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What really happened to boys?
American Thinker ^ | April 28, 2013 | Bruce Deitrick Price

Posted on 05/07/2013 12:47:29 PM PDT by BruceDeitrickPrice

Four years ago, psychologist Leonard Sax (MD, PhD) wrote a well-received book titled “Boys Adrift.” The doctor tried to answer the question, why have so many young males fallen into passivity and indifference?

Dr. Sax had heard more and more parents complain that their boys stayed indoors most of the time, spent hours on video games, and in general seemed to lack the confidence and esprit de corps that had characterized boys throughout history.

“Something scary is happening to boys today,” Sax concluded. “From kindergarten to college, American boys are, on average, less resilient and less ambitious than they were a mere twenty years ago. The gender gap in college attendance and graduation rates has widened dramatically.”

The book’s full title is, “Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men.” Sax lists the five factors right on the cover: “video games, teaching methods, prescription drugs, environmental toxins, devaluation of masculinity.”

It’s worrisome that he seems to like them all. That might be a clue that he has not solved this mystery. Indeed, let’s consider the possibility that none of these theories is the deep answer we want. Let’s start from scratch and consider the things we know for sure.

First of all, critics have often noted that schools seem organized more for girls than for boys. Most boys do not want to be confined to a desk; they would rather be outside playing and competing. Second, not only are boys kept passively inside, they are forced to deal almost the entire day with reading, writing, and arithmetic, probably not their own first choices.

But these factors are historically common. Boys have always been restless at their desks. They have often stared out the window and daydreamed...

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TOPICS: Business/Economy; Conspiracy; Education; History
KEYWORDS: chemtrails; childhood; feminists; feminizationofus; flouride; gendergap; k12education; liberalism; males; psychology; tv; vaccines; waronboys
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1 posted on 05/07/2013 12:47:29 PM PDT by BruceDeitrickPrice
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

What happened to boys? Hippies.


2 posted on 05/07/2013 12:48:48 PM PDT by Spruce
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice
Beaten into submission.
3 posted on 05/07/2013 12:49:30 PM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum (Islam is a religion of peace, and Moslems reserve the right to detonate anyone who says otherwise.)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

“Dr. Sax had heard more and more parents complain that their boys stayed indoors most of the time, spent hours on video games, and in general seemed to lack the confidence and esprit de corps “

Parents who are to pre-occupied with their own needs to give a dam?ed about heir kids is what has happened....


4 posted on 05/07/2013 12:50:05 PM PDT by illiac (If we don't change directions soon, we'll get where we're going)
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To: Spruce
They are being turned into ‘feminized eunuchs’.
5 posted on 05/07/2013 12:50:17 PM PDT by Parmy
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

Feminism, public schools, banning everything under the sun, and treating them like little girls?

What could possible be wrong?


6 posted on 05/07/2013 12:51:15 PM PDT by unixfox (Abolish Slavery, Repeal The 16th Amendment!)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

What really happened to boys?

Liberalism. Because liberalism is at its core a feminine movement and it is openly hostile to masculinity in every form except that expressed by bull dyke lesbians.


7 posted on 05/07/2013 12:51:16 PM PDT by MeganC (You can take my gun when you can grab it with your cold, dead fingers.)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice
If only they were allowed to have BB-guns, all would be well.
8 posted on 05/07/2013 12:53:16 PM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum (Islam is a religion of peace, and Moslems reserve the right to detonate anyone who says otherwise.)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

Why do boys play video games instead of riding bikes in structured environments with helmets and pads? Why to they gane instead of go illegally camping in off0limits environmentally sensitive habitat? Why game rather than be arrested for a slingshot or BB gun? Why game instead of play sports where winning makes you a taunting bully?

It truly is a mystery.


10 posted on 05/07/2013 12:57:32 PM PDT by Norm Lenhart
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To: MeganC

“Because liberalism is at its core a feminine movement and it is openly hostile to masculinity in every form except that expressed by bull dyke lesbians.”

Dead on! Liberalism is about how women feel and what makes them happy, regardless of reality.


11 posted on 05/07/2013 12:59:04 PM PDT by CodeToad (Liberals are bloodsucking ticks. We need to light the matchstick to burn them off. -786 +969)
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To: illiac

We raised 4 through the 80’s and 90’s. They had fishing poles, rifles, tents and boats. We were outside even at 30 or 40 below in an ice house. 95% of their friends by the late 90’s were in their basements with “their own” computer and cable TV. Many of these neighbor boys were just weird. Living in an outdoor paradise and they dressed Goth and hated humanity. Their parents were exactly as you said. Pre-occupied and in my opinion selfish especially with their time.


12 posted on 05/07/2013 12:59:07 PM PDT by liberty or death
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

Thirteen years ago Christina Hoff predicted that this was precisely what would happen. She was viciously attacked and “thoughtful people” concluded all her predictions were nonsense.

