Posted on 07/05/2003 6:09:10 PM PDT by carlo3b
The "Oh no, not me" Male Complex!By Chef Carlo3b
NOT MUCH SEX IN THE CITY, or anywhere else for that matter if you are a maturing male, and experiencing some pretty common problems. For some men, being over 50, even if you are in great physical and mental health, can pose some really serious problems, and you may require the male equivalent of the 50,000 mile check-up.
The Problem
The "Oh no, not me" complex comes to mind! Contrary to popular belief, Men do not always think about sex, especially if it questions his own performance. Most men are, by nature, forbidden from thinking about sexual difficulties, and NEVER, any suggestion of a diminished capacity.To face what is the 3rd rail of masculinity, is to confront nature's call... the dreaded " I " word. Speaking of I, as in me, I would rather wrestle an Rabid Alligator than think about Impotence, or any variation of the squishy references to problems in the bedroom... But that doesn't change the facts.. and, it may be time to play with fire..
The Awakening
Most middle-aged men have begun to experience something equivalent to erectile dysfunction (ED). It isn't so bad if you think about it as a wake-up call, rather than a the distant sound of the male death rattle. It is in the worse case scenario, the inability of a man to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for his sexual needs or the needs of his partner.To suggest, or even worse, to discover, that you may not be, what you thought you were, (and probably never were to begin with.. DUH), is to admit you are reaching the end much quicker than you thought. Face it ..or deny it. Most men find it much safer to deny it.
Most guys start to experience this natural, evolutionary phenomenon, at some point in their lives, usually beginning around the age of 40. However, most men do not acknowledge it until it bites him on the ass. If you refuse to face it, the results are nearly always devastating, and the infamous slippery slope comes into play.. self doubt, lower expectations, refusal to engage in sex, and the true destruction of most relationships.. the total avoidance of intimacy for what is sadly, and subconsciously perceived as self preservation.
Have I got your attention yet...
Sounds pretty bad doesn't it? Avoiding the problem can be. Truth be known, it is not just bad, but this could be fatal. A life without sex or intimacy, is actually horrible for your health, physically, and mentally. Here is were it gets really interesting, This problem does not have to be end of the world, and this scenario, as serious as it is, can in most cases be easily averted.What in the heck is wrong with me...
Nothing is wrong with a man, or woman that have changes in their lives, on any or all levels. We have all been taught to recognized the ramifications of Female Menopause, but how often have we confronted with what is the equally as lifealtering as the Male equivalence of Menopause, clinically refereed to as Andropause. Androgen Deficiency, is the loss or decreasing levels of androgens, or testosterone.I do not intend to play Doctor here, (although I have played one on TV.. ha), however, a decrease in male hormones begins to create a physiological and chemical change in maturing males. This phenomenon, generally takes place between the ages of 40 and 55, although it can occur earlier or much later.
The most common symptoms of Androgen Deficiency, or, according to author Jed Diamond, in his book, "Male Menopause," he concluded, men experiencing this phase of life, "need longer to recover from injuries and illness, less endurance for physical activity, weight gain, thinning hair, sleep disturbances, irritability, and reduced interest in sex.."
Awareness, is the key to overcoming the natural injustices of life, and there are a milieu of other causes for many of the symptoms of sexual dysfunction, in the reverse order of causation;
TOP TEN REASONS
10) Fear of rejection
9) Physical limitations, stroke, handicap
8) Chronic tobacco use
7) Alcoholism, or frequent drinking habit
6) Prolonged drug addiction, cocaine, marijuana, hallucinogenics...
5) Illnesses requiring medication, i.e.: high blood pressure, prostate, heart conditions, diabetes.. etc
4) Stress
3) Depression
2) Physical condition, (weakness, lack of exercise, weight gain)And the #1 reason for hitting in a Sexual Slump... drum roll......
DIETYes, diet ranks at the top of the list of reasons most men can not achieve their sexual potential! In later chapters we will address how, and what you can eat, that can change your lives in the most dramatic fashions imaginable. Many of the most treatable conditions listed above can be altered by changing your eating habits. As and example, weight gain, which makes exercising so difficult. Atherosclerosis, the hardening of the arteries, caused by deposits of fatty substances, high cholesterol levels, platelets, cellular waste products, calcium and other substances build up in the inner lining of an artery inhibiting blood vessels and restricting blood flow..
