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How to Build Up Your Life from Nothing.
Metallicman ^ | Posted update 6-3-2019 | Editorial Staff

Posted on 06/02/2019 7:06:48 PM PDT by vannrox

This is the full post of the article. It is in honor for all the new graduates that are just now entering the work force.

How to Build Up Your Life from Nothing.

Here are my thoughts on what a young man can do to build up his life when he exits school. It does not matter if the school is college, High School, or elementary school. There comes a point in time when you need to make the transition from a student to a worker.

Everyone has their thoughts on this. Here are mine.

What Can we do?

If you are a millennial, and you do want to work and provide a living, but cannot. There is some hurtle in the way; some problem. Maybe you don’t even know what it is. You have zero guidance. It’s just a big blank slate.

What to do?

Here is what you do. You need to seek out help and advice. Do not try to do it on your own. Ask for help. Keep asking until someone helps you. People will brush you off. Ignore them. Get answers get help.

Do not be passive about it. Ask for help. Go to different people. Go one by one. Keep on trying. Keep going until you have someone willing to help you.

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Don’t try to do it the hard way, on your own. Seek guidance. Go to a favorite uncle. Ask your father, or your grandfather. Ask. Never be afraid to ask.

Go to a crowded barber shop and ask. You will hear all kinds of bullshit, but through all that bullshit, you will find one or two mean who will genuinely offer help and suggestions.

Talk with other men. Heck, I am always willing to take hardworking people under my wing.

I spent three days a week for 10 years educating myself in the public library, and it's better than college. People should educate themselves - you can get a complete education for no money. At the end of 10 years, I had read every book in the library and I'd written a thousand stories.

-Ray Bradbury

A young man needs to work. He needs to carve out his life, and do it on his terms. That takes money.

Money gives you Ability

The first thing you need to do is get a job; any job. Start getting money into your pocket.

Start putting money in your wallet.

Keep in mind that the hardest and most unpopular jobs pay the best. That might mean that you might need to wash windows in a skyscraper. You might need to crawl inside of a railroad container car and scrub it out. You might need to empty industrial waste, or scrub toxic biological germs out of a hospital. You might need to work from three in the morning to seven in the morning cleaning up an office building. You might need to shovel pig shit, or determine the sex of chickens (you shove your pinky in the rectum of a chicken).

It doesn’t matter what you do. Work. Get some money and save it.

Save the money you earn. You will need it later.

Humphry Bogart as DobbsDon’t be under the impression that I had it easy. I actually lived in a van for a number of years. I starved, and lived off of onions and mustard packets. I worked at jobs and had my pay stolen by the managers. Life can be difficult, but a man endures. Even so while everyone around him laughs.

Don’t be under the impression that I didn’t do what I had to do. I did the ugly stuff, and the difficult stuff, and I smiled when I did it too. That’s life.

You will come home with blood-blisters on your hands, and so tired that your hands shake. You deal with it. Your neck might be so sunburned from the hot sun that when you put on a shirt the searing pain might cause you to pass out. Your hands might be so covered with oil and grease that it would be impossible to clean them entirely. The gasoline stains in your clothes might be so terrible that they never come out. Your girlfriend might want sex, but you are too tired to service her. Hey, that is life, if you are a man. That is what real work is.

The entire time while you are working and saving, plan. Remember that you are a Man. You plan.

Men plan, and map out the life that they will live.

Plan on how you can use that money to improve your work situation. Don’t fall into the corporate trap; you get a good high-paying job and plateau. That is a trap that you will never get out of. Don’t use the money to enhance your life. That you can hold off for a year or two. Just concentrate on a real (short) intense period of making your life happen.

Plan.

Keep going forward. Some days it will seem that you are hardly making any progress. Ignore that. Just keep going. Do not give up.

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Keep this in mind. You need to do is understand that everything around you is fake. The news is fake (unless you are still part of the 0.000001% who still thinks that Donald Trump is a Russian spy). The food is fake. The taxes and the promises of what they will be used for is… fake. You are in the world. Fight for what you need. Fight, and don’t give up. You will make it.

The first and most important thing that a young person can do today is to make money.

This is your task. Find a way to put money into your pocket. Then once you get that money HOLD ON TO IT.

Money can be easily squandered. Do not let that happen to you. You get the money, and you stash it away safely.

Do not follow the Herd

No. Don’t follow the herd.

