Posted on 10/09/2018 9:41:11 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
Well, that was indisputably both one sided and incomplete.
If a girl chooses to screw around, she should use contraception. This gal had the benefit of an example in her own family, but didn’t learn from the experience of others.
Actions have consequences. She should accept responsibility for her actions, not blame others. Then, maybe, she can start to heal.
Sounds like one could say that sad mummy’s daughter failed the church. Mummy thinks the church is a therapy and social service?
Actions and consequences. Too bad your congregation didn’t wrap their arms around you and give you support and love. Your pregnancy and subsequent abortion are not about the church. So many believers indeed act like the Christ they follow.
There’s food for thought here. If a girl finds herself pregnant without a husband, it is a major life crisis for her.
Churches are not as closed as she makes them out to be. Most will do whatever is necessary to help the girl.
I am not sure of the author’s point.
Church is too judgmental? How do you preach against abortion otherwise?
Women ignore their Church upbringing? Does that mean churches too weak in their preaching?
Women have guilt because of abortions? Yes, that is understandable. Are Churches ignoring that and not helping?
She seems troubled and conflicted, which I understand. How exactly to help?
There are so many bastards, that it isn’t a stigma anymore. Heck, one of these bastards became the 44th President.
A few years ago, a friend of mine told me his fiancé was pregnant. He was planning to confess his sin at church on Sunday. His fiancé was afraid to go that day.
I told kid him that while I hadn’t been attending the church that long, my impression was that when he confessed, there would be a sharp intake of collective breath and within a minute, the women of the church was uldnsorrundnhis fiancé and give her a hug.
Sin happens. So does forgiveness.
We were aware of church girls who had abortions rather than be open about what they had done. Its not that the church is so judgmental, but rather that people would rather kill their baby than admit their mistake in public.
In some cases the girl’s father was a deacon or otherwise known in the church, which magnified the hypocrisy.
Churches are full of people who’ve made mistakes and brought it to the altar. And its full of people who hide their mistakes to preserve their reputation.
Two giant errors.
1. “Abortion was made a “political issue” because a few men decided their values would supersede everyone else’s”.
That is a erroneous and slanderous charge against the entire pro-life movement, that IT comes a mere “few men” making abortion an issue.
2. “Reach out to the churches who have post-abortive ministries and begin to know what forgiveness can do.”
No. We need within the Church outreach to the unwed mother, at any age, and no matter her family support, lacking or not, and not matter her family circumstances, including helping her through the pregancy, and possibly an adoption (within the church hopefully) if needed. THAT is what we need in the churches, so there will be no need for “post-abortive” ministries.
I fear too much of the author’s intent is really just to soften the stance against abortion, period.
Wow, spell check obviously failed.
Surrounded. The word is surrounded.
And that’s exactly what happened. It took a lot of bravery but she was there.
I know a woman in her 60’s that was a pregnant teen. It was very hard. She gave the baby up for adoption and thinks about his birthday every year.
It never even crossed her mind to end the baby’s life - in or out of the womb. What kind of person does that?
Abortion is caused by birth control. The mentality that uses it needs abortion to get out of the scary jam that conception puts into the safe-sex believer....safe-from-children failure. Like your church said....sex is for making baies. Anything else is unplanned. I will take the burden to help you but understand you put that burden on me by your safesex not-thinking. Don’t look down on me either. I’m trying to mot have sex out of wedlock....locked in matrimony.
Well no duh.
That is why in the church you are taught not to have sex when you are not married.
When you disregard that you are usually already heading out the door. It makes her feel better the whine about how her sister was "judged" and use that as an excuse.
But she had long before decided to attend the church of me where nothing is good if it keeps me from what I want and nothing is bad if it gives me a moment's pleasure.
Personal choice hon. And there was little to nothing anyone could have done to stop you.
What did the church do? Tell them to have the child and give it up for adoption?
“”I sat in silence and bowed my head for the closing prayer as I had done nearly every Sunday for the past 21 years””
After reading the whole thing, I had to keep coming back to the opening sentence. 21 years of sitting in a church pew isn’t going to fill anyone with the Holy Spirit. What did she take away from attending church for 21 years? It appears to be nothing so how is the church to blame? Unwanted pregnancy, abortion and then drinking to dull the pain?? Ok - No judgment but plenty of shaking of my head!
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