Posted on 04/14/2008 7:31:00 AM PDT by newgeezer
Diane Peterson works as a sales clerk at a Walgreens in Fenton. She was developing pictures last month when she spotted some familiar faces — teenage girls she has known since they were in kindergarten — in an X-rated spring break adventure.
"I was appalled by what I saw," Peterson said. It wasn't just the drunken, sexual poses that bothered her. She knew some of their parents. And she knew they didn't have a clue.
A recent poll commissioned by the cable network WE, which launched a docu-series called "High School Confidential," found a major communication gap between parents and their teenage daughters. Among the parents surveyed, 73% said they know much of what is happening in the lives of their adolescent daughters. Only 45% of the girls agreed with that.
Parents also had rosy — and unrealistic — visions about the closeness of their relationships with their daughters. Nearly 80% said their daughters could talk to them about anything. Only 54% of girls agreed.
Unlike clueless parents of the past, many of today's boomer parents bought into the friend-over-parent bargain. Consequently, they expect to be in their teen's inner circle, a person in whom their son or daughter confides.
... One in four teenage American girls has a sexually transmitted disease.
"We see a lot of random hooking up," said Brittany Dowell, a West County high school senior.
Such casualness about sexual activity has taken the pressure off what was once a climactic prom decision — do it or don't? — into a bit of a nonissue.
... Kids who want to have sex don't need to wait for a big school-sponsored party. And kids who want to wait to have sex, aren't going to change their minds because a prom committee decided "It's a Starry Night."
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(Excerpt) Read more at stltoday.com ...
Thats so true, and if you tell them not to do it, they will do it anyhow...
Oh, really? Surely there aren't any parents left these days who are *that* dumb.
After last year’s prom, Ashlei and her boyfriend spent the night at her mom’s house in the family room in sleeping bags — giving a whole new meaning to the phrase being “off like a prom dress.”
I know a guy who displayed his Knights of Columbus Color Guard sword to his daughter’s Prom date. She said she never saw him again.
Proving once again that some “parents” are just too dumb for words.
The solution to this, of course, is more classes for kids on how to have sex. That and free condoms.
It is shocking to think that teens are having sex.
The parents didn’t know? Horse feathers. They know, but don’t want to think about it. One evening we were at a neighbor’s house while their teenaged kids were watching a show on ABC Family Network (family??) called Kyle XY. The premise was kind of interesting, sort of sci-fi, but the storyline was atrocious: kids having sex, talking about having sex, parents knowing about all of this and providing condoms (instead of guidance). This was just ONE episode. On a network that calls itself ABC FAMILY.
So any kids watching this cr*pola no doubt think they’re somehow not in fashion if they’re not having sex.
I know I’m older than dirt, but when I was a kid, if I had behaved this way, and my parents found out about it, I’d have been sent off to the convent school to get my priorities straight.
But glorified on a channel that is supposedly for FAMILY? I shudder at the thought.
This topic - teenage daughters and their dates - came up at a dinner Saturday night.
One man said he always made sure he was feeding items into the wood chipper when the date arrived!
no. what’s shocking is that a greater number of teens are having promiscuous, meaningless hookup sex, outside of the context of a relationship, at earlier ages than in the past. teenagers have always had sex. they have not always been utter sluts, as a large percentage of them appear to be today.
Daughter’s father to prom date: Do you believe in life after death?
Prom date: Why yes, why do you ask?
Father: Because if you even touch my daughter tonight, your belief in the afterlife will immediately tested.
You just have to raise your daughters right. When my 17-year-old invited her boyfriend to go bowling last weekend, she said she was bringing her younger brother along, and suggested her boyfriend bring his. And when she went to the movies with him a few weeks ago, she took the “Federalist Papers” in her pocket, “just in case I get bored.”
If any of the girls were under 18, did she turn the photos over to the police?
How about the evidence of underage drinking?
“oh but what will their parents think”
It is part of the growth process to rebel and explore. I think one problem is that many parents make it so taboo to even discuss these issues that as soon as the child is free, the go nuts rebelling. We had a joke about a local Baptist University. You always knew who the sluttiest kids where, they were the ones w/ the most oppressive parents. The kids of the parents who actually were open and discussed issues were the ones most likely to wait until marriage. This isn’t about sex, but drinking, drugs, you name it...
