Posted on 10/03/2018 10:28:49 AM PDT by PresidentFelon
Concerning the maelstrom that is the Judge Kavanaugh confirmation battle, and to those of you that believe any uncorroborated accusation made by a woman should be believed simply by virtue of her gender, I have a story for you.
I have posted below a message I received from the Hendricks County Courts warning me that the protective order I filed on a woman two years ago was about to expire, in fact it expired yesterday. This woman is someone I met more than four years ago, about six months before going through a divorce after my wife of 20 years ran away with another man.
In mid to late 2015, while sitting in Legends Pub and Grill in Avon, a close friend introduced me to a woman who was half my age. I sat and talked with her for nearly an hour and a half, most of that time spent trying to help her deal with some issues from her childhood that she told me about and were obviously troubling her. Anyone that knows me knows I spend a lot of time trying to help other people because that is my nature. Unfortunately, my own psychology is that of a rescuer ... which also makes me a potential victim of a person like I'm about to describe to you.
This younger woman's father had run away from her mother and her four children and they eventually found themselves homeless, living in cars, sleeping beside buildings and eventually homeless shelters, at least that's what she told me. The experiences she described were awful and I had great empathy for her and what she had to endure. I left after a nice discussion with her and didn't see her for sometime.
Eventually I ran into her at Legends and she started pursuing me... and would hit on me when she came into the bar. On several occasions I made it clear to her that I was married and asked her to stop flirting with me as it was easy to tell she was trying to pull me into a relationship with her. She was a very attractive and desirable woman, but my own personal integrity and love for my wife would not allow me to destroy my marriage, my own dignity, nor hurt my wife in any way.
Nearly 8 months after I met her, and about two months after the separation from my wife, I ended up in the same bar as her on a Friday night and allowed her to seduce me. This was the beginning of a 16 month relationship from hell that ended up like a story straight out of the movie Fatal Attraction.
During the course of the next 6 months she love-bombed me into submission and I fell for her. She was young, very attractive, seemed to like everything I liked and appeared to be my soulmate, something we are all looking for. She was perfect and... that is exactly what she wanted me to think.
You see, I had met a "psychopath", a very disordered woman who suffered from a whole range of behavioral manifestations associated with Cluster B, Axis 2 personality disorders. Her symptomatologies were of a person suffering from narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) with comorbid behavioral characteristics assigned to to antisocial personality (APD), borderline personality disorder (BPD) and two or more other personality disorders as defined by the 5th edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual on Mental Health (DSM-5).
After a few months of bliss I realized there was something not quite right with her as she started behaving erratically and accusing me of things I would never think of doing. As the relationship proceeded her behavior became more extreme and she became violent. During the course of the relationship she committed violent acts against me at least 15 to 18 times.
She would start conflicts for no reason, often late at night while we were laying in bed. She would often hit me and claw my body or my face leaving deep scratches on my torso and cheeks. She also would occasionally throw things at me, once hurling a cell phone at me from about 3 feet away which fractured my cheek and gave me a black eye which lasted for nearly a month. She was extremely violent and demonstrated almost no guilt or remorse related to her actions. To her disordered mind, I deserved it.
But much more painful was the emotional abuse. She would call me names, frequently accuse me of cheating, become angry and deride me for any little thing, start arguments and become terribly violent and virtually drive me crazy with her behavior. The most disheartening and frustrating part was, she truly believed things for which there was no evidence or basis-in-fact. It was mind-boggling.
Then it REALLY got bad in what is called the Discard Phase.
There are three phases of a relationship with an extreme narcissist; Idealize, Devalue and Discard. it is surprising how formulaic their behavior is and all of them follow these same three steps, some going through all three phases within a period of 3 to 6 months and some doing it over a period of 20 years or more.
People with these types of disorders can become very, very cruel. They are very vengeful and will pay you back for not living up to their unrealistic ideals of perfection that you must demonstrate.... or for rebelling from their attempts to control you. Her way to pay me back was to do such things as text me to tell me she had sex with another man or accuse me of being a closet homosexual having affairs with other men. It was crazy and made no sense, but that was my life from which there seem to be no escape... because they have this uncanny ability to control you. Extreme narcissists are masters of manipulation. Once they get their claws in you it's hard to get away, for many reasons I'm not going to explain right now, it is simply hell on Earth.
I guess it was the stories of her terrible childhood and my own codependency issues that allowed me to rationalize her behavior and forgive her as I tried to save her from herself. I was determined not to abandon her as her father had...and prove to her that I was different...hoping that she would realize that I truly loved her and would not give up on her. I believed she was testing me because she is sure that everybody will eventually abandon her and I was determined to prove her wrong by enduring anything she threw at me.
I couldn't have been more wrong or more stupid!
Most of us believe that everybody thinks the same way we do, has empathy and respect for others and would never harm someone else. I was quite naive in my assumptions and I simply didn't understand what I was dealing with. You see, I was in love with a monster. A person with little empathy, conscience, remorse or guilt. The reality is, I was in a relationship with a malignant narcissist or dark triad personality and a very dangerous person who threatened to kill me more than once.
