Posted on 12/07/2016 3:54:07 AM PST by eccentric
What is marriage? What is the purpose of marriage? What does it mean?
I am asking this of a culture where it is normal to live together while unmarried, have children and give them names of either parent. Marriages don't necessarily last longer than just living together, so it is not a lifetime commitment, i.e. 'til death do us part.' The law no longer distinguishes between having a marriage license or not when people separate....
So with 'marriage' having lost any significance, what is the purpose of a wedding? In the past, a wedding celebrated the beginning of a new way of life for a couple. Gifts were given to help them set up a new household and prepare for children, etc.
Children of the Dark sneak around and hide.
First question is are they expecting someone other than themselves to pay for the ‘big wedding?’
In your example (and many others, no offense) it’s a female victory celebration.
Sadly, our children don’t always turn out as we would want them to. Often times I ask myself, what did I do wrong? Everything is acceptable, whatever makes you happy. Living in Sodom. Beam me up Lord.
My question is this:
Why would any guy want to buy the cow as long as he is getting the milk for free?
When it comes right down to it, nobody really needs a wedding. The legalities can be taken care of in the most utilitarian way. So any wedding, regardless of whether the couple lives together, has kids - or not - is just a “big party.”
It depends. If you are a Christian, then it is God’s blessing upon the union. It also clears the moral problem created by living together “in sin”. If you are not a Christian, then it is an opportunity to publicly proclaim your love for one another and your intention to stay together forever. In either case, it creates a new legal position for each of them. If one is in the hospital, the other has specific rights of visit, consultation, and information not available outside of this new legal position.
As a Christian, I have trouble understanding living together without this commitment. It cheapens the entire relationship, and tarnishes not only their purpose together but their Children born out of wedlock. Marriage is hard enough as it is - why burden it further with no commitment.
Women want marriage so when they leave they can take everything, that the man worked so hard for, with them
Marriage is a public commitment of two people often under God with witnesses.
Wedding celebrations are for celebrating to satisfy someone s ego. Sometimes the bride, sometimes the groom, sometimes the parents.
We have perverted so much of His Word and Will that it loses perspective. As far as I'm concerned, the ceremony isn't the important part - sex either establishes the commitment or shows it to be hedonistic "recreation".
God let Satan take everything from Job except for his shrew of a wife - I think that's significant in itself...
Breaking that contract will cost a minimum of lawyer fees, and probably much more. But when children become involved in that dissolution, it becomes a hammer to pay for the children produced, and that is the good thing.
Now sometimes they can collect from the father even if there is no marriage contract.
True. My brother-in-law is a Naval Academy grad and has a PHD from MIT. He spent 12 years in the Navy and is now a hedge fund manager making millions. He got married at city hall in Cambridge. Didn’t tell any family for over a year. Probably spent $20. They’ve been married for 15 years and have one child. His parents are religious and he isn’t. Didn’t want to deal with all the ceremonies etc. I was happy not to have to travel to another wedding, spend a bunch of money, buy a gift, etc. Win win all around.
You should be happy that they are even bothering to get married.
Marriage is, and always has been, a religious institution showing commitment to be joined in the eyes of God.
Liberals have made it a government institution that they can redefine at-will to suit their agenda.
A wedding is far more than a commitment between a man and a woman.
It signifies as God established it, that the two (man and woman) become ONE flesh.
Each literally belongs to the other.
It is no surprise that in today’s culture that marriage has degenerated so far... because God has been rejected by it.
Marriage and wedding are two very, very different things.
“Why would any guy want to buy the cow as long as he is getting the milk for free?”
These days, it isn’t just the guys. There are, unfortunately, plenty of women more than happy to use guys for sex without any desire for a long term commitment.
I’m not really sure what your post is about, but the NJ Family Court System has convinced to never get married again for any reason. I can take any objections that the Good Lord may have had with that when i apply for entrance.
Yes. That is why my oldest son will never get married. Modern society and the court system provides too many incentives for women to get divorced after they marry.
Now my oldest son and me will be working on my youngest son, to make sure he never gets married.
As far as we’re concerned, modern women can just be alone and live with their cats.
After all, “women need men like a fish needs a bicycle”, I believe is the feminist quote.
“Marriage is hard enough as it is - why burden it further with no commitment.”
Well said, and absolutely true. The sacrifices of marriage, and the wonderful side of sharing life with someone who is committed to you, and you to them, aren’t considered enough, IMHO.
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