Do not do what the rest of the people are doing.  You ONLY what will benefit YOU. Life is not a some-size-fits-all. You take the opportunities as they present themselves to you. If college will help you achieve your goals, then go do it. If it doesn’t then do something else.

When I went to college, it was at a time when only a handful of people could attend. The education was valuable and you could obtain a job based on your studious efforts. That is not the case today.

Everyone can go.

Today everyone can go to college. As such, you just become a debt-serf in the process. Today, we really need to see if this is what is in your best interests. Are you willing to become a debt-serf and give a huge percentage of any money you earn to a bank AFTER you give a huge percentage of your money to the government in taxes? Think about it. College might not be right for YOU.

Take a good long and hard look at what your options are. Only go to college if there is a very strong chance that you can benefit from it. Otherwise, I would suggest some other avenue of approach.

Bogart and the MexicansA man strives and moves forward no matter what the dangers are. For people WILL certainly see your poverty and youth as a weakness. They will take advantage of you. But move forward anyways.

Today, I look at my High School classmates. You know, the ones that I went to school with a half a century ago.

Today, the rich ones are actually the ones who started their own stores, gas stations, laundromats, and tie-dyed tee-shirt shops.

Meanwhile, the smart ones, those of us who attended college, are “professionals”. Yeah. However, the fat is that we generally live “hand-to-mouth” at the whims of market forces. Without a doubt,  our employers often don’t give a “Rat’s ass” about our lives

Options:

College and Universities are now flooded with people, thus diluting the job pool.

You will NEED to be an exceptional person to survive the market trends when you leave college. Instead, consider using the four years (normally reserved for college) to strike out on your own, and give you advantage.

That’s the key. That’s the secret.

You need ADVANTAGE.

Dobbs looking for gold.Life can be really hard, especially when it seems like everyone else is doing better than you. Do not be fooled. many are not. They are just wearing the necessary masks and driving around in rented machines. Don’t fall for that illusion. You are a man. Stand up and carve out your life.

'Imagine you're at a concert, and you stand up to see better. Now imagine if everybody stands up.'

I already did imagine that which is why I didn't purchase a $100 concert ticket, and I instead purchased the album and stayed home.

-MusicIsYou

Be Positive and Kind

The world is full or grouchy old stogies like myself, and young bucks that haven’t a clue. Don’t be like us. The secret of success in this world is an open heart and a willingness to learn. Be kind, and everything will work out.

Turn off the news. It’s full of bullshit.

Tone down the social media. Most people on it, you wouldn’t want to share a pizza with, so why waste your time chatting with them? Shut off your negative friends. Life is too short.

Put only good stuff in your body. That is the stuff that you like, and to hell with everyone else. Don’t listen to anyone else. Follow your heart.

Dobbs on his own.Life can be unfair. Everyone will tell you that you are wrong. Everyone will tell you what a fool you are and how hopeless your dream is. Do not believe them.

That means good food, good water, good thoughts and surround yourself with the good in his world.

For the longest time, especially when I was down and the world seemed to be against me, I would listen to motivational tapes. Listen to Les Brown. Keep your outlook positive. Follow your dream. Do not get sidetracked. Follow it.

“If you take responsibility for yourself you will develop a hunger to accomplish your dreams.”
 Les Brown

Follow you dream. Do not allow anyone to tell you that you cannot have it.

My background was from my time. This is YOUR time, and you are a direct result of it. It is neither right nor wrong. It is just simply what it is.

As such, you need to make the most of it.

There is one important step that you need to take to claim this as yours; be kind.

Be a Man

Bronco Billy is living his dream.Be like Bronco Billy. Live your dream. You don’t have to be a poor shoe salesman in New York city. You can recreate your life into something that appeals to you. Don’t be afraid. Follow your dream.

In a cutthroat world, it is refreshing to meet a man who keeps his word, looks another in the eye, shakes your hand solidly and says what he means. You can choose to be the man that you want to be, or you can be the image of what others want you to be. It’s your choice.

If you don’t know what I am talking about, watch the movie “Bronco Billy”. Learn from it.

Start today. Start NOW.

Bronco Billy.We can reinvent our life. Do what Bronco Billy did. You can define your life on your terms, by doing things YOUR WAY. Don’t let others tell you who you are. You do it.