APPLICATION FOR PERMISSION TO DATE MY DAUGHTER
NOTE: This application will be incomplete and rejected unless
accompanied by a complete financial statement, job history, lineage,
and current medical report from your doctor.
NAME_____________________________________ DATE OF BIRTH_____________
HEIGHT___________ WEIGHT____________ IQ__________ GPA_____________
SOCIAL SECURITY #_________________ DRIVERS LICENSE #________________
BOY SCOUT RANK AND BADGES____________________________________________
HOME ADDRESS_______________________ CITY/STATE___________ ZIP______
Do you have parents? ___Yes ___No
Is one male and the other female? ___Yes ___No
If No, explain:
______________________________________________________________
Number of years they have been married ______________________________
If less than your age, explain
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
ACCESSORIES SECTION:
A. Do you own or have access to a van? __Yes __No
B. A truck with oversized tires? __Yes __No
C. A waterbed? __Yes __No
D. A pickup with a mattress in the back? __Yes __No
E. A tattoo? __Yes __No
F. Do you have an earring, nose ring, __Yes __No
pierced tongue, pierced cheek or a belly button ring?
(IF YOU ANSWERED "YES" TO ANY OF THE ABOVE, DISCONTINUE APPLICATION
AND LEAVE PREMISES IMMEDIATELY. I SUGGEST RUNNING.)
ESSAY SECTION:
In 50 words or less, what does "LATE" mean to you?
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
In 50 words or less, what does "DON'T TOUCH MY DAUGHTER" mean to you?
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
In 50 words or less, what does "ABSTINENCE" mean to you?
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
REFERENCES SECTION:
Church you attend ___________________________________________________
How often you attend ________________________________________________
When would be the best time to interview your:
father? _____________
mother? _____________
pastor? _____________
SHORT-ANSWER SECTION:
Answer by filling in the blank. Please answer freely, all answers
are confidential.
A: If I were shot, the last place I would want shot would be:
______________________________________________________________
B: If I were beaten, the last bone I would want broken is my:
______________________________________________________________
C: A woman's place is in the:
______________________________________________________________
D: The one thing I hope this application does not ask me about is:
______________________________________________________________
E. What do you want to do IF you grow up? ___________________________
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
F. When I meet a girl, the thing I always notice about her first is:
______________________________________________________________
F. What is the current going rate of a hotel room? __________________
I SWEAR THAT ALL INFORMATION SUPPLIED ABOVE IS TRUE AND CORRECT TO
THE BEST OF MY KNOWLEDGE UNDER PENALTY OF DEATH, DISMEMBERMENT,
NATIVE AMERICAN ANT TORTURE, CRUCIFIXION, ELECTROCUTION, CHINESE
WATER TORTURE, RED HOT POKERS, AND HILLARY CLINTON KISS TORTURE.
_________________________________________________________
Applicant's Signature (that means sign your name, moron!)
_______________________________ ________________________________
Mother's Signature Father's Signature
_______________________________ ________________________________
Pastor/Priest/Rabbi State Representative/Congressman
Thank you for your interest, and it had better be genuine and
non-sexual. Please allow four to six years for processing.
You will be contacted in writing if you are approved. Please do
not try to call or write (since you probably can't, and it would
cause you injury). If your application is rejected, you will be
notified by two gentleman wearing white ties carrying violin cases.
(you might watch your back)
Parents are too busy chasing the $$$$ and their “quality” time consists of teens telling parents what they WANT to hear as they cruise through life doin as THEY PLEASE.
Did he save that old boot for a large stick to push into the wood chipper, with some hamburger, as the date arrived? Works like a charm.
Of course, the libido is lessened by a litany of leprous SIDs.
Even when it was criminal?
Used to be a crime. Now those who are under age can consent even though they are “too young” to consent.
They can even consent to someone over the age of majority if they are near in age.
And that goes for homosexuals too so what they said about Lawrence v. Texas was a lie. It wasn’t just about consenting ADULTS in private, it was for anyone. And considering the public sex homosexuals engage in and the public school recoginition of homosexuals, it wasn’t about being in private either.
Slippery slope. Don’t be surprised by the results at the bottom in the gutter.
LoL- when my wife and I first started dating, my future Father in Law and Brother in Law took me skeet shooting, freaked my wife out that they were taking me out w/ shotguns. The whole dynamic changed though when I out-shot both of them.
