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‘Momblocked’ mothers feel edged out by dads
PMSNBC ^
| 6:31 AM MDT, June 11, 2007
| Victoria Clayton
Posted on 06/11/2007 10:30:30 AM PDT by Excuse_My_Bellicosity
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Several months ago the couple made their way to a marriage counselor to try to work out some of these issues.
Interesting. What's she going to do, complain that her husband is too good at doing his job around the house? We're always told that running a household and raising kids is a horribly difficult and demeaning task for a wife, which justifies them treating the husband as though he just cruises through his easy days at work. If he complains about stress or being tired from the workday, he's just being a whiner. They do this so that the husband doesn't get any ideas about switching roles.
If staying home to raise kids is so horrible and demeaning, why do so many wives fight tooth and nail to do it?
To: Excuse_My_Bellicosity
She should count her blessings and cut the carping. Once the children get older things will change and mom will have more clout.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:32:26 AM PDT
by
x_plus_one
(As long as we pretend to not be fighting Iran in Iraq, we can't pretend to win the war.)
To: Excuse_My_Bellicosity
"I'm unhappy -- and it's all your fault! You won't let me get a job!"
"I'm unhappy -- and it's all your fault! You won't let me stay home!"
"I'm unhappy -- and it's all your fault! You won't do things around the house!"
"I'm unhappy -- and it's all your fault! You do things around the house too well!"
Gee, I wonder how we got here?
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:33:19 AM PDT
by
ClearCase_guy
(Enoch Powell was right.)
To: Excuse_My_Bellicosity
So the stereotype of the bumbling husband and the calm, indispensible problem-solving wife is no longer operative?
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:34:48 AM PDT
by
Larry Lucido
(Duncan Hunter 2008 (or Fred Thompson if he ever makes up his mind))
To: ClearCase_guy
No one respects a Stay at Home father, even if he got laid-off. TAKE MY WORD FOR IT.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:35:11 AM PDT
by
massgopguy
(I owe everything to George Bailey)
To: x_plus_one
Once the children get older things will change and mom will have more clout. Why? While men can be good at mothering, I've never heard anyone claim that mothers make good fathers.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:35:30 AM PDT
by
donna
(Men are the new women.)
To: donna
I think it’s just the one who does the tasks most often becomes the most proficient. It doesn’t matter if it’s laundry, cooking, child care or surgery!
Practice makes perfect!
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:39:22 AM PDT
by
trimom
To: Excuse_My_Bellicosity
Dear Womyn,
Do y’all remember that ad a few years ago?
The one that argued on your behalf, “Who says you can’t have it all”?
Breaking news: It was just an ad. Just marketing schtick.
You really *can’t* have it all.
Undoubtedly, this comes as a huge shock. But it’s the simple truth.
Sorry about that!
(signed)
Reality
To: Excuse_My_Bellicosity
Basically, he was the parent in charge and I often felt trumped, says McClure-Metz. The lies of the feminist movement have caused quite a mess and have left an entire generation of men and women incapable of doing what they are best fit to do.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:40:34 AM PDT
by
SaveTheChief
(Chief Illiniwek (1926-2007))
To: x_plus_one
Most telling quote in the entire article:
"If couples can work out their differences, there are benefits to reap from having a heavily involved dad. Studies show social and academic advantages."
Well, gee. I had never thought of that! I mean, who would have imagined that having a dad involved in his kid's life would actually be a GOOD thing?
Typical PMSNBC/MSM article. Shocked to imagine that 1) dads are even capable of being a parent and 2) some are actually pretty good at it. As for the involvement issue, Dr. James Dobson has preached more involvement in kid's lives by dads for years, particularly when the child is a boy. Of course, he is a religious zealot, so I guess uthat doesn't count!
To: Excuse_My_Bellicosity
McClure-Metz and her husband talked it over and made the same decision many families are making: Dad would stay home full time and take care of their daughter.
Define many, I know of one and he's simply a drunken bum loser.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:42:41 AM PDT
by
HEY4QDEMS
(Sarchasm: The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it.)
To: trimom
Now days, the people that know a child the best is the day care company.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:42:53 AM PDT
by
donna
(Men are the new women.)
To: massgopguy
No one respects a Stay at Home father, even if he got laid-off. TAKE MY WORD FOR IT.
________
Not a stay at home dad, nor have I played one on TV, and I didn’t sleep at a Holiday Inn Express last night, but after I got past the age of 30 (now 49), I really stopped giving a flying you know what about other people think of me. The people who matter recognize what matters.
Those who make life decisions based on what they think other people will think are pretty useless, IMHO.
But massgopguy, if you’re a good stay at home father, I would have no trouble respecting you, for that and whatever other talents you bring to the table. F the other people.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:43:50 AM PDT
by
dmz
To: SaveTheChief
I wonder if mom has to do the yardwork and repairs around the house when she gets home or does her poor abused overworked husband have to do those things as well.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:44:03 AM PDT
by
AppyPappy
(If you aren't part of the solution, there is good money to be made prolonging the problem.)
To: Excuse_My_Bellicosity
I think it’s because most women want to stay home with their babies. They’ll convince themselves they don’t, but if the husband is staying home, that has to throw it back in their faces in a way that just picking the kid up from daycare can’t.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:44:15 AM PDT
by
JenB
To: Excuse_My_Bellicosity
Sounds like she want things both ways.
She wants to be the breadwinner and the Mommy at one and the same time.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:44:34 AM PDT
by
E. Pluribus Unum
("All the measures of the law should protect property and punish plunder." --Frederic Bastiat)
To: Excuse_My_Bellicosity
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:48:39 AM PDT
by
Cacique
(quos Deus vult perdere, prius dementat ( Islamia Delenda Est ))
To: massgopguy
No one respects a Stay at Home father ... If the mom is making more money than the dad, then it makes logical and financial sense for the dad to stay home if they can live without the extra paycheck. What's the problem with that?
I'd have less respect for a father that causes his family to suffer financially because he insists that his higher-earning wife stay at home and not work because his ego is too big.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:48:42 AM PDT
by
pnh102
To: Excuse_My_Bellicosity
But almost four years into it, McClure-Metz began to feel her
husband was maybe too capable.
"D-MN YOU FOR BEING A GOOD FATHER!
And sticking by your agreement to stay home while I go for the
maximum filthy lucre for the family!!!"
That just about sums up the non-verbal and non-vocalized outcome
I've watched as this scenario work out with a family unit within
my extended family.
Sad to see the wreckage when a "liberated" mother realize that she's
forged a deal for money and power...
and is not really a parent of her own child.
But then she was the brainiac that FORCED the deal in the first place!
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:48:50 AM PDT
by
VOA
To: massgopguy
No one respects a Stay at Home father, even if he got laid-off. TAKE MY WORD FOR IT. I spent the first two years of my oldest daughter's life as her primary caregiver under quite similar circumstances. It never occurred to me whether I was appreciated or not by others. I was too busy appreciating the situation for myself! I would not have traded those two years for all the gold on earth. To this day she and I have a close relationship. Of course, she's now 15 and I have become an idiot in her mind, but we are still close.
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posted on
06/11/2007 10:50:08 AM PDT
by
Ignatz
(Did you know that before the internal combustion engine, there was no weather at all?)
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