Act like an American

I like to say, “Act like an American”, but over the years this saying has turned into a insult. I blame socialist progressives rewriting the narrative. Never the less, when I suggest that you “Act like an American” I mean this…

The American's creed.What being an American actually means. You know the internet has rewritten what the American’s creed is. Now, it has been rewritten to be something much different. It is now a pale reflection. Go to Wikipedia and read the new “politically correct” rewritten version. Sad. I really hate how the internet is being used to rewrite history. This rewrite you can blame President Obama on. The Americans Creed (Image Source.)

If you, the reader, are unaware of the saying and what it means then I strongly suggest that you have been propagandized and manipulated by a false narrative and bogus history. Isn’t it great about the internet? You can rewrite anything when you control the history books!

Ha! What are you? (Are you) a socialist puppet parroting the common narrative or a free man living life on your terms? You choose. Be the parrot, or be who YOU are.

If you want to carve out your life, then you will need to saw off those chains that limit you.

Do not take anything personally

Which brings me up to this important point; don’t take anything personally.

Nothing that other people do is because of you. When another person does something, they do it, based on their decisions. They make those decisions based on their knowledge, emotions and personality. If you had any role in it, it would have been a terribly tiny one.

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When others blame you, know that they are just using rhetoric . It is a technique to manipulate you. It is a technique used to control you. It plays with your emotions and often results in things that are not in your favor. Do not believe them.

Stay away from people who blame you, condemn you, and make your life miserable. Real men avoid them. Be a real man. You know guys, sometimes you need to cut off an arm when bitten by a rattlesnake.

Don’t make Assumptions

For you to be successful, you will need to be able to communicate.

If you don’t know something, ask. If you want something, ask for it. If there is something that you need, communicate.

You need to have the courage to ask questions and express what you need. You need to do so clearly. Otherwise, you risk misunderstanding and drama.

Remember this; if you do not ask the answer will always be no.

Take note that some people enjoy drama, and will pretend not to understand you. It is a form of manipulation. Avoid these people. They have nothing to offer you.

Go to Church

If you read some of my other posts, you might be surprised in this. Yet it is true. We need religion and ritual. We need to connect with a higher power and a higher sense of purpose. We need God.

This isn’t an option. We as human beings need, NEED, God in our life.

Keep on walking.Have faith. Things will change. You just need to keep on going. As the saying goes… “When you are going through Hell… keep on walking.”

You might have the entire world up against you. You might be dirt poor. You might be alone and full with negative people. You might be starving, but there is one place where you will be welcome NO MATTER WHAT. Go to church.

Go to church.

I’m not going to preach to you. I just suggest that you go to a place that will not judge you. I suggest you go to a place that will welcome you with open arms.

If I would be so bold, I would suggest an “Assembly of God”. They tend to be very open to new faces. I have attended a wonderful Baptist church in Corpus Christi, and a fantastic Methodist church in Erie.

You might need to “shop around”, but go and seek out a church for yourself. There are churches full of busybodies, and churches that are just “old”. Go to a church that has life, one that is full of people in your age group.

Maybe the church of your parents just doesn’t fit you, well do not let that limit you. Explore and try to understand. God is greater than any of us. Give yourself up and meet others who are exactly like you.

I suggest that you go to church, worship God and join the community there. You might be surprised what you will find there.

Do your Best

By doing your best, you can accept failure.

You will find out that your “best” is going to change from minute to minute. There will be days when you are super healthy and will be able to take on the world, and then there will be days when you cannot. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed when you are sick. If you know that you did everything you could at the time, then you know that your defeat was beyond your ability (at that time).

Under any and all circumstances, simply do your best.

Do your best. Keep trying. Keep on doing your best. You will make mistakes. You will face failures. You will hear from everyone else telling you that you were a fool, a dupe, a rube, and just plain stupid. It doesn’t matter. Just keep doing your best.

Don’t believe them.

The successful people NEVER tell you this. This is what unsuccessful people say. When these losers tell you that you have failed, do what I do. I recite a poem, snort quietly (with disdain), smile, and leave. Never look back. Don’t pause no matter what they say to your back. Just leave.

They usually stand there perplexed not understanding what just transpired.

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The formula for individual success is well proven and documented. Do not give up. Keep to your plan. Keep working it. Avoid distractions and keep moving forward. It will be alright. It will work out fine. Things will be ok.

