Posted on 12/02/2012 7:21:17 AM PST by SeekAndFind
I used to watch the old “Divorce Court” TV show back in the 1980s. Boy, did that smarten me up fast about all the different ways relationships can go wrong. I had a fiance that I didn’t end up marrying. At the time, I was devastated but, later on, I counted it as one of the great blessings of my life. She was amazing looking but our personalities simply weren’t compatible and I was too young/stupid to give up on her. Luckily, she did it for me.
I’m guessing he looks in the mirror and sees an idealized version of himself. Half your age plus seven, indeed. What these guys do t tell you is that once they marry the twenty year old desirable they’re out again in ten years looking for their next twenty yr old. Look at Rush Limbaugh—love him to death but once one of his wives gets near to forty he’s back shopping for another gal under thirty! It’s not the age difference that appeal to these hopeless guys, it’s the age!
Heartfelt conversation? I’m afraid he can’t hear or see you unless you’re twent five and eager for sex. He’ll be on one of FRs wimmin hatin’ threads shortly.
you do need maturity to pick the right mate for life, which is why parents used to do the picking.
The article misses this point.
I agree that it’s better for people to marry young, but only if they are not doing the picking, but instead their parents are who have the maturity to know who is the right person for their child to marry.
lol, yea I can see that. Have had the misfortune of knowing far too many dweebs who are equally shallow. Gotta wonder, did peter pan have that much of an effect of him?!
It actually makes me chuckle. I’ve seen and known far too many older men who are convinced that young 20 something is going to be right around the corner.
Thought you might have some opinions on this issue.
I waited until I was older and wiser to embrace the single, celibate, and sane lifestyle.
There aren't any do-overs in life, or I'd embrace the SCS lifestyle when I was 5. ;)
I'd still have money, anyway.
/johnny
Yes, that's a carburator in the bathroom sink soaking in gasoline. Don't smoke there.
You just can't do that sometimes when involved in human pair-bonding.
/johnny
*chuckle*
bump for later.
“There would always be memories, thoughts, and images that were shared in previous relationships that would influence, and to some extent shape, the future marriage. Memories from past relationships can linger for dozens of years and threaten the foundations of even the most stable marriages.”
Had I known the damaging and negative effects of allowing myself to fall deeply in love in high school, I would have forced myself early on to avoid it at all cost. Everyone that I dated afterward was a comparison, whether I was aware of the fact or not. My husband was the first man who was able to stand on his own, though after 20 years together, in recent years, old demons have returned.
There definitely is something to marrying earlier, and avoiding going from one relationship to the next.
I was in my early-mid twenties at the time. The church I was going to then had some strange views on dating as well. I went to a brunch after Sunday morning service with one woman from the same church. Same age. During the evening service I got taken aside by one of the deacons and was lectured that I did the same as shacking up.
hear, hear!
When I was young... getting accused was permission to do whatever I had been falsely accused of.
/johnny
It's not a bad thing for a man to have had sex with many women, because men don't get pregnant--and that makes all the difference to our evolved behavior.
That said, in the long run it is not a good thing emotionally to use women for sex. If you have any sort of conscience you will regret it as you mature.
It is bad spiritually and morally
Charming! I have no issue with living alone currently, just not interested in spending the rest of my life alone. We are designed to bond, imo, and as such I haven’t had any success turning off that desire.
Of course I’ve done both, living alone before marriage, and with kids after and now alone. I imagine you have as well.
My benefit is not having to squeeze out of the car in the garage, stuffed with Lord knows what ;-)
Having done the married with children thing for almost 25 years... I'm good with the rest of my life being devoted to quiet contemplation, being single and celibate, and never, ever, ever dealing with sharing a bathroom again.
/johnny
Typical misanthropic response from the most miserable, desperate, life hating sicko on FR.
Living your days hating everything, standing for nothing, pathetically whining is no way to live.
But you seem addicted to all of that.......
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