“She was developing pictures last month when she spotted some familiar faces — teenage girls she has known since they were in kindergarten — in an X-rated spring break adventure.”
Now, I realize parents can’t control everything their kids do, as we can’t be everywhere with them, but sending your kids off on a “spring break adventure” is a bad idea. When my kids are that age, I will not be funding or allowing any spring break or poorly chaperoned senior trips. I can’t control these things once they’re of legal age, living elsewhere, and making their own money, but until all of those apply, they’re living by our rules. They may not like me so much for a few years in high school, but I can live with that. Wow, I sound like my parents ... scary.
Oh I am not suprised
Of course, the “rebellion” is a challenge to do “more” of whatever everyone else is doing.
Whether you are a sports star, pop star, movie star, or “most popular” it is all about being known these days.
ABC Family’s parent company is DISNEY, so in a sense that was A Disney channel. Walt is doing summersaults in his grave.
My daughter recently turned 15 and on her bday, she wanted to invite her new crush to our home. Well, she also has two older brothers and three older cousins, one who is a young Marine. They were also at her b’day party; all five of them. They got wind that she had extended the boy an invite and they gathered in our back yard to wait for him. I allowed the fellow to come because there was parental supervision; however, I did not realize “the boys” had schemed to interrogate and basically terrify the kid. The boy came over and they all hung out in the back yard for a while...together. I’ve been told the young fellow that my daughter invited is now too scared to even glance her way. I’ve been told he’s also warned others. Our phone doesn’t ring so much lately.
I guess it comes across that I am suprised teens are having sex these days, I am not at all, cause I know how young people are, I was there once and yes I am still young, but I have grown up, got married and had a family
My prom date naked in our hotel room, her dress crumpled on the floor and her nubile body writhing on the bed in sexual gratification.
And me. Down in the hotel lobby, hanging out with my friends.
Good times!
You are so right. Did people learn nothing from what happened during a poorly chaperoned "spring break adventure" in Aruba?
And that is also shocking.
No kidding. If Walt could come back and take a look at his company, he wouldn’t recognize it.
ok, you aren’t shocked by the continual debasing of our society. i get that. how cosmopolitan and worldy of you.
I am a guardian appointed by the court. The girls in my custody will not date outside of parental supervision until they are 18. Tough.
If the children and the parents involved don’t think it was a big deal, is it really anyone else’s concern?
I prefer to call it just plain seeing things how they actually are, vice cosmopolitan and worldly.
and you know, i think most everyone on this thread, myself included, live in the real world, see things for how they really are and just LAMENT the fact. that’s all. i have teenagers, i know very well what the situation is these days as compared to when i was a teenager. and it is sad.
Everything changes, our morals aren’t the same as they were 200yrs ago or even 50 yers ago, and they will probably be different 100 yrs from now. It’s just the way of the world.
when moral relativism is extant, yes.
No, I guess not for those who have already given their souls over to Satan.
Yeah, “ABC Family” is way out there these days. I remember when it first appeared and I knew it as the station that would actually still show the old Rankin-Bass Christmas specials. Now it’s the home of bilge like “Greek” and the station’s tagline is “ABC Family: A New Kind of Family.”
Even when it isn’t. You don’t really expect things to not change over the years, do you?
??? teenagers having sex means they have turned their souls over to satan?
morality has not always been in steady decline over the ages, there are ups and downs. i do not think it is inevitable that morals decline.
You still tell them. Parents have a responsibility to teach their children to make good choices.
Perhaps, as you say, this is just one of the down periods.
And the kids knowing the parents know they are watching the show is like an “okay” from the parents. That’s how kids think.
Oh I know and there’s some good kids out there that will listen....
This promiscuity at such an early age actually stunts their brain development, not to mention their emotional development.
They become unable to have a truly physically and emotionally intimate relationship in the future.
I once read that Paris Hilton said that all her boyfriends complained that, when they had sex, she “wasn’t there.” She said that was because it was in fact a meaningless act to her; she could talk on the phone while it was occurring and not miss anything.
Even Paris Hilton was smart enough to chalk it up to becoming emotionally numb due to longtime promiscuity. She then said she was going celibate for a year, which she prompted reneged on, just out of habit.
This is what these children are signing up for: eventually a lifetime of relative emotional numbness, where they can never truly connect with another human in an emotionally intimate way.
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