No Excuses

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"We have been destroying most of the chances any young White Male has to get ahead for decades. I especially like how old men will talk about how they made it with nothing in their pocket and traveling to a new city when they were young. 

I always think "Ya try that today". I am an X'r myself and I can see how much easier I had it over these kids today. Sure the bright top 1% still manage but we have placed so many blockers in front of young White Men these days it's a wonder they haven't turned on us by now."

-Beltain

Do not use any excuses for anything. Forget about race. Forget about ability. Forget about what other people are doing. Forget what your friends say. Forget it all.

Do not compare yourself to anyone or anything. Focus on one thing at a time. Focus like a laser beam, and don’t give up

Never give up.

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Never. Ever. Ever. Ever. E.V.E.R. give up. Fight for what you want.

Be a MAN.

Fight, and fight, and fight, and fight.

When it gets hard, keep it up. Don’t give up. No excuses.

Be the robot that will never give up. You get punched down, and you get right back up and keep on fighting.

Fight. Fight HARD. Never give up.

Be the robot that never gives up.The movie “Real Steel” is about many things, but here it is the story of the little underdog robot that would never give up. It just went out there, into the ring. Time and time again, it would go out and fight…fight…fight. It never gave up. Be that robot.

Even if you are on your knees, and are being pummeled left and right, keep it up. Don’t give up.

Keep fighting.

Fight until you cannot. As you lie there, blood running from between your smashed teeth, open your one swollen eye, push yourself up off the floor. And keep on fighting.

Never give up. Never Surrender.

While this was a catch phrase on a movie parody of Star Trek it resonate in that there are many disguised truths protrayed within it. Never give up and never surrender is one such truth.You must never give up. Never surrender.

The girl says no.

You ask her out again. She might say no, yet again.

Wait a day or two. Ask her out again.

Don’t be a stalker. Just be nice and friendly. Tell her that you like her and you just want to share a coffee or a meal and talk. Expect nothing else. Keep on trying.

Keep trying.

Never give up.

Aside from obtaining your goals and objectives, you might find that your ability to get what you desire is extremely attractive to the opposite sex.

Don’t be a wimp. Be a fighter.

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Opportunity

By being “out there” and trying, your efforts WILL be noticed.

You can say that others might notice, or you can say that the “spirits” will notice. Whatever. You will be noticed, and opportunity comes from hard work.

Opportunities arise from effort.

When an opportunity does come up, give it EVERYTHING you have. It will come. It will probably be unexpected, and will not be what you intended. It doesn’t matter. Treat each opportunity as exactly what it is and grab it like a starving dog with a bone. Hold on and don’t ever let go of it.

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Do your best. You must. Come in early, work better faster and harder than everyone else. Don’t complain. Smile a lot. Be the best worker that you can be. Be the best;  get so good at your job that you are “invaluable”. Become important in your role.

When we were kids my mom and dad ran a little business. We weren’t poor, but neither were we rich. 

When I turned 14 my father informed me that I would be working there during the summer and every school holiday. He made sure to give me the worst possible jobs at the lowest possible pay. 

At the time I hated him for it. 

After he died I took over the company, and by then I’d learned the value of a hard won dollar and an honest days work, so I was unspeakably grateful for what he’d done. 

He was a depressed, miserable, and cranky old bastard, and he was one of the best teachers a man could ever have. 

-Three Economic Lessons I Learned from my Dad

Again. Do your best. You must. Come in early, work better faster and harder than everyone else. Don’t complain. Smile a lot. Be the best worker that you can be. Be the best;  get so good at your job that you are “invaluable”. Become important in your role.

My company just hired this new 18 year old kid, a real go-getter, always getting up on your grill asking meaningful and relevant questions and actually trying to learn the trade. He's always watching to see how you do things and then wanting (if not demanding!) a crack at it himself. 

That's one thing I don't mind a young kid demanding: go for it dude, I sense that you've watched me enough and can do it to a quality standard.

At the end of the day I don't even have to ask the kid to grab a broom, he just sweeps and packs up tools. He'll really work out. Says he's saving to buy a house and, you know what, he'll have it by the time he's 21 or so without all the college debt and the brainwashed mind.

-Zero Hedge comment by Mazzy

Make the person who gave you that opportunity feel good about you. Doors will open wider for you.

