It's very important for people like Lopez to get the truth out to the public about the inherent abuse involved in being raised even by "good, stable" gay parents.
Posted on 01/14/2015 6:41:31 AM PST by wagglebee
As the 5th Circuit Court of Appeals considers whether to strike down laws in three states banning same-sex “marriage,” four adult children of homosexual parents have filed court briefings arguing that government-sanctioned homosexual unions could lead to disaster for thousands of kids.
Katy Faust, Dawn Stefanowicz, B.N. Klein, and Robert Oscar Lopez, who were all raised by homosexual parents, each submitted briefs to the 5th Circuit opposing the legalization of same-sex “marriage.” Recounting childhood memories of households made deeply dysfunctional by their parents’ sexual appetites and the radical subculture that went along with their “gay” identities, all four argued that redefining marriage to include homosexual couples will likely lead to the exploitation and abuse of countless children for political and personal gain.
“I grew up with a parent and her partner[s] in an atmosphere in which gay ideology was used as a tool of repression, retribution and abuse,” wrote B.N. Klein of her lesbian mother and her series of live-in lovers. “I have seen that children in gay households often become props to be publically [sic] displayed to prove that gay families are just like heterosexual ones.”
“While I do not believe all gays would be de facto bad parents, I know that the gay community has never in my lifetime put children first as anything other than a piece of property, a past mistake or a political tool to be dressed up and taken out as part of a dog-and-pony show to impress the well-meaning,” Klein wrote. She added that as a child of a lesbian mother, she was pressured to pay “constant homage and attention” to her mother’s gay identity, taught that “some Jews and most Christians were stupid and hated gays and were violent,” and told that homosexuals were “much more creative and artistic because they were not repressed and were naturally more ‘feeling.’”
While Klein classified her upbringing as abusive, Robert Oscar Lopez told the court that his own childhood upbringing by his mother and her longtime partner represented the “best possible conditions for a child raised by a same-sex couple.” Even so, Lopez testified that the lack of a father figure in his life, combined with the influence of the radical gay culture in which he was raised, gave rise to a devastating confusion about his own sexuality and ultimately led to his becoming a homosexual prostitute in his teen years in order to fulfill his craving for acceptance and love from older men.
“Had I been formally studied by same-sex parenting ‘experts’ in 1985, I would have confirmed their rosiest estimations of LGBT family life,” Lopez wrote. “[But b]ehind these façades of a happy ‘outcome’ lay many problems.”
“I experienced a great deal of sexual confusion,” Lopez wrote. “I had an inexplicable compulsion to have sex with older males … and wanted to have sex with older men who were my father’s age, though at the time I could scarcely understand what I was doing.”
“The money I received for sex certainly helped me financially because it allowed me certain spending money beyond what I earned with my teenage jobs at a pizzeria and in my mother’s [psychiatric] clinic. But the money was not as impactful as the fact that I needed to feel loved and wanted by an older male figure, even if for only as short as a half hour.”
Lopez said that he has spoken to dozens of other adult children of homosexuals, and that many of them have similar stories of pain and damage inflicted by the absence of a biological parent and the unwanted “step-parent” type relationship demanded by their homosexual parents’ lovers. Lopez included testimonies from nine of them in his brief, but said there were many more who were afraid to speak out for fear that the homosexual lobby would target them for harassment like they have Lopez himself.
“Children raised by same-sex couples face a gauntlet if they break the silence about the ‘no disadvantages’ consensus,” Lopez wrote, after recounting how homosexual activists harassed his employers and spread lies about him on the internet after he first came forward about his own childhood experiences as the son of a lesbian. “In such a climate, I must conclude that placing children in same-sex couples’ homes is dangerous, because they have no space or latitude to express negative feelings about losing a mom or dad, and in fact they have much to fear if they do.”
Katy Faust also testified that children of homosexuals are intimidated into silence by gay activists who threaten them with public shaming, job interference, and worse for daring to speak out against same-sex “marriage.”
“Some adult children with gay parents shy away from making their thoughts about marriage public because we do not want to jeopardize our relationships with those to whom our hearts are tethered,” Faust wrote. “Unfortunately, many gay-marriage lobbyists have made gay marriage the sole badge of loyalty to our LGBT family and friends.”
“The label of bigot or hater has become very powerful and effective tools to silence those of us who choose not to endorse the marriage platform of many gay lobbyists,” Faust continued. “For much of my adult life I was content to keep my opinions on the subject of marriage to myself. I was (and still am) sickened by the accusation that I was bigoted and anti-gay for my belief in natural marriage.”
“For many years those devices kept me quiet,” admitted Faust. “I didn’t seek a venue where I could share my views. But I have come to realize that my silence, and the silence of others, has allowed for the conversation to be dominated by those who claim that only animus, ignorance, or indoctrination could lead one to oppose ‘marriage equality.’”
Faust said that her outspokenness against same-sex “marriage” stems from her belief that every child has a right to a relationship with his or her mother and father.
“When we institutionalize same-sex marriage … we move from permitting citizens the freedom to live as they choose, to promoting same-sex headed households,” Faust wrote. “Now we are normalizing a family structure where a child will always be deprived daily of one gender influence and the relationship with at least one natural parent. Our cultural narrative becomes one that, in essence, tells children that they have no right to the natural family structure or their biological parents, but that children simply exist for the satisfaction of adult desires.”
Dawn Stefanowicz echoed the sentiments of the other three, in a frank and graphic testimony of her childhood with a promiscuous homosexual father who later died of AIDS.