It turns out she was right.

http://www.amazon.com/The-War-Against-Boys-Misguided/dp/0684849569/ref=tmm_hrd_title_0


13 posted on 05/07/2013 1:00:24 PM PDT by detective
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice
This is what happened. Public schooling changed the kids, dumbed them down.

Grinding America Down

There's a minute and a half promo at the start, but this is a long video you want to send to everyone who isn't yet convinced. This is the history of the roadmap that was created by the Fabians, the Marxists, the progressives, et al toward the destruction of America. It is on track, and has been successful beyond expectation! This is the video which explains the end of America, and what is in store. Can I say it plainer? Pass it around, if you wish. God bless.

14 posted on 05/07/2013 1:00:25 PM PDT by B4Ranch (http://www.theycometoamerica.com/)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

Our local McDonalds still hire a lot of high school kids and yes, many of the boys do seem feminized (very). I can’t say if it’s just the type of boys who apply at a fast food place or not. Some want to look you right in the eye for far too long and always have a silly smile on their face (I don’t think they’re all queer, though).

The article talks about boys wanting to stay inside most of the time. Again, I don’t know about the boys, but our girls have been outside for just about every possible minute since the weather turned good (and a lot before). And no, they’re not turning into boys.


15 posted on 05/07/2013 1:01:38 PM PDT by steve86 (Acerbic by Nature, not Nurture™)
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To: Spruce

No..feminism. Boys are devalued. Not only that, but they get incredibly mixed messages from the media. Girls, on one hand are told they are awesome from morning until night.. Boys, on the other hand, are told they are pigs. But then, they put on their TV’s and radios, and they are inundated with messages filled with sex. Then, when they actually do something, they are arrested, suspended, ridiculed and mocked. I would rather be anything than a young man today.


16 posted on 05/07/2013 1:03:07 PM PDT by Hildy (Falling down is how you grow. Staying down is how you die.)
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To: Spruce

They’ve been told since birth not to be what they are - boys. Don’t act up. Don’t fight. Don’t be rambunctious. Don’t do this, don’t do that blah blah blah. Basically, grow up to be girls with different body parts.

And someone wonders why the end result is a generation of weak kneed passive boys?

Some people...just plain dumb.


17 posted on 05/07/2013 1:03:08 PM PDT by Personal Responsibility (In times of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act - Orwell)
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To: MeganC

That is why you have to raise your boys as MEN Megan ;)


18 posted on 05/07/2013 1:04:14 PM PDT by KC_Lion (Build the America you want to live in at your address, and keep looking up.-Sarah Palin)
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To: Spruce

Go back to the television shows of the early 70’s and you can clearly see the transition from male boys to girly boys.

You can also see the role reversal of mom and dad that sissified the little brats.

When boys quit playing battle with little plastic solders and switched to male dolls, it was the beginning of the end.


19 posted on 05/07/2013 1:04:52 PM PDT by DH (Once the tainted finger of government touches anything the rot begins)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

Boyhood has been criminalized.

Manhood has been made into a thought crime.


20 posted on 05/07/2013 1:06:21 PM PDT by longtermmemmory (VOTE! http://www.senate.gov and http://www.house.gov)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice
My idiot stepdaughter toilet trained her son to urinate sitting down, mostly for her convenience in cleanup. That kid dropped out of the 9th grade, is now 21 and has never had a job to speak of. He passed his GED, but today's military prefers high school graduates and he has no interest in taking a couple college classes to enter the Navy. He is, in fact, too lazy to steal.
He's good at video games and sleeping late.
I may be wrong, I think the toilet training screwed him up for starters.
21 posted on 05/07/2013 1:06:30 PM PDT by dainbramaged (Joe McCarthy was right.)
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To: steve86

My daughter works at a supermarket, and she has two, yes TWO, transgenders on her shift — both girl to guy. There are about 20 part-timers covering her shift.

Anyone else know any transgenders? Or is this just a Massachusetts thing?


22 posted on 05/07/2013 1:06:53 PM PDT by St_Thomas_Aquinas
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

What happened?
Really?
Well, recall the denigration of everything and anything remotely masculine in our society or men over the past twenty years...


23 posted on 05/07/2013 1:07:14 PM PDT by Darksheare (Try my coffee, first one's free.....)
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To: Spruce

One of the main reason is the increase in the feminine aspect of personality of boys as a result of the increase in the masculinity of their mothers.

Young children need to bond with the mother’s feminine energy in order to stabilize their consciousness and establish a solid foundation for life. Lack of a feminine mother results in a lack of emotional bonding. The work of Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby’s “Attachment Theory” explains this.