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Role Models

My dad was a great, flawed, successful failure of a man who taught me many things. He loved us but he was mean, he took care of us but he was cheap, he was fun to be around and a nightmare. He was social but had hangups, he divorced my mom but never abandoned us. He was a showman, a curmudgeon, a viper, a friend, an enemy. A complicated man who enjoyed simple things. About as easy to understand as a rubic's cube.

I miss that magnificent bastard.

-Three Lessons in Economics that I Learned from my Dad

You should have a good role model to emulate. I am not talking about fictional characters like Tony Sopranos, or Rocky Balboa. I am talking about real flesh and blood individuals who lived life on their terms. I for one, admire the “Rat Pack”. But you can decide who you would like to emulate.

Find a guide. A sure way to get lost in the woods is to explore an unknown area without a guide. In business, find a mentor to guide you through the wilderness. 

What ever you do, don’t be a raunchy playboy like Justin Bieber, or some metro-sexual like Barrack Obama.

Choose someone who defines life on their own terms. Like, perhaps, that fellow who landed on the beach on D-Day wearing a kilt and carrying a broad sword. Or, maybe like this man. Here is a man who lived life to the fullest. I can only wish that someone would write up my biography with such amazing aplomb.

From HERE.

Irishman Dies from Stubbornness, Whiskey  14DEC16

Chris connersThe late, great, Chris Conners.

Chris Connors died, at age 67, after trying to box his bikini-clad hospice nurse just moments earlier. Ladies man, game slayer, and outlaw Connors told his last inappropriate joke on Friday, December 9, 2016, that which cannot be printed here. 

Anyone else fighting ALS and stage 4 pancreatic cancer would have gone quietly into the night, but Connors was stark naked drinking Veuve in a house full of friends and family as Al Green played from the speakers.

The way he died is just like he lived: he wrote his own rules, he fought authority and he paved his own way. And if you said he couldn’t do it, he would make sure he could.

Most people thought he was crazy for swimming in the ocean in January; for being a skinny Irish Golden Gloves boxer from Quincy, Massachusetts; for dressing up as a priest and then proceeding to get into a fight at a Jewish deli.

Many gawked at his start of a career on Wall Street without a financial background – but instead with an intelligent, impish smile, love for the spoken word, irreverent sense of humor, and stunning blue eyes that could make anyone fall in love with him.

As much as people knew hanging out with him would end in a night in jail or a killer screwdriver hangover, he was the type of man that people would drive 16 hours at the drop of a dime to come see.

He lived 1000 years in the 67 calendar years we had with him because he attacked life; he grabbed it by the lapels, kissed it, and swung it back onto the dance floor.

At the age of 26 he planned to circumnavigate the world – instead, he ended up spending 40 hours on a life raft off the coast of Panama.

In 1974, he founded the Quincy Rugby Club. In his thirties, he sustained a knife wound after saving a woman from being mugged in New York City.

He didn’t slow down: at age 64, he climbed to the base camp of Mount Everest. Throughout his life, he was an accomplished hunter and birth control device tester (with some failures, notably Caitlin Connors, 33; Chris Connors, 11; and Liam Connors, 8).

He was a rare combination of someone who had a love of life and a firm understanding of what was important – the simplicity of living a life with those you love.

Although he threw some of the most memorable parties during the greater half of a century, he would trade it all for a night in front of the fire with his family in Maine.

His acute awareness of the importance of a life lived with the ones you love over any material possession was only handicapped by his territorial attachment to the remote control of his Sonos music.

Chris enjoyed cross dressing, a well-made fire, and mashed potatoes with lots of butter. His regrets were few, but include eating a rotisserie hot dog from an unmemorable convenience store in the summer of 1986.

Of all the people he touched, both willing and unwilling, his most proud achievement in life was marrying his wife Emily Ayer Connors who supported him in all his glory during his heyday, and lovingly supported him physically during their last days together.

Absolut vodka and Simply Orange companies are devastated by the loss of Connors. A “Celebration of Life” will be held during Happy Hour (4 p.m.) at York Harbor Inn on Monday, December 19.

Amen Chris. Amen.

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Alternative Path

January 9, 2019Kim du ToitAdvice, Business, Guy Stuff, Men & Women

I have often ruminated that young men need to evaluate their career choices very carefully before picking the one they think will work best for them.

Increasingly, it’s become apparent that going to college is not a worthwhile option for them — unless they want to be hounded, harassed and vilified just for the “crime” of being a man, that is.  (10,000 instances of false accusations, man-hating professors and the courses they teach have been omitted on grounds of brevity.)

