Sex in the Zeroes

toogoodreports.com ^ | 3/2003 | Bernard Chapin

[wideawake]

This article contributes a bit to the Maureen Dowd conversation.

[netmilsmom]

This is a reality slap in the face.
Women need to learn that getting married and having babies is what it is all about. Do it young and live those good years in your forties and fifties. Do NOT live the good years in your twenties and thirties then expect to get the husband and babies in your forties.
Take it from someone who married late and started babies at 37. I am tired and my body has gone to pot. Thank God I found a good husband who understands and not one who wants the young shallow chickies. He is also secure in what he needs. The young bodies go to pot after a few years but no one will spoil him like I will.
Someone once said, marry an older woman, she is more grateful. I appreciate my marriage.

[DManA]

We marry younger women. It is older women we use for sex.

Ben Franklin said about sex with older women - They don't swell. They don't tell. And afterwards, they're grateful as hell.

[Rebelbase]

"physical states are temporary. By the time she reaches 35 that same elite German Panzer has turned into a wasted carcass on the Kursk battlefield. It can be seen belching black smoke into the Russian night from 10 miles away"

Reading to this point confirms the author is an idiot.

I'm in my 40's, a father, and have been divorced for 8 years. The wisdom, grace, and maturity of women in my age group is a treasure, and a turn-on compared to the flighty, disillusioned 20 somethings.

Granted, for the most part, women in their 20's defy gravity better than when they are in their 40's. Using that as the sole critierea in selecting a partner is indeed shallow, not noble as the author suggests.

[Maelstrom]

Love is a Battlefield...

Pat Benatar

(I'm really laughing on this side of the screen)

[goldstategop]

The Battle Of The Sexes... its amazing we understand each other despite everything. :)

[Lockbox]

Women are told that males use younger women for sex. We do not. We marry younger women. It is older women we use for sex.

Let me get back to you on that one!

[Teacher317]

Marriage for the majority of our species' history provided a clear benefit to both parties. A man would be granted sexual relations with a woman and also be provided with progeny in the form of his children. A woman would be given a protector and a provider to ensure that she and her children were taken care of as she aged. Female promiscuity has destroyed the bonds that tie men to women. The progress of the "progressive" forces of the sexual revolution have caused the sexes to now be genuinely suspicious of one another and, for a great many members of male the population, compels us to not "tie the knot" at all.

Great stuff. Bump.

[Under the Radar]

Across the board most of what is labeled as advice for females are fabrications based on the denial of human nature. Women are told that males use younger women for sex. We do not. We marry younger women. It is older women we use for sex.

Truth bump.

[Zavien Doombringer]

I would have to agree with you.

I am 38 this year, and so is my wife. We were married at 19yrs. I have watched her age to perfection, even after 4 children, she is beautiful. She still "defies Gravity".

[goldstategop]

I agree. Looks ain't everything.

[Teacher317]

Purposeless sex is the greatest barrier to the love we can experience. The female aping of the male's bad habits is an allure to no one.

I wouldn't say no one. ;^)

[Maelstrom]

He was calling out to the fact that 20-somethings do defy gravity better...I don't think he'd deny you that they mature as well.

From a strict anthropological aspect, maturity doesn't matter.

Pardon his oversight in that light.

[trebb]

Someone once said, marry an older woman, she is more grateful. I appreciate my marriage.

True enough, my wife is only 2-1/2 years older than me, but she's not afraid to be a woman. She says she's constantly amazed that I'm not concerned about her body (stretch marks, some sagging, etc.) but many of us men actually look at the whole package, of which the body is a relatively insignificant part if what's in the head and heart is good.

[Zavien Doombringer]

Women are told that males use younger women for sex. We do not. We marry younger women. It is older women we use for sex.

Could that be relative? Young men use young women for sex, matured men use matured women for sex. Young men marry young women, as well as older women. Older men marry young women (mostly for ego) as well as mature women (mostly for the company).

[Maelstrom]

*chuckle*

I'm not going to say a word about understanding...

nope

NOT A WORD!

[Zavien Doombringer]

I agree. Looks ain't everything.

No, looks aren't, but she still has it :) I am still being told I robbed the cradle, I think I need to wash the grey out of my hair :)

[tdadams]

I agree. Women in their 20s are nice to look at, but good luck finding one that can carry a conversation that doesn't drive you to distraction after about 3 minutes.

[Gerish]

I agree with you. Many women I know in their 20's and 30's feel they have to "have a good time, stay single and just have fun." While this may be fine for some, the majority I know end up miserable because before they know it they are in their late 30's, still single, childless and having a hard time finding a husband.