Posted on 05/17/2012 9:17:05 AM PDT by AmonAmarth
Sharon Rosenblatt was talking to her therapist fast and furiously about her dating life, when the woman suddenly interrupted her. "Haven't we heard this before?" the therapist asked.
Was Ms. Rosenblatt offended? Not at all. The 23-year-old, who works in business development for an information technology company, says she specifically sought out a tough-love therapist after graduating from college and moving to Silver Spring, Md., two years ago.
"When there's unconditional love from my therapist, I'm not inclined to change," Ms. Rosenblatt says. Previous therapists, she says, would listen passively while she complained unchallenged.
Whining, as defined by experts—the therapists, spouses, co-workers and others who have to listen to it—is chronic complaining, a pattern of negative communication. It brings down the mood of everyone within earshot. It can hold whiners back at work and keep them stuck in a problem, rather than working to identify a solution. It can be toxic to relationships.
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"You know what makes me sad? YOU!!"
WTF?
I was more than a few years ago, but I remember 23.
I was too damn busy to waste time on a "therapist".
LOL. I had the same thought.
JACKWAGON!
Paging Dr. Laura...?
Having a therapist is a status symbol to liberals.
They want to show that they are “evolving”
My approach below stops this repetitive bs whining. It, also, eliminates me from having to deal with people, who don’t want help, just sympathy.
1. Come to me with a problem, only if you want help solving it. That’s what I do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
2. Don’t hit the rerun button and spew out the same old bs.
She’s been seeing this therapist since she was 21, and she had previous ones before that.
When I was her age, I whined to my girlfriends, and they whined back, and we all got on with life a lot less expensively than therapy-girl.
2008 shows that there are at least 52% of the country. Additionally I know 537 proffesional whiners (senate, house, flotus, potus) who need a good smacking.
In their sties with all their backing
They don't care what goes on around
In their eyes there's something lacking
What they need's a damn good whacking.
- "Piggies" George Harrison
I went to a counselor, briefly, after my daughter was killed. All it made me want to do was rage off and hit people even more.
A man carries his own water.
Right! To get off on the correct foot, why don’t you start with the NAACP?
After my wife died, several people recommended I ‘talk to someone’. For those who take that route, that’s their business and I would not say a word against them. But I do not understand, when I look at ‘many’ of the people who seek therapists, what good results. I mostly see people ‘hooked’ on therapy and never solving their problem. All they do is part with cash and adopt the mindset of the (often liberal) therapist.
For thousands of years, people dealt with their problems alone, with family or a friend priest/pastor. Only in more modern times have ‘therapists’ existed. And profited.
That said, any 2X YO needing a therapist just to live day to day is beyond ridiculous. it’s attention seeking.
Nothing more.
But I do not understand, when I look at ‘many’ of the people who seek therapists, what good results. I mostly see people ‘hooked’ on therapy and never solving their problem. All they do is part with cash and adopt the mindset of the (often liberal) therapist.
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The first objective of any therapy session is to set the appointment up for the next therapy session.
We used to call stuff like this “A Self Licking Ice Cream Cone”
I saw a therapist for about a year and a half after my father died. I couldn’t go to family because THEY were part of the problem, and it’s difficult to approach and deal with your problems on your own when you’ve grown up in a home environment that paralleled North Korea in some regards—i.e. you have no grasp of what’s “normal”.
My therapist was of a “tough love” bent—she didn’t want to hear the same crap over and over again, and she pushed me to face and deal with my problems. It helped in some areas more than others, but it definitely did help me.
Some people spend more time in it than others, but some people have deeper problems, and you have to WANT to fix yourself. I think the latter is a key problem of people who lean on a therapist for years without any progress...they want somebody to magically fix them without any effort on their part, not somebody who will enable them to fix themselves. (And yes, there are plenty of unscrupulous therapists who regard patients as income streams.)
Actually I can relate. The majority of my ‘family’ (immeadiate and extended) was anything but ‘family’. Mine was more Alice in Wonderland (heavy on the Queen of Hearts) than NK though. Living in a fantasy world where reality and imagination intertwined effortlessly. Those of us half way sane left and never looked back.
And I do understand that in some cases there are indeed genuinely good therapists. But it’s also my belief that they are so few in number that the vast majority of the profession is nothing more than a scam/propaganda operation.
Sorry for your loss, I have 4 daughters and could not even imgagine what you went through. Therapy might work for some people and not for others I would imagine, but really it is these little whiny liberals that see a therapist when a nail breaks. Peace to you brother.
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