Now, we’ve seen in other spheres what men do when they feel that the game rules are loaded against them, or that participation leads not only to inevitable failure, but even to a compromised future.  The dating game is one such activity, where men have either deliberately turned the rules of the game against women and used them to their own benefit — or have simply eschewed all participation in the face of assured failure (going their own way — MGTOW) and simply created a parallel life outside the game.

I’m suggesting an alternative to the career game.

Don’t go to college, at least until the rotten system has collapsed under the weight of its own prejudice and misogyny misandry, and been replaced with a better deal.  Ignore the vested interests of people and institutions who preach the lie that you can only be successful with a college degree.

If you’re super-smart and driven like Michael Dell or Bill Gates, of course, you don’t need to be told this.  But only a very few men, in any  activity, are in that rare 0.00001% of super-achievers.

But for the vast remainder, there is an option:  work in industries where the vast majority of women can’t or won’t participate.  I’m talking about the heavy, dirty and sometimes thankless jobs (Mike Rowe-type Dirty Jobs) which not only don’t require a college degree, but where a college degree might even be a hindrance and not a qualifier.

Just last week I came across a guy who was an oil field worker.  He’d fled from Venezuela right after that thug Hugo Chávez came to power, and in the eighteen years since had worked his way up the ladder, in oilfields all over the world.  Now, at age 45, he’d finally reached the point where he didn’t have to work  the oil rigs, just visit them and see how things were going.  Along the way he’d acquired a wife, two preteen kids, and a $750k house in Plano where I picked him up to take him to the airport.  He’d completely lost his Hispanic accent (when he left Venezuela he couldn’t speak a word of English) and was also fluent in Arabic and (ahem) German.  When I asked him if he had a university degree he just laughed and said, “What for?”

What for, indeed.

Here’s the point.  I know it’s going to be difficult for Millennials and their successors to handle this, but working dirty jobs is hard.  It requires dedication, stubbornness and of course a willingness to get one’s hands dirty, and sadly, because of the education industry’s indoctrination of kids, this choice is often dismissed or demeaned.

It shouldn’t be.  If you weigh the eventual benefits of dirty work — where, by the way, your exposure to militant feminism is going to be minimal to nonexistent — against a useless degree coupled with crippling debt, this should not be a difficult decision.

Is this risky?  Not as much as you’d think.  Just the other day, our local community college broke ground on a campus which apparently is going to be dedicated almost exclusively to the “hard” careers — automotive service and repair, construction, welding, plumbing, electrical work, manufacturing and so on — but I’m not going to suggest you look to such an institution for your education / training;  what’s important is simply to realize that for such an event to have taken place, there must be a crippling shortage of young men willing to get into those fields, and this is the Establishment’s attempt to address it.  (It’s complete bollocks, of course — you’d do better by getting an apprenticeship at a real place of work.)

So, in the paraphrased words of Ayn Rand, go “Galt” and make your own way in the world.  You may not succeed, of course, but remember that failure is equally (or, in these times, more) likely with a freshly-printed college diploma clutched in your hand.

Become a watchmaker, if you’re mechanically inclined.  Work in construction, if you’re strong in body.  Get an apprenticeship in a trade, preferably an ugly, dirty and tough one where just by virtue of being a man you face no competition from women.  I guarantee you, there’s a tough job out there for any man if he’s prepared to go for it.  And if your first one (or several) choices don’t work out, find another one that does.

Let women take over non-jobs like human resources, clerical jobs at the DMV, cubicle management, bank tellers or benefits administration at Global MegaCorp Inc., and laugh as the life force is drained from them.

Here’s the challenge:  be a man

Not today’s version of “male” figures who argue over craft beers and fashion accessories.  I’m talking about real  men, who do things for themselves, push aside barriers with confidence and, eventually, end up with women (like my friend Raul, above) who appreciate them for their qualities and for the security and families they can provide.

When I asked Raul if his wife worked, he looked at me in puzzlement and said, “What for?”

If this guy taught a class, he’d create a generation of achievers.  He would never do such a thing, of course, although he would (and does) train other men to succeed as he has.

Now get out there and make something of your life that does not include words like “curriculum”, “term paper” and “Diversity Studies”.  You’ll be a world better for it.