24 posted on 05/07/2013 1:07:41 PM PDT by tired&retired
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25 posted on 05/07/2013 1:08:18 PM PDT by JoeProBono (A closed mouth gathers no feet - Mater tua caligas exercitus gerit ;-{)
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To: Norm Lenhart
Why do boys play video games instead of riding bikes in structured environments with helmets and pads?

It has been a mystery to me why only girls (including ours) ride bikes around here. All the same streets are here as when I was a kid and not many of the girls wear helmets. The boys only seem to want to ride those silly scooters and skateboards later on. I just built one of my girls a banana seat wheelie bike and she thinks it's neat. The other girl has a Kawasaki dirt bike already. I can think of only one boy around here who could handle that with their lack of bike experience.

26 posted on 05/07/2013 1:09:51 PM PDT by steve86 (Acerbic by Nature, not Nurture™)
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To: KC_Lion

I will. Have no doubt about it!


27 posted on 05/07/2013 1:10:03 PM PDT by MeganC (You can take my gun when you can grab it with your cold, dead fingers.)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

Feminazis hate men and boys. They are trying to emasculate them. That’s what this is about.


28 posted on 05/07/2013 1:10:14 PM PDT by I want the USA back (Pi$$ed off yet?)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

One very obvious answer that is not addressed here is the absense of fathers in the home.

When serveral generations of boys are being raised by single moms - we can obviously expect societal chaos.


29 posted on 05/07/2013 1:11:20 PM PDT by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice
Two words: My Buddy


30 posted on 05/07/2013 1:11:30 PM PDT by mmichaels1970
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To: illiac
parents complain that their boys stayed indoors most of the time, spent hours on video games,

there you have it, the parents allow them to do that.

When I was growing up, my mom had a hard time keeping me IN the house to do my school work........

32 posted on 05/07/2013 1:14:12 PM PDT by Hot Tabasco (This space for rent)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

A friend of mine in education says: “The common practice in education now is to treat boys like malfunctioning females.”


33 posted on 05/07/2013 1:16:20 PM PDT by PGR88
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To: St_Thomas_Aquinas

It seems that pretty much every place in the world is infected with that crap but thankfully we’re years behind Massachusetts. All I can think of is one girl about ten years ago (also at a fast food place) who talked about becoming a boy, but don’t know if she did.


34 posted on 05/07/2013 1:16:30 PM PDT by steve86 (Acerbic by Nature, not Nurture™)
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To: St_Thomas_Aquinas
"Anyone else know any transgenders? Or is this just a Massachusetts thing?"

I don't know a single one, thankfully.

But realistically, it's probably only a matter of time.

35 posted on 05/07/2013 1:18:00 PM PDT by CatherineofAragon ((Support Christian white males----the architects of the jewel known as Western Civilization).)
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To: steve86

My daughter had a CR80 and helped me work on trucks ;) Then F22s. Most of the guys she went to school with still smoke pounds of pot and do nothing.

I asked her a while back what the hell was wrong with them. She said “Dad, their more female than their girlfriends.” they got there because their teachers rammed PCBS down their throats and Hollywood made it cool to be GLBTXYZ.

They have nothing to look forward to a John Wayne type men but scorn and ridicule. So they withdraw into fantasy. And to be honest, I understand why. Not that it’s good right or anything like that. But I understand it.

PS the Daughter has also modeled for hair stuff,,,so she’s not butch ;)


36 posted on 05/07/2013 1:18:46 PM PDT by Norm Lenhart
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To: steve86
parents complain that their boys stayed indoors most of the time, spent hours on video games

So that I don't fall into that same category, I'm turning off the pc and heading out to work on MY dirt bike!

37 posted on 05/07/2013 1:20:54 PM PDT by steve86 (Acerbic by Nature, not Nurture™)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

Girls/women were told they could “do it all.” Boys/men said “ok.”


38 posted on 05/07/2013 1:20:55 PM PDT by informavoracious (We're being "punished" with Stanley Ann's baby.)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

Mine claim that being born with parents ruined their lives, and the next catastrophe was having younger brothers.


39 posted on 05/07/2013 1:22:33 PM PDT by Tax-chick (Sarah is right.)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

Definitely can’t figure out what is ‘wrong’ with boys these days.
My oldest Grandson, (HS Senior) will graduate on time and has played Baseball going back to TBall.
He is NOT interested in College (I am following my Grandfathers complaint over my going in Navy by definitely NOT encouraging either one in the Military though the Sr would probably qual for one of the Acadamys) but is leaning towards a trade school. He has also held a job the last few years.
The youngest Grandson (HS Soph) also has played ball since ‘day 1’ but his mother ‘complains’ he games to much BUT his grades are up and the only real gripe I had(have) with him is I found him wearing an Obama tshirt under his Baseball Uniform shirt.
However, my ‘anger’ turned to absolute JOY JOY JOY when I noticed the shirt read
One
Big
A$$
Mistake
America
So all is ‘well’ to say the least.

