Posted on 02/06/2005 4:18:14 PM PST by SmithL
Arlington, Mass. -- To raise a child, one needs three invaluable allies: the Bible, the help of an extended family and "biblical-based resources" -- 9-inch-long spanking paddles of blue polyurethane, according to Steve Haymond from Bakersfield, who sells the paddles online for $6.50 apiece.
Twyla Bullock, in Eufaula, Okla., swears by the Rod -- a 22-inch, $5 white nylon whipping stick her husband designed and produced until recently. Named after the biblical "rod of correction," the Rod provides "a faith-based way to discipline children ... and train them as Christians," Bullock explains.
Susan Lawrence, a devout Lutheran from Arlington, Mass., is appalled.
"Christians are supposed to listen to Jesus," Lawrence said, bringing the Rod down with a thump on the seat of her living room futon and looking at the resulting dent with incredulity. "Can you imagine Jesus teaching to use the Rod?"
Corporal punishment has long been an accepted method of child discipline among evangelical and fundamentalist groups, but an increasing number of Christians are raising objections, arguing that advocates of spanking wrongly cite Scripture to justify a practice that should be banned. Lawrence, who peppers her conversation with quotes from the New Testament, says striking children defies the Golden Rule from the Gospel of Matthew: "In everything do to others as you would have them do to you."
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I didn't write that, I was copying someone else.
As a parent of four kids, I am a firm believer in the wise, judicious use of pain for discipline and training.
Like the woman in Texas who drowned her four kids?
A very very very rare thing- when a mother kills her own children. You cannot hold that to the standard.
Ah, sorry...
I don't see myself as fanatic either, but I object to spanking and I object to weapons.
Spanking because only spanking societies have spanking fetishes and I'd rather not risk that for my kids. Weapons because to me it's pure sadism. My perception is backed up by
the unwillingless of weapons users to explore non-violent alternatives.
I'd rather see a swat to the shoulder or something if a person lacks enough imagination to come up with something better.
"I know many families who never touched their child in an agressive manner, or resorted to shouting. It requires alot more discipline and control in the house. These are families who are very firm and consequential when it comes to action and behavior."
I really like your formulation. Too many hitter equate not hitting with no discipline.
Ditto for using it.
Well, I'll give you this, you're at least consistent im your pathological myopia.
No. I'm sorry. A precept that has been universally accepted by virtually every culture across the planet for the entirety of human history is not an anecdote. But I understand you're not going to let truth stand in the way of a snappy come-back.
crossing the street simply is how one responds when the danger was beyond their comprehension.
As I said, that is not discipline. You don't seem to grasp the distinction that compliance with your wishes is not the goal of discipline. Not that that surprises me.
I have met many a parent that took great pride in their disdain for corporal punishment, and every single one of them were too self absorbed to notice their *gentle* means of discipline was more barbaric than use of the "rod." Every single one of them practiced "emotional terrorism" to metaphorically arm-twist their children into compliance with the parent's wishes. Of course this makes the parent's life easier, but it doesn't do a damn thing for the kids except make them very adept at pleasing the parents.
Furthermore, in my experience, the marks left by *that* kind of "discipline," while outwardly invisible, last far into adulthood and taint every relationship to some extent.
How do you spank several children simultaneously?
You don't have to spank simultaneously, because the infraction, judgment, punishment loop is so short as to be *functionally* simultaneous.
And also shows you'll descend to doctrinaire legalism to protect your pet dogma. The very premises of the questions betray a mind perfectly comfortable with the "oral sex isn't adultery" mentality.
I dare say how you "sees 'em" is totalling predicated on how you want to "calls 'em."
That is the one thing you've managed to demonstrate beyond dispute.
I don't suppose it ever occurred to you King classicly don't have a whole lot to do with raising their own children. Furthermore, attacking the validity of a proposition based on the history of the proposer is a classic fallacious argument.
Would you like to look it up yourself, or should I provide you a link?
A very very very rare thing- when a mother kills her own children. You cannot hold that to the standard.
But don't you have to wonder about the emotional stability, and moral compass of someone who would propose such a grotesque oddity as a "case in point?"
I know plenty of people who were not beaten or spanked that are responsible citizens today. I also know many who were, and they now beat their own kids. Gosh what a lovely heritage huh?
Defending the beating of children is about as moral as defending a man who beats his wife.
I've seen the results of lack of discipline in action, so DO NOT try to tell me that SOME children don't need the extra "attention-getter" of physical chastisement.
You don't want to use corporal punishment---fine, but keep your nose out of how other people choose to discipline their children.
That's what can happen when you are raised by a so-called born again parents who physically and verbally beat the crap out of their children in the name of God. BTW, I'll match my moral compass against anyone at anytime.
You don't get it. You have nothing to match with. You've already demonstrated an inability to stay within the bounds of sound judgment by citing a perverse, and more importantly, atypical case.
With people like you raising children, it's no wonder intellectual dishonesty is rampant. Once a person learns to use emotional terrorism and hyperbole to force their position any pretense of persuading others on a basis of mutual respect, or common sense if you will, is lost. More importantly, when used on children, they learn no philosophical boundries exist in persuing their agenda.
Is it any wonder such flapdoodle as "I have a right to be happy" gets such widespread acceptance?
I gave my opinion, and I am entitled to do that. You are like a leftist who cannot tollerate an opposing viewpoint. Your over-reaction tells me I must have struck close to home.
Sure you are. The problem is that folks who think like you always go out and pass laws to force your opinions on folks who DON'T think like you.
"You are like a leftist who cannot tollerate an opposing viewpoint.
You can have any viewpoint you like, as long as you don't try to cram your morals down my throat at the end of a gun (i.e. using government force).
"Your over-reaction tells me I must have struck close to home."
LOL, I don't have a dog in this fight---my wife and I don't have kids (she was a DES baby, and can't). My opinion is strictly based on years of observation (as a scientist and trained observer) of other families with children. By and large, families who use rational corporal punishment turn out well-adjusted, well-mannered adults. Families who use the "Dr. Spock", "don't punish the kids", "time-out" approach turn out juvenile delinquents far more often.
Folks like me? You mean anyone who says something you don't like?
Who is passing laws? Who is craming anything down your throat? Suddenly I have a gun? LOL
It was a personal opinion, why can't you handle it with dignity? Do you always get hysterical and make preposterous exagerations whenever someone disagrees with you?
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