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To: NewJerseyJoe

P4L


3 posted on 06/02/2019 7:15:19 PM PDT by NewJerseyJoe (Rat mantra: "Facts are meaningless! You can use facts to prove anything that's even remotely true!")
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To: vannrox

What a bunch of BS,
It is not your life, it is Gods life. He has a great plan for you.
Your role is to find the gifts God gave you and give them away.


4 posted on 06/02/2019 7:15:55 PM PDT by jonose
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To: vannrox

Have to have an idea of what you want to do.

Then look on the internet, newspaper, talk with friends and look for potential opportunities and pursue them, even those that don’t sound like your perfect, ideal opportunity.

The objective is to get something reasonable, you can look for and get something better later.


5 posted on 06/02/2019 7:18:35 PM PDT by Innovative
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To: jonose

“give them away.” Can you clarify that?


6 posted on 06/02/2019 7:19:51 PM PDT by Fungi
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To: vannrox

Thanks for posting.


7 posted on 06/02/2019 7:22:50 PM PDT by BipolarBob (AOC is the Democrat prophecy come true : "A bartender will lead them".)
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To: vannrox

ChiCom netagandists hate br and previewing.


8 posted on 06/02/2019 7:31:30 PM PDT by ifinnegan (Democrats kill babies and harvest their organs to sell)
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To: jonose; vannrox

Dude’s an internet propagandist for the Chinese Communist Party.


9 posted on 06/02/2019 7:33:05 PM PDT by ifinnegan (Democrats kill babies and harvest their organs to sell)
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To: vannrox
The girl says no.

You ask her out again. She might say no, yet again.

Wait a day or two. Ask her out again.

Don’t be a stalker. Just be nice and friendly. Tell her that you like her and you just want to share a coffee or a meal and talk. Expect nothing else. Keep on trying.

Keep trying.

Never give up.

...and be sure to always have a lawyer on retainer

10 posted on 06/02/2019 7:42:43 PM PDT by hole_n_one
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To: jonose
What a bunch of BS,
It is not your life, it is Gods life. He has a great plan for you.
Your role is to find the gifts God gave you and give them away.

Let me guess, you're not the encourager in your sphere of influence.

The guy spends hours upon hours thinking about and writing from his own life experience, and you dismiss it out of hand in three simplistic lines. You think you won him over to your way of thinking with those lines? Hardly. But that wasn't your point, was it? It was all about you and how YOU didn't like it, and how you have a much better way.

Where's the grace, man, where's the grace?
11 posted on 06/02/2019 7:44:31 PM PDT by tenger (Be thankful we're not getting all the government we're paying for. -Will Rogers)
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To: vannrox

“Never Give Up!”


12 posted on 06/02/2019 7:52:45 PM PDT by Big Red Badger (Despised by the Despicable!)
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To: vannrox

A Grand Son May Read It,,,
for twenty bucks.


13 posted on 06/02/2019 7:57:06 PM PDT by Big Red Badger (Despised by the Despicable!)
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To: vannrox

Good article. Thank you.


14 posted on 06/02/2019 8:12:29 PM PDT by old-ager (anti-new-ager)
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To: hole_n_one

...and be sure to always have a lawyer on retainer


Sometimes it works. I asked a girl out every day for two weeks before she finally went out with me.

We’ve been married 51+ years.


15 posted on 06/02/2019 8:18:23 PM PDT by chaosagent (Remember, no matter how you slice it, forbidden fruit still tastes the sweetest!)
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To: vannrox

16 posted on 06/02/2019 8:31:13 PM PDT by Vendome (I've Gotta Be Me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BB0ndRzaz2o)
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To: jonose

Where do you and how?


17 posted on 06/02/2019 8:32:57 PM PDT by Vendome (I've Gotta Be Me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BB0ndRzaz2o)
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To: vannrox

Clapping...


18 posted on 06/02/2019 8:34:51 PM PDT by Vendome (I've Gotta Be Me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BB0ndRzaz2o)
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To: chaosagent
Good for you!

However, that was then, this is now.

Employee A to Employee B: Your hair looks nice!

Next you know you're being investigated by HR.

19 posted on 06/02/2019 8:40:47 PM PDT by hole_n_one
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To: hole_n_one
Fortunately, there does seem to be some flexibility when it comes to the workplace and sexual harassment
20 posted on 06/02/2019 8:49:17 PM PDT by hole_n_one
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