Posted on 03/12/2005 2:53:11 PM PST by NYC GOP Chick
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-good Thames, G.J.P. (Jr.)
I just thought it was interesting!
Heh, me either. Of course, I was married in the mid-70's when the 'simple wedding' was all the rage. My dress cost exactly $36, and I sewed it myself. A week before the wedding, I was doing the final 'hand work', sewing the hem on the lace capelet at my desk during down times at work. My boss walked in and was stuned that I was making it myself!
Our flowers were simple, and they only cost $72, half of which was my wedding bouquet! My Granny said I was going to have a 'hippie wedding' because I was wearing flowers in my long hair rather than a veil, and we were going to have a folk Mass! LOL!
My 3 attendants wore the same design dress as I, but in a mango color with the capelet in white eyelet and a flower pattern on it in mango, purple and green! They were really cute! The men wore suits, NOT tuxes, and the reception was a punch and cake affair in the Church Hall. My cake didn't cost me anything because my older sister made it for me as a wedding gift, and it was beautiful and vey tasty. The real party was at Mama's afterwards with the food brought by my Aunts; ham, fried chicken, potato salad, beer and drinks!
Including the Rehearsal dinner, I doubt our wedding cost more than $500, and it was very lovely and memorable.
Having reprsented a few people in divorces, I have come to the conclusion that it is better to get married as young as reasonable. Just after college. It seems do career without a marriage to encumber the carreer is a recipie for divorce. Of course this is from the perspective of after things have already fallen appart.
I posted a similar thought earlier, but you brought the point home more clearly. Thank you.
Great if it works out that way... it took me longer, not by design really, to find someone to marry :~D
"Well gee... what's the alternative? To abort the baby? To raise the kid alone as a woman and the man pay child support?"
You missed my point entirely. I mentioned nothing about aborting the baby and raising the kid alone; I'm glad these people are getting married. But the examples cited in the story made it sound as if these people intentionally conceived outside of marriage and would get married when they felt like it. They also seem to assume that everyone should accept this arrangement, and the big church wedding that would follow. Capriole (post #71) said it best.
Maybe I think better of people than most.
Carmela Pampillonia says she found her Catholic parish "very accepting" of her wedding at five months along.
Is SCANDAL no longer a word in the Catholic lexicon?
Thank you, FP -- and the agreed upon fee should be in your PayPal account by now!
Good idea. You could renew your vows in a church service, too!
Yeah, but I'd get all fahklempt doing that! The year we celebrated our 25th anniversary, the Diocese had a special Mass for those celebrating those 'special' years, 10, 20, 25, 30, 35, 40, 50 , there was even a couple celebrating their 75th Anniversary!! It was awesome, but when we stood to re-affirm our vows, even with all those other couples doing it at the same time, I still got misty and choked up! ;o)
A church is a building with which we worship God, not a backdrop for a photo event.
Happy no rejoice over these women getting to the church on time. Shame on you who are so perfect.
Their behavior implies a lack of remorse and a lack of shame on their part. In other words, they are refusing their "medicine". I am ashamed of my sins. These women are obviously proud of theirs.
The appropriate alternative is to be married discretely by a priest or deacon, then have a big, joyful renewal of their vows and reception in a year with all the bells and whistles.
That would demonstrate a respect for God's laws, as opposed to behaving in a way which announces tot he world "I got knocked up and I'm proud of it!"
Good point. What does it say to our daughters when fornication is flaunted, and the community celebrates?
No, YOU don't "get it". The reason they don't "GET IT" is that that nobody loves them enough to tell them the truth, that they are embarrassing themselves with their low-class behavior.
Sure, let them mock the sacraments, let them give scandal to the young. Drop all the standards in the hope that someday it will dawn on them that they are behaving foolishly. There's only one thing wrong with that. If foolish behavior is normalized, they will never learn what decent behavior is.
And as another poster already said to you,once things become accepted/the norm, there isn't any "waking up" to do.It will only get far worse than it already is.
"That would have been some video if the baby had decided it wanted to see what all the noise was about."
Oh yeah!
I was pregnant when I got married, but not so obviously pregnant. I bought my dress for $100.00 in a "vintage" clothing store on Broadway. It was white, knee lenghth, beaded, it was really very nice and appropriate. I don't know what the dress was in it's first life, maybe some kind of cruise-wear cocktail dress. They had several that were very similar.
I sincerly think that that is the UGLIEST dress I have EVER SEEN, and I remember Vogue magazine in the 1960s.
I think, I think, I think I have to throw up now. WHAT WAS SHE THINKING?!?!?!?!
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