Just avoiding cooking with animal fats, and switching to olive oil, can drastically raise your natural endorphins, which remove stress or pain, and change the condition of the blood flows to the extremities of your body, resulting in enhanced and prolonged erections... Ba da bing..
Did you know, that there are foods, such as natural aphrodisiacs, that stimulate the normal body functions, that have been used throughout history, to create high sexual interest in both women and men? Ba da boom
Any of this sound familiar?The Silver lining...
WHAT? Are you nuts? How can there be any SILVER LINING?
For most men, having discovered any of the symptoms as an early warning sign, can dissuade much of the long term destructive behaviors, and choices can be treated, corrected, and/or avoided, before they consume your relationships. Having been detected early, these common problems can be stopped in there tracts.Now what...
Having been made aware of the rules and red flags in the game, now is the time to take the ball and run with it. Lets get a handle on the problems and take the first step in solving them. Now with our help lets start to tackle, and remove the simplest roadblocks.Cooking now takes on a whole new world of fun, ...that is aside from holding your family and sex life together.. it tastes good too... blush.. smirk!
Copyright: Carlo3b, Morelli Publishing Inc.
Stated as clearly as possible, my ethos concerning the affairs of the heart, begins with the importance of experiencing deep emotions. Just as it is a normal feeling of exhilaration, watching a blazing fire, LOVE, or hate for that matter, pumps up the juices so to speak. Emotional caring, as in loving, turns on the flames of life.
Additionally, few of us exercises as much as we should, and to add to the problem, the poor folks that are depressed, seldom move at all. Loving someone brightens up your day and motivates you to get up and live a little, adds a spring to you step, and a smile on you face. Those simple emotions and movements will most assuredly add that "I want to live" dimension to your existence, and thus, increase the quality, and years to your life..
Now.. pay attention.... the act of lovemaking, that heart pounding, sweat producing, exhilarating and exhausting experience, of intercourse,...you remember... is as aerobic as a 400 meter sprint of the body and mind. Movement is good for you. Every organ, tissue and cell in your body works better when it is active. Movement is wonderful for your body, and vital for your spirit. Even thinking about movement or watching it makes you feel better. A frolicking colt, a tumbling puppy, romping children bring smiles to all that witness it. It is hard to conceive of feeling bad after a roller coaster ride, a downhill ski run or a merry-go-round spin. A soaring jet, racing in a car or a speedboat creates excitement. Movement and excitement is a major upper, a high. My dear friends, who can argue, that loving someone, or being loved is the highest of high?
Clinically, more than one medical study has shown that people who feel loved are less likely to develop heart disease. A famous cardiologist at the University of Kansas Medical Center, published that there is more than some science behind the findings, that caring and loving has more to do with curing stress, than medicine.
"Stress is hard on the heart and does cause changes in circulation, and less stress would be better for the heart. So people who feel loved may be less stressed," said Dr. Kevin Mulhern of the KU Medical Center. Mulhern went on to say, "people who feel loved tend to take better care of themselves, too".
I add life to your food and excitement to your relationships through food.. the love canal from your mouth, through your heart and body... starting with your taste buds, then your eyes light-up, ..then your puckering lips.. then...then...sigh
Sooooooo, get up, go out, get started finding someone special for your life. Find love... Buy a turkey instead of being one...and live.
My wife would be upset if I was getting all the exercise you suggested and she wasn't here to help.
You got something against poultry??
;~D
Fair? Did I say anything about fairness? Since when is anything concerning women fair to a man? My clinical, nutritionally healthy advice to you is, you had better look really stressed when you get home... hahahahahahahha
I see that your tag line says, (HHD with 4 Chickens)..??????? WELL..a..er.. Now I'm not entirely sure, exactly how I really feel about fowl ..GULP....... Bwhahhahahhahhah
Indeed, I felt somewhat aquiver with anticipation as I was writing it as well.. I am pleased therefore, that my ruminations had their intended results with some of my more sensitive recipients.. Smiles
On my way out the door to find a turkey now!!!
My calling..Thats it!...It's what I want to be when I finally grow up... A Freepin Twitteror
Take that turkey ...and STUFF IT! Just be careful where you put that thermometer!... o<]:^P~
Sharpining my twitlestick...bring'em on!!
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