Posted on 03/04/2017 7:51:06 PM PST by proud American in Canada
Interesting.
He did have a heart attack about a year ago and I think he’s
Frightened.
Thank you, FRiend. :)
Yes, we do have fun and laugh together.
I just miss the closeness.
True. Talk to someone. Only YOU can determine whether or not you should file as nobody else is walking in your shoes.
Rule #2 anything you say on the Internet will be used against you..
I was married over 20 years, our parting of ways was painful and took too long. I tried everything to make it work, it just wouldn’t. Maybe yours will. I hope it will.
Never initiate a divorce, especially when you have kids under thirty.
If your spouse files for divorce, it’s on them.
Up and until that point, put in the effort to try and make things better and find a way to make yourself happy.
Unless there is physical abuse, staying together is what your kids expect and want, and marriage isn’t about you or your spouse, it’s about the kids.
I guess that’s marriage. :-)
God made it that way.. I guess we would learn patience? Who knows.
Only He does.
Thank you all for your advice...Got to get to sleep.
FReepers are the best..!
Not until your daughter is at least 18
But you don’t say if you have been the kind of person he wants to come home to. Women complain about there husbands but often don’t see that they have been too busy being a mom to be a wife
No advice to give you, my friend.
I have not had that experience.
Just a prayer for guidance for you, and an admonition to not give up.
Fungi thinks he’s clever; he’s obviously not. It’s bad enough we had a man-child president, but it’s just as lame to find vacuous type Fungi here on FR.
Wow. Thanks for nothing.
This was posted in chat. Nothing of real importance. Just wanted some advice.
Interesting screen name by the way....
Actually anonymous people can give some of the most useful / unbiased advice.
Thank you so much, FRiend!
Thank you so much, FRiend!
This changes a mans outlook. Contemplating ones own mortality isn't as easy or calming as in the movies. Performance issues can usually be overcome with a physician. Try to find a non-confrontational way to approach him about this "distance" you feel. Find a friend (preferably one of your own gender) to fill in part of your time. You need to maintain social ties to give you balance in your life. Prayer helps. I wish you all the luck in the world.
He may be having issues for which Viagra might be needed. I had a roommate that by age 35 he said his plumbing was not working and he’d need a prescription for it if he got married. That plumbing issue is often cholesterol blockage, of which your husband’s cholesterol levels could have helped lead to his heart attack. The first major symptom of cholesterol issues in many men is the plumbing problem, which blocks the tiny vessels which lead to a man’s physical reaction.
As we age or get fatter, our hormones shift away from those that made us robustly male and female. Sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG) sequesters the hormones we favor. For men at least, this takes away a lot of “bedroom drive.” If he wants to see if this is it, “stinging nettle root extract” can temporarily block the effects of SHBG, making more testosterone freely available (as when we were younger).
I have only spoken of physical manifestations in a man’s body, but obviously there are many other possibilities to consider. If you have a good relationship, as you’ve stated, talk with him.
Divorce is a poor choice from the concerns you’ve provided us today.
Thanks!!!
Trying to answer everyone. So many caring people here!!
“A son 21 and daughter, 17.” I have learned from divorce lawyers that a couple should do anything to avoid a divorce: say please, thank you and live in separate parts of the house.
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