Posted on 08/29/2013 1:31:42 PM PDT by Olog-hai
Men feel worse about themselves when their female partners succeed, according to a new report.
Men’s subconscious self-esteem is related to their female partners’ successes and failures, the study showed.
However, the same does not ring true for women—they do thrive in the shadow of a successful husband. …
(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...
Yes, it is sad. It’s an attitude I have a hard time trying to understand. I believe anything that maximizes income to the home is a good thing, as long as it’s honest money. Why should I have a problem if baby makes more than me?
"Always?" As in more than once? Oh no, it's quite over, but he still has to throw what little money he makes down a rat hole to try to win her treacherous heart, and he's oblivious. If she's getting close to graduation, then she's probably turned off the sex part by now....
“It depends what major the PhD is in....”
She’s in Psychiatry, don’t know what variety, and she already has an offer. Apparently she’s close to graduation, but still hasn’t agreed to a marriage date. I’m thinking Boy Toy already knows (from his expression when he told me) but he’s playing the hand to the end as he’s invested years in her.
Seems to me that it bothers people outside the marriage more than anything.
Mignt be, but might not. Not many decent men out there at her level and a woman would do well to find a loving stay at home guy. I know several docs that do that...the husbands call themselves writers or artists...but they are actually moms and homemakeers.
Yes, that’s a very astute observation of the original story.
It seems to me that a lot of people make themselves and others unhappy about stuff that really doesn’t matter. A lot of people make foolish choices in life, and when it turns out badly, they can’t understand why.
Gosh, if everyone were as sensible as I am, things would go so much better!
The World Never Changes
There is a Societal Premium for
1. Beauty in Women
2. Size in Men
Nothing Ever Changes
Additionally,
Women can have great worth by just Being Themselves
They can Create New Lives,
this is a Very Powerful Gift
Men can’t, They have to find worth somewhere else
I think CC’s point was that there are lot of jerks that keep sticking their noses in other peoples’ business. What business is it of Joe down the street if baby makes more than I? Joe seems to think I should be upset.
And yes, I agree, you are one of the most sensible people I know. ;^)
Kinda helps when the said wife constantly berates the hubby, calling him a “nobody”...
And to think, the poor guy was happy as a clam in his career and home -til he married the self-serving, ambitious creep.
It actually worked very well for my daughter and I. I worked primarily from home, but also went into town to an "office" a few hours a day, and also to the Capitol Building when the legislature was in session. Child was always with me.
When my husband and I met, I was making much more than he was on an average basis. In the ensuing 25 years, it has fluctuated back and forth I don’t know how many times - neither of really care!
I married “above my age group and above my class” according to my dear friends. My decade younger wife graduated from one of the top institutions in this country and then doctorate level to boot. I have been spending more time with our kids lately while she knocks the world about. She needed me on short notice about three weeks ago to rally a construction project critical to a Fall launch. Design to execution to completion in two weeks of non stop work sun up to sun down for me and my crews. I am now a hero and can kick back again for another year with the kids. I love it! Problem, what problem...
Read that as “below my age group..”
Possibly!
Oh, I see. That makes sense. Being concerned about other people's opinions seems instinctive. We certainly find it in children. I spend a lot of time telling my kids, "What difference does it make what So-and-so thinks? If you like it, you like it!"
And thank you!
I think that’s what happens when your marriage is a project you’re both working on. All sorts of factors can change, but you-together doesn’t change.
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