Posted on 03/12/2005 2:53:11 PM PST by NYC GOP Chick
She's lots of guts!
Only the ones that are unwanted.
This is just total ego mania. It seems more an extortion for presents than a desire for weddings.
She should just get civily married to ensure the child is legit and then either have a VERY fast wedding they can afford or just wait until AFTER the baby is born for the religious ceremony.
I really get the "gimme presents" vibe from this.
GIMME PRESENTS GIMME PRESENTS GIMME PRESENTS!!!!!
Thanks... 10 years so far....
Regocnize what happened was a mistake and correct as best as possible. NOT celebrate the mistake.
The entire subtext of this article is just a grovel for presents.
If she wants to make it right... I'm all the more for it.
If we have a healthy attitude toward sex then we don't blame people when it results in a new life. That's what it's supposed to do.
If we have a healthy attitude toward sex, though, we keep in marriage where God intended it to be.
I agree. But to punish someone for a mistake is counterproductive.
Most weddings seem to be overblown affairs these days, these women are no different than most in that respect.
I don't even think most are big ploys to get presents, really, thousands more is spent on the wedding itself these days than they will get in presents. It's just a fantasy that sucks women in... The desire to have the gorgeous designer princess fantasy they see in wedding magazines. It gives them an excuse to spend six months to a year deciding on flowers and napkins and typefaces and play dressup.
Myself, I was never keen on the Princess Plan. Many friends tried to involve me in theirs and many tried to get me to care about napkins on my own. We did throw a fantastic party, truth be told, but I tried to keep it just that, a party everyone would actually have fun at.
I'm not sure what sort of Catholicism you're representing, but there's no claim or requirement in Church law that I'm aware of that a couple who gets pregnant before the wedding "loses the privilege of receiving the Catholic sacrament of marriage". In fact, that would be silly: equivalent to excommunication.
Many priests won't perform such a wedding until some time after the baby is born, though, because they think marital consent is not very freely given when a pregnancy is involved, thus rendering the marriage's validity suspect. It has nothing to do with anyone's sin, and everything to do with the degree to which people are, or are not, acting freely in that situation.
That's great to hear. Although only God can truly know what is in a person's heart.
Church - on - time ....
Mission Inn? As an almost native-born Riversider, I must commend the Padillas on their excellent choice. Beautiful place, and it was good enough for Dick and Pat Nixon.
That said...four-inch heels? I'm a guy and I'm wincing at that. What was she thinking?
How do they pay for these things is what I can't figure...
We had nothing, and got married in our backyard ( confession- we were playing house). The dress was a prom dress, off the rack. Mr. RB was in a rented tux. Future in-laws made a ham and other food, and my sister did the flowers.
I think the whole thing cost $250.00.
I guess it sufficed as we're still married 25 yrs later.
I wonder sometimes if the trauma of preparing a wedding production is a test by fire for the wedding. The couple gets so lost in planning a party that they forget to plan a life after the party.
Then again, most young ladies are not agreeable to the "elvis chappel"
These days, couples are not moving from their parent's home into marriage or starting out with nothing... These are blushing 35 year old brides who have been on their own and in a career for years... They don't need sheets and towels to set up a home, they have one already....
I think the size of the bill reflects that, as much as anything else, though the wedding planner magazines and television shows have a lot to do with giving people more ideas for how to spend more money than ever would have occurred to them on their own.
Many aren't.... I would have been. :~D
None of this has nothing to do with civil marriage. Anyone who gets a license and finds someone who is authorized by the State to perform marriages can legally be married, and make sure their child is 'legitimate'. Many couples who have gottem themselves in the family way before marriage have done this. If they are Catholic, and they want their marriage blessed and receive the Sacrament, they need to do what all engaged couples have to do to get married in the Church. They have to meet with counselors who will give them guidance on what exactly a Sacramental Marriage is, and the responsibilities entailed in it. Folks don't have the RIGHT to a Sacramental Marriage. It is not an inconsequential thing, and some of the women in this article seem to think. They need to show that they are willing to do what the Church requires of those receiving the Sacrament.
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