I kept running away from her, sometimes for as much as a month, but she kept pursuing me and for some reason I would always go back. She believed she he owned me and that is exactly how an extreme narcissist thinks; you're but an object to elevate their status, entertain them or bring them pleasure, not a human being. You are but an extension of them and they own you and they always will.
This is what I've learned after studying Cluster B personality disorders for the last three years and learning everything I could possibly learn about her mental illness. I studied her psychology because I needed to understand why she acted the way she acted and why I let her break down every boundary I had and treat me that way. I could now give a very long and detailed dissertation on their psychopathy and the behaviors you should expect from one of them... and it is some very scary stuff.
After sixteen months of mostly terrible, haunting misery, I finally ran away from her on September 10th of 2016. Eight days later, on a Sunday while sitting at home, my doorbell rang. It was a Hendricks County Sheriff's Department officer holding a restraining order which he handed me and explained was filed by my tormentor at the Hendricks County Courthouse. She had gone to the courthouse on the 14th, 4 days after I ran away from her, and signed an affidavit that claimed I had "unwanted sex" with her, was stalking her and had threatened her.
I virtually laughed when the Hendricks County Sheriff handed me the restraining order because it was so ironic and unbelievable that it was I who was being accused of potential crimes. After all, It was her who had victimized me, stolen from me, committed violent acts against me... and I'm the one being persecuted by the courts and the one whose good name was being besmirched and dragged through the mud.
Luckily for me I had saved all text messages and instant messages she had ever sent me, over 15,000 of them between us in less than a year-and-a-half. The next week I went down to the courthouse and filed a restraining order against her, listing nine different incidents when she had committed violence against me. I also included photographs I had taken of injuries to my face and body that she inflicted on me. The court immediately placed a restraining order on her and notified her by mail. At the same time I filed a petition for a hearing to have the restraining order on me dropped because there were no grounds for such.
After spending nearly two weeks building a case and organizing 22 exhibits including text messages that clearly showed she lied on the affidavit she filed with the court to obtain the restraining order on me, we went to a hearing.
Anyone who's ever been to Family Court in Hendrick County knows what I now know, there is little justice in that court. Despite all the evidence I provided and the lack of any evidence on her part, the judge upheld both our restraining orders and I was now not only a victim of a psychopath but also a victim of the court system.
So, to anyone that wants to tell me or argue that a woman's is always to be believed when she claims a sexual assault or other crimes against her person, you are going to be vigorously and forcefully challenged on that illogical assertion. There is absolutely no right to an assumption of truthfulness or honesty based on your gender. The scars on my body and soul scream otherwise and I will not be silent in the face of such an outrage that are the attacks on Judge Kavanaugh by a woman who has waited 35 years to make such damaging assertions and provided absolutely no forensic or corroborative evidence to substantiate her claims.
Everyone deserves the presumption of innocence until facts prove otherwise. Those of you that refuse to do so need to take a look in the mirror and ask yourself what you've become. The treatment of Judge Kavanaugh by the Democrats, the media and their followers is despicable, disgusting and an affront to all that is decent about this country and I will not be silent... and you should not be either.
Pretty crappy way to become a psychiatrist.
>>>and allowed her to seduce me<<<
???
The fatal moment of weakness...
bookmark
It’s pretty obvious to all that Christine Blasey has some serious personality disorders and unresolved conflicts which lead her to justify all sorts of actions that are either borderline or outright criminal.
She doesn’t understand the consequences of her actions because her narcissism overpowers the normal caution reflex....like, going in front of the entire world on TV and repeating the concoted story that she and Sylvia Randall obviously came up with in one of their dark room seances.
It takes a bit for the rebuttal to work itself out but with this kind of attention, it will.
Gentlemen: Only ever stick it in your wife.
Ladies: Only ever spread ‘em for your husband.
I’ve encountered the type in the past. The initial stage is pretty good, while she considers you her perfect soul mate. But eventually something happens, and if she cannot maintain you as being perfect, then you are the object of her hatred. No in-between.
What if you make the mistake of marrying crazy?
He should have stayed out of that bar , he knew he would see her there after he felt she was coming on to him.
You use the term “ran away” multiple times. What does that mean?
Sticking it in someone other than your wife won’t help matters if your wife is a nutjob (or under any other circumstances).
In this man’s case, running away would best be at least 4 states away, with no paper or electronic trails.
Anytime a woman lays a hand on me and it is not a playful or affectionate touch, I GET OUT of that relationship. No 2nd chances.
… I ended up in the same bar as her on a Friday night and allowed her to seduce me.
Two sick people found each other.
Ping!
Many men have been ruined by women. The man is assumed to be guilty. The woman always believed.
There is no justice.
Asking for a friend?
Young beautiful women half your age chasing men are Cra-Cra; ALL OF THEM.
Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.