The go out for the team, make the team no matter how bad, and the trophys and such for anything other than 1st place disgusts BOTH the boys + their Older sister.

Guess I am ready to ‘go’ as my ‘work’ here is almost complete.....


40 posted on 05/07/2013 1:24:44 PM PDT by xrmusn (6/98 --I turn 75 next year- but remember, that's only 24 Celsius. (TKS R. Reagan))
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To: Norm Lenhart
Then F22s.

That's great. I've had something like that in mind for our older girl and I do teach her mechanical work -- and like yours, she's very, very feminine -- no gender identification problems at all. She was in the Young Marines for a couple years and they did an excellent job keeping the girls, girls.

41 posted on 05/07/2013 1:24:56 PM PDT by steve86 (Acerbic by Nature, not Nurture™)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice
Thanks for posting this...I think. Less than 24 hours after I vowed that I was a "one and done" baseball coach (11 & 12 YOs), articles like these make me rethink my stance.

I don't belittle or bully my players, but I've been focusing on holding them accountable: getting to practice and games on time, hustling/giving their best effort, etc. My wife says I'm too impatient, yet every dad tells me to keep up the good work.

There's 2-3 weeks left in the season, so it can go either way (for next year).

42 posted on 05/07/2013 1:25:53 PM PDT by Night Hides Not (The Tea Party was the earthquake, and Chick Fil A the tsunami...100's of aftershocks to come.)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

I’m 63. About 2/3 of the boys I grew up with broke an arm or a leg in childhood at least once. We did this by doing something stupid, daring, exciting and dangerous. Most of these guys had access to a BB gun, a pellet gun or a real .22lr rifle. Many had all three. We rode bike or walked when we wanted to go somewhere. We slept in the woods, built fires, swam in ponds, smoked cigarettes we didn’t actually enjoy and grew up to be responsible adults. I see my daughters boyfriends and am pretty sure I could kick their asses even today.

Maybe it’s estrogen in the water supply from birth control pills. Maybe it’s feminized education. Maybe I’m just an old fart who misremembers. I think I grew up with better men.


43 posted on 05/07/2013 1:27:36 PM PDT by muir_redwoods (Don't fire until you see the blue of their helmets)
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To: PGR88

Education is one thing, but I think the biggest obstacle is the absence of fathers. You can’t learn to be a man without having a man teach you how to be one. And the father has to be around daily not periodically.


44 posted on 05/07/2013 1:28:34 PM PDT by skinndogNN
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

I have read every comment in this thread....and everyone is correct with their observations. We have emasculated todays young male


45 posted on 05/07/2013 1:30:06 PM PDT by SeminoleCounty (GOP - Greenlighting Obama's Programs)
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To: BruceDeitrickPrice

It’s not just the public schools. My son graduates next week from a small Christian high school. I don’t think any of the girls in his class have ever been on a date. The boys were not seen as potential mates, but as competition for scholarships. There is no teenage pregnancy, but there’s also really no friendship. Everything is about the girls getting jobs. And the female teachers have no concern for the boys. We paid a lot of money for him to go to a school where they can pray, but you don’t see much of “the fruit of the spirit”.


46 posted on 05/07/2013 1:30:29 PM PDT by blueunicorn6 ("A crack shot and a good dancer")
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To: skinndogNN

That’s obviously a big factor but the phenomenon is occurring even with live-in fathers. Now, many of the younger fathers might be feminized themselves...


47 posted on 05/07/2013 1:31:40 PM PDT by steve86 (Acerbic by Nature, not Nurture™)
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To: illiac
when I was growing up in the 50s; all I heard was get outside, don't hang around the house....in those days, TV was a dream, and radio was the only entertainment ....

My 2 grandsons, unable to spend 30 minutes away from the computer, and texting on a cell....but I can see that they are defeated....it is clearly a female world; women, are everywhere, I never deal with a man, at the bank, or at a store....the feminists of 60s, sat out to eradicate the male from their society, and from what I see, they are just about there....

48 posted on 05/07/2013 1:34:05 PM PDT by B212
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To: unixfox

Great comment. You nailed it.


49 posted on 05/07/2013 1:35:23 PM PDT by Luke21
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To: steve86

She has no problem doing dude work or being a female. She’s a Sgt now and moved on to another field in the AF, but she did the F117 the 22 and the 35.

And she will be the first to tell you that women probably SHOULDNT be in the military. But many of the guys today are wimps. Thank God that America is big enough that we still have plenty of MEN joining and serving like MEN. But there are fewer all the time. Thanks to the feminization of boys in general. Not a popular thing to say. But facts bear it out.


50 posted on 05/07/2013 1:35:30 PM PDT by Norm Lenhart
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