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8 reasons why New York women can’t get a husband
New York Post ^ | March 12, 2014 | Jane Ridley

Posted on 03/13/2014 10:30:55 AM PDT by george76

Last year, Susan Patton, a Princeton grad and the mother of two sons at the elite college, outraged feminists when she wrote an open letter to the Daily Princetonian telling female students to find a husband on campus before they graduate.

The red alert — which argued that these Ivy League college girls “would never again be surrounded by this concentration of men who would be worthy of you” — went viral with more than 100 million hits.

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even in the dog-eat-dog dating jungle that is New York, there is hope for single career women between the ages of 22 and 35 (yes, that’s her cutoff) who also want marriage and babies.

“These women are spinsters-in-training, but they can turn it around

(Excerpt) Read more at nypost.com ...


TOPICS: Books/Literature; Society
KEYWORDS: age; career; college; elite; feminists; girls; ivyleague; marriage; marry; men; newyork; old; outraged; sex; single; spinsters; spouse; women
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To: PapaBear3625

That makes mail-order brides sound like a good idea


61 posted on 03/13/2014 11:39:31 AM PDT by GeronL (Vote for Conservatives not for Republicans!)
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To: PapaBear3625
The "nice-but-not-rich/handsome/exciting-enough" guys experience lack of success in their 20's, until women hitting 35 decide to "settle". Many men say "no thanks" to accepting a high-mileage woman who will never really be satisfied with him anyway.

And that's why God in his infinite wisdom created Asian Women

62 posted on 03/13/2014 11:39:38 AM PDT by qam1 (There's been a huge party. All plates and the bottles are empty, all that's left is the bill to pay)
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To: qam1
And that's why God in his infinite wisdom created Asian Women

Got to be careful, though. Asian women are not immune to the disease that is modern American slut/divorce culture. She starts out feminine and devoted, then watches a few seasons of Oprah and it's BAM! "I want half, Eddie!".
63 posted on 03/13/2014 11:44:15 AM PDT by fr_freak
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To: Chickensoup

If I wasn’t happily married for 25 years I would love to meet your daughter.

And yes, men are as superficial as women. And everyone is missing out.


64 posted on 03/13/2014 11:45:10 AM PDT by EQAndyBuzz (Insurgent Conservative)
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To: CorporateStepsister
a lot of girls have been taught that they have to rely on themselves

As a father of three boys, I cannot personally speak to what girls are taught.

However; one of the most important parental wisdoms I have pressed onto my children is to never marry a girl that moves from her daddy's house to yours. Only marry a girl that has lived on her own. A girl that is marrying because she wants you; not because she needs you, or imagines you to be the solution to her problems.

65 posted on 03/13/2014 11:45:42 AM PDT by laotzu
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To: TalBlack
Seems to have been the case for quite a while now. The trouble for women of this turn of mind is that when they are in their early thirties and beginning to get twinges of settling down they find that men their age are more interested in hooking up with twenty-somethings.

I tell my daughters: find the man you are going to marry before you hit 25. Under 25, you have maximal selection if you're up to dating guys up to 30. Past 30, a large percentage of guys are either taken, or divorced and cynical.

66 posted on 03/13/2014 11:45:43 AM PDT by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: qam1
And that's why God in his infinite wisdom created Asian Women.

For those seeking to "burnish their resume", I recommend tourist towns in Northern Germany during the summer. They are "target rich environments", with the highest per capita population of newly divorced women that I have ever encountered.

And none of them had that NYC nasal twang.

Warren Zevon captured it perfectly in the first verse of "Lawyers, Guns, and Money"...lol

67 posted on 03/13/2014 11:52:13 AM PDT by Night Hides Not (For every Ted Cruz we send to DC, I can endure 2-3 "unviable" candidates that beat incumbents.)
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To: PapaBear3625
Past 30, a large percentage of guys are either taken, or divorced and cynical.

Cynicism reigns supreme in my group. lol

My daughter just ended a relationship of 5+ years. I never pressed her to marry the father of my grandson, because I knew it wouldn't work. She was a college grad, he a HS grad with no real plans for the future, a bad mix considering he recently turned 30.

My focus was on the needs of my grandson. My daughter and I will have more serious chats when I meet her next beau.

68 posted on 03/13/2014 11:58:55 AM PDT by Night Hides Not (For every Ted Cruz we send to DC, I can endure 2-3 "unviable" candidates that beat incumbents.)
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To: ScottinVA

I know a young man that lived on one of the coasts. Young and attractive with a low six figure income he had plenty of dates.

