That's good ! Now You need to get at least 7 copies of each because they will be needed.
So far I’ve not been able to get anyone at social services or SS to answer the phone.
That's not uncommon at the beginning and end of the month. Social Services should be County/State stuff. Social Security is Federal crap and I have been on "Hold" (or what I call "Ignore") with them before. SS should pay a Spousal Death amount, IIRC it's $255.00
<> Tried to get a duplicate driver’s license online because mine melted in the fire but the fact that he’s on vehicle titles shot that down. No idea how to get him off of them.
His name on vehicle titles should have absolutely NO effect on You getting a Replacement/Duplicate Drivers License whatsoever !!! You will need a Death Certificate to get any Vehicle Title changes completed.
Didn’t have money to bury him so the er people suggested science donation and did but then they called and said the living can’t donate the dead, the dead one had to have made arrangements themselves. They told me to contact Rocky Gap veterans cemetery and I did. Sent them photo of his discharge papers. He’s in Baltimore at the Body Board place and I have to call them back Monday to see if he can be a special exception, or if they’ll cremate him or what.
You do know that the VA will help with the disposition of the body and should offer burial services, Honor Guard, IIRC some sort of $$$. I'm going to contact another FReeper about details and get back to You.
Otherwise I have to pay for that and drive a long way to pick him up in a car that was t boned and leaks vital fluids now.
What fluids are leaking ?
I can’t go to an ER because I have NO health insurance now.
Yes You can !!! See below.
He cancelled the payments from his state check that provided protection of any benefits for me after his death back in 2009 or so and didn’t tell me.
I'm not understanding what You are saying here. Please elaborate.
I can’t get medical care until I somehow get Medicaid or whatever.
YES You can !!! They are required by law to treat You. They will have someone from administration come by and verify Your information (name, address, phone #, DOB, age, etc. When they ask for Insurance info tell them "I don't have any right now." Then tell them what happened with Your rightful Benefits getting screwed up. When they ask how much money You can pay right now ? You tell them "I don't have any money right now, please send a bill."THAT IS HOW YOU DO IT !!! The illegal aliens that come across Our border do this all the time, everywhere !!!
No idea how long that’ll take and cannot be racking up any bills as I’m having to pay bills he owes now.
DO NOT PAY ANY BILLS RIGHT NOW EXCEPT: Water, Electric, Gas, Sanitation for the house so you have shelter and basic things for daily life including food, beverage, dog food, and gas for transportation. You keep any money You have IN CASH AND ON YOUR PERSON !! DO NOT PUT ANY MONEY IN THE BANK/CREDIT UNION !!! VERY IMPORTANT !!!
His state check had a specific deduction that paid for my benefits to continue if he died.
He cancelled that without telling me sometime after his triple bypass in 2010.
I read that I would have to have signed a consent form for that to happen and I did not.
He came off that bypass machine a “different person”.
That’s when things went bad between us.
He was like a “walk in” in or something and was not the guy I knew the week before.
He swears I signed that form that cancelled my benefits but no way I would have.
The state probably didn’t check “my signature” so I have my suspicions he did it himself.
There are a lot of autopays that I have to keep up, like the dog’s health insurance, etc.
There is a business account, a general house account, my personal account that he is attached to somehow *but* I created a separate account for the house insurance checks solely under my name and control.
He’s not on that and had no way to access it because I didn’t trust him to not buy motorcycle crap with it during one of his “where am I?” Episodes.
Is that safe to keep?
I don’t even know if the bank will let me walk out with that much cash and it scares me anyway.
$5000 of the dog’s cancer fund was burned because I had it in cash, hidden in a box in the bathroom because he had a habit of “borrowing” my dog money and never paying it back.
So I kept it where he never knew about it and it got seriously singed.
I’d have to buy a fireproof lock box then deposit x amount every time for the necessary autopay stuff when it was due.
The license issue seems to stem from him “forgetting” to renew plate stickers long before the fire.
People have no idea what was going on without my knowledge long before he had the excuse of the fire.
I feel like I’ve woken up in some alternate reality and the life I thought I was leading was all a lie.
Still have no idea how I’ll finish the joint filed tax stuff we to an extension for.
I. Am. Lost.
The fluids are brake and radiator.
All I have asked of him Since the fire was to maintain and check the car but somehow a whole gallon of antifreeze “disappeared” one night.
The week before he brake reservoir was empty.
I feel like I’m losing me mind.
WTH was he trying to do to me??