Posted on 03/12/2008 4:55:51 AM PDT by ciocia
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.
More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.
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They were also reporting on FOX (Greta Von Sustern) that it was a one time thing and that the extra money was for the next time. I don’t trust FOX on this issue, I think that they are reporting the Dem talking points, out of fear of being accused of not being fair to a Democrat governor.
Anyway, would no condoms mean that he was difficult? I heard that they said that he was sometimes difficult.
The problem is when a man marries a thin wife (and finds thin attractive), works hard to stay fit himself and the wife doesn't care enough to do the same.
You said the problem is with selfish woman who don't care enough to stay thin to make their (shallow) husbands happy...
I verbally spar with teens, tweens, young adults and a matter of fact ten year old daily...FR is kinda like my 'bullpen' warm up.
OH Hildy, you don’t have a heart. lol
Pay attention,
I have a degree in Nutrition and Biochem...
yes, you can’t gain weight from nothing, but you can have a metabolism so slow and disease states so profound that weight loss is extremely difficult in ‘fast and easy’ terms.
Plus you have genetics, fat storing/famine hormones, aging, activity etc. It’s not ‘gee, just eat a little less dear and you’ll be a size 2 next week!’
You may have to accept that the smallest she can be and be healthy is a size 12, and it may take her a year or two to get there.
That’s the reality.
And the other reality is that if she’s married to an uncaring selfish lout, she’d be better off leaving him and THEN losing weight.
Why is it shallow for a man to expect that his wife care about his happiness? The fat is a symptom. There are other symptoms of the same kind of selfishness. Trust me. Most of the women I know that are huge, have many other traits that are symptomatic of basic selfishness. So we perhaps have battle b/w shallow men and selfish women. At least its easy to make a shallow man happy... just lose some friggin weight.
I think the issue is sometimes this ‘kinks’ appear after many years of marriage when boredom sets in and when one spouse says “Hun! How do you feel about triple barbed floggers and chains from the ceiling?”
And the first spouse thinks “Who the heck have I married and what the hell are they talkin’ about!!?!?”
But that’s just it hunny...
She can lose weight, but you’ll still be shallow.
I do two things-— work in nutrition and teach dance.
Most of my clients and students are female.
I’m a female. Yes, I do have a bias. In my job, I hear their sides of the story (unfair but dems da breaks) I see them struggle, I see their self-esteem in the toilet, I see them struggle more, and many I see just give the hell up and quit trying....
(And this isn’t just weight, it’s eating D/O, diabetes etc)
The ones who do best are those with really good family support, either from spouses, children etc... Those that fail usually have either someone sabotaging them or simply no one who cares.
Now, for the dance, as in a post earlier...the women who show up because their husbands ask them to show up for belly dance? Almost always fail....and the reason is they are there to make someone who doesn’t care for them love them (usually). To a woman, their self-esteem is in the pits and it breaks my heart.
The ones who succeed, dance beautifully and make their hubbies proud are the ones who came for themselves and dance for themselves (and me). Right down to the navel piercings and picking out the coolest costumes....there is a big difference in the groups.
We’re in agreement....
If anyone finds themselves married to someone who’s affection is based on something like
a body size,
if they take up a ‘sexy dance’,
if they’re willing to submit to a sexual practice that really disturbs them....
They need to get away as fast as they can and find something better....they deserve it and the person they’re married to deserves what they deserve.
Glad you're so easily impressed.
Most people require more.
That’s the dumbest thing posted on this so far.
I should know better...but...I have to ask. What exactly is ‘lets herself go?’ Ten pounds, twenty, thirty? Starting out brunette and ending up gray (but if she loved him she’d dye her hair)? Crows feet (honey, if ya loved me you would BoTox). Does a bad marriage equate to a bad manicure? There is morbid obesity and there is middle aged ‘spread.’ I just find your comments curious...
Not for a long time dear. "But he's getting impatient, he wants to see something." And I can tell she's extremely uncomfortable with the whole situation. He wants her to be an instant sex pot and what I teach, ain't sex pot stuff....sorry...it's a folk dance. And it's hard.
Or even creepier is the occasional letch who shows up with a check saying 'I want my wife to do this' (eye brow wiggle). Like what? You want her to be something she isn't? Maybe she'd rather take clogging...ask her! BTW, take your check down to the salon next door and use it to get those eyebrows trimmed.
Again, my gut reaction when a woman shows up to 'spice up her marriage' or 'my hubby wants me to do this' is to tell her to go take aerobics. Do something fun for herself....if she's not there because SHE loves the dance, she'll be miserable. And I'll be wasting my time.
Your friend’s wife sound like she is clinically depressed. Has he suggested medical treatment?
Well, I agree if she doesn’t want to dance she should try something else. But there is nothing wrong about learning to dance sexy for your husband either.
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