“It is quite difficult to discuss the implications of growing up in a gay household until later in adulthood when we have developed a measure of personal identity and independence apart from our GLBT parent, partners and the subcultures,” Stefanowicz wrote. “We are often forced to approve and tolerate all forms of expressed sexuality, including various sexual and gender identity preferences.”
“As children, we are not allowed to express our disagreement, pain and confusion,” wrote Stefanowicz. “Most adult children from gay households do not feel safe or free to publicly express their stories and life-long challenges; they fear losing professional licenses, not obtaining employment in their chosen field, being cut off from some family members or losing whatever relationship they have with their gay parent(s). Some gay parents have threatened to leave no inheritance, if the children don’t accept their parent’s partner du jour.”
“The special-interest GLBT groups and so-called support groups for kids sometimes act, or function, as fronts for a far darker side that silences, intimidates and threatens the children who want to share the truth, allowing only a politically-correct version of our childhoods to be heard,” Stefanowicz continued. “These special-interest groups support political and legal objectives toward same-sex marriage, ignoring the horrendous inequality, permanent losses and prejudice to children in the name of adult sexual rights. Children lose forever their rights to know and be raised by their married biological father and mother.”
A three-judge panel of the 5th Circuit heard oral arguments (audio here) regarding the legality of state bans on same-sex “marriage” last Friday. However, it could be months before they issue an opinion.
Meanwhile, the U.S. Supreme Court on Monday declined to review a lower court decision upholding Louisiana’s ban on same-sex “marriage.” The high court is still considering whether to hear arguments concerning bans in Ohio, Michigan, Kentucky, and Tennessee.
Militant homosexualism is destroying people simply to fuel a perverse lifestyle.
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Been saying for years that they use kids as props and brainwashing , sad that even some liberaltarians and so called conservatives on here refuse to see facts about the homosexual agenda.
The Homosexual Movement is about nothing more than how two adults copulate. It’s solely about hedonistic pleasure and has nothing to do with procreation. It’s about lust and the furtherance of emotional and psychological perversion between two deluded adults.
I was raised by a single mother who did a bang up job, but I can cite several personality shortcomings that might have been less prevalent had my father been in the picture in my formative years. As such, while I am wholly against the idea of homosexual marriage or “parenting,” I am also wholly against the modern idea of marriage.
We’ve become a society of perverts whose sole reason for “marriage” is that the sex is good. We no longer marry for the right reasons, and that’s an even bigger problem than this minority nuisance of homosexuals wanting to pervert the next generation of innocents.
illuminating the shadowy world is always right.
this development..however is altogether unexpected,
Thank you,
I knew it I just knew it! God made man and woman the plan is perfect for we mortals.
Period.
The chickens are roosting.
I doubt the judges will be impressed. They have decided the outcome in advance.
It's very important for people like Lopez to get the truth out to the public about the inherent abuse involved in being raised even by "good, stable" gay parents.
A church dominated by homosexuals and child molesters is hardly in a position to advocate for families that consist of a father and a mother. It’s like a bootlegger advocating sobriety.
very well said
There are no children of gay parents. They are the child of someone else, and one of the gay parents. Or they are the child of a “surrogate” mother.
Fake motherhood, artificial insemination, donor sperm, are all abominations and unnatural.
” We’ve become a society of perverts whose sole reason for “marriage” is that the sex is good. “
Respectfully, no we aren’t. We have allowed MAYBE 2% of the population to run roughshod over the other 98%. The MSM,POTUS,
and a handful of morally bankrupt judges are doing this to us. Our sin is not fighting back more effectively.
Notice the strong similarities between radical Islam and radical homosexuals:
1. Both are essentially religions, encompassing a comprehensive worldview. It’s not something they do, but who they are.
2. Both are essentially rooted in sex.
3. Both become violent when their religion is “blasphemed,” striving to destroy such “infidels.”
It’s obvious to me that both groups are indwelt by demons.
bfl
Ping.
The total amount of pedophilia + ephebophilia in the Catholic Clergy amounts to less than 2 percent — comparable to the rate among married men. This was the research finding of Pennsylvania State University Prof. Philip Jenkins, eminent religion and history scholar, and a non-Catholic who’s studied the church’s abuse problems for 20 years.
Jenkins said there has been no formal study comparing denominations for rates of child abuse. However, insurers have been assessing the risks since they began offering riders on liability policies in the 1980s. Two of the largest insurers report no higher risks in covering Catholic churches than Protestant denominations (Jenkins, Pedophiles and Priests).
But are you saying that the Catholic Church should not advocate for children's right to be raised by a father and mother who are married to each other? Surely you can't mean that. Why should the Church support the rights and well-being of children?
Source?
The only comprehensive study that I'm aware of is the John Jay Report, which put child sexual abuse by priests at 1-2%, ministers at 2-3%, and public school teachers at 5-10%.
Regardless, is what the Church teaches true? Isn't truth what matters, and not who's speaking it?
Robert Lopez is an amazing and brave man. He truly has laid everything on the line. He very clearly lays out the agenda of the militant gays on same-sex “marriage”: child adoption and trafficking children from other countries that require a married couple in order to adopt. You want to live the ‘gay life’, go for it - just leave “the children” out of it. They deserve a mom and a dad no matter what (and that goes for you heterosexuals as well).
BTW, have you noticed how the movies and tv programs are encouraging heterosexuals (ie, normal people) to engage in the same promiscuous and dangerous sexual practices common among gays- Breitbart (wrongly, I think) showed a very disturbing image from a cable tv show to prove this point.
Refreshing to see the truth come out from unexpected witnesses to these hypocrisies.
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