I can't help it! I'm just drawn that way!"
Posted on 03/12/2008 4:55:51 AM PDT by ciocia
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.
More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.
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So you’re saying your wife being fat gives you a green light to screw around....and you’re what, Gorgeous George?
And how did she gain that weight?
Birthing your babies?
Fixing all those meals you like?
Stopping what she was doing to sit with you and watch a movie?
Not taking time for herself making sure everyone in the house was being cared for?
Eating out of depression because she realized what a huge mistake her marriage was and what a shallow jerk she’d married?
Really? So if someone screams in your face and pokes their finger in your chest just to humiliate you in front of other people, they bear no responsibility for you responding with hostility?
People promote bad behavior in other people all the time. It doesn't excuse the guilt, but it does share it.
When I want to know the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, I look to MSNBC!
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Womens needs (unless she is a slut) are emotional and a mans needs are emotional also but revolve around the physical aspect more than a woman.
The short story is this - Men if you do not provide your wife with the emotional needs she desires you ain't getting laid.
Foreplay starts when you walk through the door.
My wife and I had problems for three years and never once did we stray from each other even though we were about to strangle each other sometimes. Those days are over and we worked everything out and things are going lovely. She provides for me and me for her.
Beautiful.
Dr. Laura does whatever it takes and says whatever needs to be said to make the men like her....sorta like an aural version of the town bike.
I find that extremely hard to believe, unless most of your friends are grade-A zeros.
If one gets past the media paraphrases, past Dr. Laura’s usual least-common-denominator perspective, and past his own defensiveness, one reaches a bedrock of common sense. In general, people who are unhappy in their marriage are more likely to be unfaithful than people who are happy. Duh!
However, bringing this up in relation to the Spitzer situation is idiotic, in my opinion. That falls under the “Some people are absolute pigs, not matter what” exception to common sense.
You are always responsible for yourself and your own self control. Somebody may make you angry but you decide how to respond.
I can't help it! I'm just drawn that way!"
i agree, it really isn’t men vs. women, it is PEOPLE, and both parties to a marriage are responsible for making it work. it really is tiresome to have all of these threads devolve into blaming the opposite sex. Each spouse is responsible for holding up their end of the bargain, when one or both fail to do so, it deteriorates. period.
BTTT
Men cheat on their wives for all sorts of reasons. I have little respect for those who do regardless of their political views.
I am saying that it seems liberal men in power think they are entitled to it. They hold up JFK as their idol and don't feel they've achieved until they complete his example.
That's a big difference.
Nice. Are you a stay at home dad?
You need new friends.
The headline is “...Women Share the Blame...”
The story quote is “wife may share some of the blame”
Operative word being “may”
A big difference.
Done
I agree. I think one of the problems with the discussion is the phrase "sharing blame" or "sharing responsibility."
Several people have been discussing the ways that's a deceptive perspective. If a spouse is unfaithful, the blame is his, and the responsibility is his. (Or hers, if the woman is unfaithful.) If the other spouse has been selfish and unloving, that is also wrong, and he or she can be "blamed" for that, but not for the other's choice of infidelity.
The resulting action (cheating) shows the lack of character on his part. But the issues in the marriage that drove him to that point does not prove a lack of character on his part. Nor is it an indictment of her character. Until they are both willing to sit on Dr. Phil's couch for all America to see, we'll only have numerous scenarios and varying speculation as to why. But it is my opinion and I strongly believe that a spouse cheats because he or she is missing something, no matter how minute, that they can't get at home. It doesn't even have to be a physical desire. It can also be an emotional need as well.
You made what appeared to be a blanket statement about powerful liberal men that seemed to exclude powerful conservative men doing the same thing. My suggestion is that it is not the political persuasion behind the acts, it is the power.
I don’t buy your ‘big difference’ in the slightest.
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