. You'll be in my prayers.
"Do you really think Hildy considers the ones terminated in abortion to be alive children?"
I don't have a clue what she really thinks. I just notice a trend to concentrate on the woman's story - the woman's problems - and I'm just pointing out that there is another perspective concerning the ones who are being led into the slaughterhouses. They have a "story" too - but have no voice to tell it.
In my own personal experience...I have had very good friends, coworkers, and aquaintances tell me their own stories about abortion in their lives. Most were regretful...some were not.
Either way the outcome was the same for the babies.
My son is pro-life, however, and he told her if she had the abortion, he would never talk to her again. So she decided to give the baby up for adoption instead. But when we went for her first ultrasound and she saw her daughter move, she decided to keep her.
Teegan will be 3 in 2 weeks. She's gorgeous, smart, funny, loving, and adorable. Her mother is still in love with her father but he does not love her, so they live apart. It's difficult but it sure beats the alternative.
Teegan comes over to her Daddy's house every weekend (he is living at home temporarily so it's really Grandma's and Papa's house), so her Daddy is very much involved in her life. She is incredibly lucky to have a family who adores her, and to have life.
God speed, Fishtalk!
All the best to you, Pat.
"Teegan will be 3 in 2 weeks. She's gorgeous, smart, funny, loving, and adorable"
Congratulation!
It isn't an "ideal" situation, but it certainly does beat the alternative.
If the mother never had that change of heart, she too could have said someday "my life is better now because of abortion" - But that is only because she never would have experienced the joy and love of little Teegan.
Wow! First of all, I am a huge pro-lifer and really dispise abortion. However, I would like to outlaw abortion beginning today. I can't very well hate you or even be disgusted by you for something that happened so long ago. What my thoughts of you are that you are a gutsy lady, brave and a FREEPER. lol. What I believe you did and do today is educate young women on the negatives of abortion and through your experience save more babies than even you realize. Thank you for your story. I wish you the best. I am glad that you have a daughter that has a mother who learned from her mistakes and in the long run is a better parent for it. God Bless you!!!!
They have lives to go on with because they weren't chopped up by an abortionist.
Cordially,
God bless you!
Nothing we said seemed to be working but then one day she told her boss she was pregnant and wasn't sure what to do. It turns out he had 3 adopted children and 2 of them were adopted thru Catholic Social Services, which I had been telling her about. And THAT turned out to be the thing that changed her mind.
Funny how God works...
I went to tell my daughter (who was 14 at the time) that the abortion wasn't going to happen, and she burst into tears. She told me she had been crying herself to sleep every night because of the potential loss of her niece/nephew.
The pain from abortion is far greater than it appears.
I have read your posts and am sorry that anybody put you down for your decisions. I know that I get very nasty when it comes to abortion, but never personally attack a person. In fact, I had no idea of your past. Again you to me are as gutsy and brave as the original poster. God Bless you too!!!!
Confession is good for the soul. Coming to grips with who one is and what one has done can be very painful, for those whose conscience has not been seared beyond recognition. I know from experience. Here is the experience of another poster, recently shared, that may be of some help to you. .
The particulars of your story, and the effects of the deed on all involved, including the father, sadly conform to one lady said about it some time ago:
"America needs no words from me to see how your decision in Roe v. Wade has deformed a great nation. The so-called right to abortion has pitted mothers against their children and women against men. It has sown violence and discord at the heart of the most intimate human relationships. It has aggravated the derogation of the father's role in an increasingly fatherless society. It has portrayed the greatest of gifts -- a child -- as a competitor, an intrusion, and an inconvenience. It has nominally accorded mothers unfettered dominion over the independent lives of their physically dependent sons and daughters"
And, in granting this unconscionable power, it has exposed many women to unjust and selfish demands from their husbands or other sexual partners. Human rights are not a privilege conferred by government. They are every human being's entitlement by virtue of his humanity. The right to life does not depend, and must not be declared to be contingent, on the pleasure of anyone else, not even a parent or a sovereign." (Mother Theresa -- "Notable and Quotable," Wall Street Journal, 2/25/94, p. A14)
"But I feel that the greatest destroyer of peace today is abortion, because it is a war against the child - a direct killing of the innocent child - murder by the mother herself. And if we accept that a mother can kill even her own child, how can we tell other people not to kill one another? How do we persuade a woman not to have an abortion? As always, we must persuade her with love, and we remind ourselves that love means to be willing to give until it hurts. Jesus gave even his life to love us. So the mother who is thinking of abortion, should be helped to love - that is, to give until it hurts her plans, or her free time, to respect the life of her child. The father of that child, whoever he is, must also give until it hurts. By abortion, the mother does not learn to love, but kills even her own child to solve her problems. And by abortion, the father is told that he does not have to take any responsibility at all for the child he has brought into the world. That father is likely to put other women into the same trouble. So abortion just leads to more abortion. Any country that accepts abortion is not teaching the people to love, but to use any violence to get what they want. That is why the greatest destroyer of love and peace is abortion. "
Mother Theresa
Cordially,
"Before either my mother or my older sister were born my mom was pregnant with another potential son. Towards the end of the pregnancy she became extremely anemic and almost died.
If she had not had an abortion, she most likely would have died, and I wouldn't be here today."
Maybe someone with a medical background can help me clear up my confusion here.
I fail to see how an abortion "at the end of the pregnancy" poses any LESS of a risk to an anemic woman than a live birth or C-section. The uterus still has to shed the lining, the placenta still has to come out, and on top of that you are introducing sharp instruments into the womb to dismember the baby. It is a common side affect of abortion that these instruments can puncture the uterus and pose a greater risk to bleeding.
It would seem that a good doctor would attempt to save both the baby and the mother through early induction or c-section.
At age 20, 2 months after I became engaged I found out I was pregnant.
Despite the engagement I had many friends and relatives urging me not to "ruin my life" by having a baby so young before we had a chance to get our feet underneath us.
We had no money, we were excited about the marriage, but not ready for parenthood yet. My fiance had a mountain of student loan debt.
In the eyes of the "world" - there were many good reasons to trot off to the local abortion clinic.
Ironically - it was my good friends who had already had abortions that urged me not to do it. They were suffering. They felt they had been "had". The clinic gave them the 'ole "clump of cells" routine and told them they could move on with their lives.
Later they learned this was all a lie and wish they could have done it differently.
And really...they were only telling me what I already knew in my heart - that this was a living growing human life.
I had made my "choice" when I participated in her conception.
The result is that now she is a beautiful young women who is getting ready to leave the nest for college. She has younger brothers and sisters. I am also thankful for a long and happy marriage that most likely never would have made it had we aborted our own baby.
I could be wealthier, I could have invested more time into a career and status....but when I look at my husband and children I am very pleased with the choices we made.
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