He complained that west and east coast women were superficial, money hungry users, and living out modeled behaviour they see by their older peers.

He became so sick of this in his twenties that he changed careers and restarted in Texas to find a woman who who had solid values. He did and marriage soon followed.


69 posted on 03/13/2014 11:59:17 AM PDT by KC Burke (Officially since Memorial Day they are the Gimmie-crat Party.ha)
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To: laotzu

AMEN!

Never marry straight from the home; she lives on her own and lives for herself for a while.

Don’t marry someone who isn’t making her own way or interested in doing that.


70 posted on 03/13/2014 12:19:03 PM PDT by CorporateStepsister (I am NOT going to force a man to make my dreams come true)
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To: PapaBear3625

PB, I wonder what it’s like if the ‘desirable’ guy ends up wanting commitment, but a woman shies away since she herself, would like to have her own fun after years of working hard.


71 posted on 03/13/2014 12:22:13 PM PDT by CorporateStepsister (I am NOT going to force a man to make my dreams come true)
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To: CorporateStepsister

That is a ridiculous post


72 posted on 03/13/2014 12:42:35 PM PDT by wardaddy (ukraine......aint nobody gonna do nothing but talk and try to score political points)
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To: fr_freak
She starts out feminine and devoted, then watches a few seasons of Oprah and it's BAM! "I want half, Eddie!".

LOL! I remember watching that on my wedding night in 1986.

73 posted on 03/13/2014 12:53:33 PM PDT by rllngrk33 (Things will continue getting worse until at least January 2017.)
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To: CorporateStepsister
It’s not right that men complain about no decent women when there are plenty of men out there wasting their twenties with the very women they complain about.

Our daughter was taught at a young age there are generally two types of women out there. The partying type and the marrying type. When you decide to be the party type you exclude the men looking to get married. Another thing I taught her was No man especially someone looking for a wife wants other men to say they had you before he did.... Just facts of life.

74 posted on 03/13/2014 1:12:37 PM PDT by VRWCarea51
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To: qam1
And that's why God in his infinite wisdom created Asian Women

Get tangled up with a Filipino gal once...If you survive you'll never forget it.

75 posted on 03/13/2014 1:18:11 PM PDT by VRWCarea51
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To: VRWCarea51

Agree; I had a bad first relationship (a result of bad self esteem and diffident parents) and I decided to abstain and I’ve been chaste for nearly ten years. It’s saved my skin.

One thing I do appreciate is that these days women are the ones who decide if whether or not they’ll be the marrying type or the fun girl type.


76 posted on 03/13/2014 1:30:35 PM PDT by CorporateStepsister (I am NOT going to force a man to make my dreams come true)
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To: EricT.

Pasty with too much body hair

That personality stuff was true in 80s too when I lived there
Funny


77 posted on 03/13/2014 1:35:18 PM PDT by wardaddy (ukraine......aint nobody gonna do nothing but talk and try to score political points)
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To: CorporateStepsister
PB, I wonder what it’s like if the ‘desirable’ guy ends up wanting commitment, but a woman shies away since she herself, would like to have her own fun after years of working hard.

By my definition of "desirable" (multiple attractive women want him), such a man would just decide "next!" and move on.

Guys have an advantage over women, in that they can wait into their 30's or 40's for marriage, while a woman starts seeing her expiration date approaching after she passes 30.

78 posted on 03/13/2014 2:04:31 PM PDT by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: VRWCarea51
Our daughter was taught at a young age there are generally two types of women out there. The partying type and the marrying type. When you decide to be the party type you exclude the men looking to get married. Another thing I taught her was No man especially someone looking for a wife wants other men to say they had you before he did.... Just facts of life.

Very true. Women will consider it "not fair", but lots of things in life aren't fair.

79 posted on 03/13/2014 2:06:13 PM PDT by PapaBear3625 (You don't notice it's a police state until the police come for you.)
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To: Chickensoup

“My sons and his friends say that all the girls want men as “friends”.
No interest in the future or children.”

You can explain to your son that when a girl says she wants to be “friends” with a man, she’s preempting the expectation of sex for buying her dinner.

The dating culture (as opposed to the friend culture) demands sex on the third date. No sex, no fourth date. No fourth date, no marriage.

The girls your son knows are just trying to find their way to marriage and children without having to sleep with twenty-five men to get there.

Young women created the “friend zone” as a way to spend time with men, while working around the sex-on-the-third-date-culture they were born into. Don’t hate the players; hate the game.


80 posted on 03/13/2014 2:12:45 PM PDT by Blue Ink
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